@Dwayne Gland - If you don't want to pay HML rates your personal network would be the best source.
True private money lenders are people you know that believe in you and are willing to loan you money. You don't find them on the internet. As you're finding, anyone who advertise or responds to requests is probably a hard money lender. To find private money, talk to everyone you know and everyone you meet about what you're doing. Some of them will have money. Some of those, once you have a relationship, will be willing to lend to you. It takes time.