I was listening to a program recently and the hosts were talking about mentors; specifically about the people in their lifetime that had actually changed their life. What these folks were talking about in most cases was someone that listened to them, valued them, had given them crucial information or a “chance” at something. They went on to say in great detail how that encounter had set them on a specific life changing path.
I started to think back over my life and all the people that had influenced me so profoundly that they shaped who I am today. Who was it that had such power and influence over me that they had actually changed the course of my life? What had I learned from them?
If you do this exercise, you will most likely find many people in your past life that changed you in some way. There will be those folks that will have influenced you to make small changes. There will be others that will have been responsible either directly or indirectly for profound shifts in the direction that your life took.
All of these people and events whether good or bad, end up helping mold you into the person you are today. They can also cause major shifts in the direction of your business.
I used to own rental property until a couple of years ago. I got a late start by most standards, and I never really enjoyed that part of my real estate business. But I just kept plugging along with those few properties that I owned. After all, that’s what you are supposed to do or so I thought. Every time I thought about buying more houses, I found a reason to wait.
One day I sat and talked with my friend and mentor Mike. Mike has a large portfolio of rental properties himself, and he has built a very successful rental business. I was talking with him about frustration with my tenants and the properties when he said something that changed the course of my life. He said, “Sharon what you have is a painful hobby. You either need to build your portfolio so that it is much larger or get out of the rental business”. At that very moment, I knew what the answer was for me. I just wanted out. In effect, Mike did something for me that I hadn’t been able to do myself; he gave me permission to change course.
Is there someone in your life that has been responsible for putting you on a path to massive change? If there is, you should celebrate that person.
Paying It Forward
It takes time and patience to mentor a person especially when you are so busy yourself. But it can bring huge rewards both to you and the person you choose to mentor. I always chuckle when real estate investors say, “they’re not about to give away their secrets to their competition”. There may be some parts of your business that you keep just for yourself but there is just so much to be gained by sharing your knowledge. One of those things gained is that you start to be seen as an expert in your field. Plus, it just feels good to help a struggling investor get started. Who knows, maybe someday you will be the one credited for changing a life.
Enjoy Your Moments
At the close of the program I was listening to, one of the hosts told everyone what she considered to be the most valuable piece of advice her mentor had given her over the years.
This is what she said:
“You need to enjoy this moment in your life – you need to remember each place that you get to. Because, things only happen” the first time once”.
In other words, take time to enjoy your firsts whether it is the birth of your first child, your first big business break, or another “first” in your life. Quit rushing toward the finish line without enjoying each moment of the journey. Now that’s some great advice.