You can get these lists from someone with a CoStar subscription or from price-conscious sites like listsource.com. 

In the case of buyers, although they may not consciously consider the quality of marketing materials into their choice of buyer's agent, it certainly plays a role in how they subconsciously form their opinion of you.With that said, there are so many different websites that offer very well designed and easy to edit templates for free, so a designers portfolio would really need to knock my socks off for me to be willing to pay for the design aspect alone.The more "full-service" offering, however, is something I definitely think you could have success with if packaged correctly.  

I used to own a luxury car (inherited) and felt pressured to then have a lifestyle that fit the car...

To each his own, but when you can do what Cory described in this post, it's an incredible way to invest for the long term that I think offers very appealing lifestyle options.

Anyway, your marketing should be targeted to motivated sellers, preferably ones that aren't credit conscious, then just make offers. 

That being said living a militaristic life style for 7 years I don't want to be an employee.

You also build more value in the transaction than just price - it becomes a lifestyle solution instead of you simply trying to snag a house.

They eagerly help me with transactions on the phone without an appointment and never ask for a penny in return, true mentors.Their character and integrity are exemplified without conscious effort and that says something.

My idea of being able to "afford" it generally means that I'm not going to notice that money being gone, and that I'm not going to change my day-to-day lifestyle to accommodate it.I believe people should spend their money on those things that will make them happy long-term.

Cashflow increases your lifestyle.