For example, I may want a vinyl plank flooring, but in my home I might be pickier about the colour than I would in a rental. 

The houses on either side look to be a similar colour to your house. 

We all have to strike a delicate balance between offering educational material and offering advice (which we cannot do). 

Eric Hu w/ Home Advantage Inspections is my #1 go-to.

@Amy Hu the only drawback with mini splits is their ability to heat inside when it’s below freezing outside http://www.daikinac.com/content/assets/DOC/SubmittalDataSheets/072017/MultiZone/2MXL18QMVJU-Submittal-Sheet.pdfIf you go with daikin, I would recommend their “enhanced capacity” line.

roof and ac are a must for sure, second question is since we are gonna live there that means one family will have to leave and we have to decide which side we want so how do we approach this in the most delicate manner?

I *DO NOT* have any experience with discussing distressed properties, so maybe take my 2 cents with multiple grains of salt...I DO, however, have experience with cold calling and door knocking for insurance sales, and I am a 10 year veteran 911 operator who has experience with communicating delicately!

It's a delicate conversation sometimes, but my subs are always appreciative when I can tell them, "all my bids were within 5%" versus "One bid was twice and much, and one was half as much."  

But it's a delicate line in today's mortgage lending world.If you are interested, I could send you some more info about the HECM loan. 

@Sam Leon, I have gotten many ugly pink and peach coloured tub tile surrounds to neutral colors for my clients.