The Importance of Mindset During Transition

I think the most important thing when people are going through this transition is to be aware of the different phases of transition that anyone goes through, no matter what type of transition they're actually going through. Because very often we might think, “Oh, I'm all alone in this. I don't know what I'm doing.” Actually, so many of us go through these same phases. The first one is often the feeling of loss, right? It's this idea that we have to let go of whatever has been, whatever was and who maybe we were. The second phase is often a time of going within, of trying to actually work out, “Okay, I've made all this space. I’ve let go of the previous lies. What's going on in here and what do I actually want to do that's meaningful to me? What is in this space that I've made, where I'm starting to explore myself a little more?” The third step is really, “Okay, now I know where I want to go. How do I actually get there?” We get ready to educate ourselves again, ready to get out there in the world and stop talking about what we're trying to do. I think it's super important to remember that that middle phase of taking the time to understand why we're doing this, what is it that we want to create in the next chapter is so necessary and so few of us actually take the time to do it. I'd encourage everyone to really reflect and really take that time to slow down and gain a little perspective.

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I think in terms of timing, it's hard to say. It's very different from person-to-person. I don't want to give a number of days, weeks, months that people need to slow down. I think we feel it. When that stage happens of needing to understand what's going to be next, there's a sense of not necessarily wanting to be out in the world and we feel when we're ready to go out in the world. I think what really needs to happen during that time, for example is really thinking and reflecting about the why. Why is it that you have decided to go into your real estate investment? Why is it that you've decided to change your life and to let go of that previous career, where you might have got to a very high-level? Clearly something wasn't working.

There's a great book by Marshall Goldsmith. It's called What Got You Here Won't Get You There. It's a really good testament to well, if we want to get to a different place, then we have to act differently. I think in that time, the process is really thinking about what is it that we really want to create and slowing down for a minute, instead of just going, “You know what? I'm just going to talk to as many people as possible and do all the things, do all the things very, very quickly.” It's like, “Well, what is it that I'm trying to create and being very intentional about it?” Really taking the time to choose who is it that I want to learn from? Who is it that I think is doing something similar to what I want to do? What freedom am I trying to create? Because I would imagine, but I would imagine that a lot of people who have decided to create more freedom in their life. What does that look like? What is it that I want to do with that? The reason we want to do that is so that we don't end up being totally consumed by learning everything new and not actually creating that freedom, but instead, doing exactly what we were doing before, just in a different environment, or in a different field.

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