How to Convert a Motivated Seller’s “NO” Into a EMPHATIC “YES!”

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When you are out in the field, or on the phone screening callers, it can sometimes become a frustrating experience putting forth so much effort and writing a ton of offers to only be told “No!” when it comes to agreeing on a price that works with both parties.

Think about it, you spend a good chunk of funds every month for marketing, then someone has to filter the calls and figure out which ones are motivated enough or have a situation that works with your business model.

From there you can either choose to negotiate directly on the phone (not my personal preference), or more commonly you will go on an appointment to meet with them in person.

After all that work it takes to generate qualified leads, field the calls, and build rapport with the seller hearing the word “NO”  over and over can be a little bit discouraging lets be honest.

But get used to it, real estate investing is ultimately a numbers game.

Change Your Mindset

When I first started the word “NO” it felt like an impassable brick wall, steadfast and impossible to overcome.

However, after implementing some of the tricks that I will talk about in this post, the word “No” becomes more of a temporary obstacle in most situations, rather than an impossible feat to overcome.

Related: 5 Ways You May Need to Change Your Real Estate Mindset

Now you have to understand, I am not being pushy or putting on my sales person hat in order to “convert” the lead. I simply understand the flow of time and how it can impact the motivation level of a seller.

The Flux of Time

Time is in a constant ebb and flow, and all situations change through time, and many times in your favor in real estate investing IF you are patient and persistence.

If they initially contacted you because they inherited a home 3,000 miles away that has been abandoned for 5 + years, chances are they will need to sell it at a discount even if they initially say “NO” to your first offer.  Remember, all circumstances change through time.

Perhaps when you initially make the offer they have an unrealistic expectation of the market, how much the house is worth and how much the house will truly need in repairs and rehab to reach that number.

In my previous article I mentioned “red flag” events that light the metaphorical fire under the sellers feet whether it be delinquent taxes, foreclosure, liens etc. Any of these factors, through time, can contribute to the seller changing their mind.

Remember YOU cannot change the sellers mind, they must have a trigger event, or “red flag”, so don’t pester them and try to force a yes out of them, it will just turn them off and they will be less likely to do business with you.

The Good News

Follow up is the key component in this equation that will ultimately help you land more deals.

When it comes to motivated sellers, they often have reasons as to why they are looking to deal with you as a real estate investor instead of a traditional sale retail sale.  When and if the seller does change their mind you want to make sure that you and your company are the first they recall.

Related: Motivated Sellers: How To Get Them To Say Yes When Normally They’d Say No

How can you do this?

Even after I have been told “NO” on my offer I continue my direct mail campaign with the individual, or perhaps I will send them a friendly follow up email every several months or so. I don’t pester them, just enough so that they will remember me when the time is right.

And when the time is right, I will be there to help them.

Do you have any experiences where you’ve done this and got a deal from it?

Be sure to leave your comments below!

About Author

Chris Feltus

Chris is an active real estate investor who buys and flips houses in the Dallas real estate market. He enjoys helping others along on their journey. In addition, Chris operates as a licensed Realtor in the Dallas-Fort Worth area.


  1. Chris, this is great!

    I come from the financial planning field, and my manager who supervised 20 $300K or more gross annual income financial planners had a sign on the wall,

    “Follow up 10 times with every prospect or quit working here.”

    Another is “Persistence in prospecting is the #1 key to self employment.”

    Another, “If I don’t prospect, I don’t eat.”

    Until the house sells, I follow up, even if they tell me FOAD. Dont ask me what the acronym means. lol

    Post cards, texts, phone calls, even a bouquet of flowers and a written offer.

    Follow up or die.

    • Hey Brian, thanks I appreciate it.
      Your manager certainly has a hardcore approach, but he is right, follow up is key especially in this business. I basically continue mailing unless they ask to be removed from the list.

  2. “hardcore”
    If you fail, is that ok?
    My metric is how many sellers have I presented to in person.
    I set a goal of 5 Seller Presentations per week.

    Are you going to go “on the field of business” to “try” or to “do”?
    I operate my business to win, not to try.
    Just like how I play lacrosse, to win.
    Score goals and stop the opposition from scoring.

    “Effort without results is meaningless”
    Know your metrics.

  3. Lisa Phillips

    Great article! This is a very good mindset to have, “NO is more of a temporary obstacle than permanent objection” I can take this advice to other aspects of real estate business as well. Just wait ’em out 🙂

    • Hey Lisa,

      Thanks for the nice comments, much appreciated. Yes I found changing my mindset to viewing “no” as a temporary objection as you described to be quite helpful. Roadblocks and setbacks will inevitably happen, but changing your outlook can help you work through them and make the most of any opportunity. When I hear the word “NO” right now, the way I hear it in my mind is “not right now” and thats ok, I am working on their time table not my own. If you are patient and genuinely do your best to help them, often times when they are ready, you will be the first they contact again.

      Take Care

  4. Eric Blanchard on

    Thanks for the article Chris. Your advice works in all kinds of fields. I did door-to-door sales for a while, and learned that the same person on a different day was a different person. The grumpy Gus who chased me out the door would sometimes buy from me several weeks later!

    • Hey Eric, thanks for stopping by! Yes you are exactly right in addition to WHO you hit the TIMING can be equally important, as you found. Sometimes it just comes down to luck in regards to timing, but the more consistent you are, the “luckier” you become!

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