Realtor · Boulder, CO · Member since 2016 · 3k+ posts · 5k+ votes
1y
Well, your post about your new mentor just sounded a lot more like someone was grooming you than mentoring you. Sorry, it's just that mentors don't say those types of things, but Harvey Weinstein types definitely do. So it just set off alarm bells for those of us who have been around the block a few times. I hope we are all wrong, but I wouldn't go anywhere private alone with this mentor if I were you.
Realtor · Boulder, CO · Member since 2016 · 3k+ posts · 5k+ votes
1y
Well, your post about your new mentor just sounded a lot more like someone was grooming you than mentoring you. Sorry, it's just that mentors don't say those types of things, but Harvey Weinstein types definitely do. So it just set off alarm bells for those of us who have been around the block a few times. I hope we are all wrong, but I wouldn't go anywhere private alone with this mentor if I were you.
Investor · Las Vegas, NV · Member since 2013 · 8k+ posts · 10k+ votes
1y
Of course they’ll assume he’s sleeping with her. Why else would that greedy, patronizing, sexual assaulting man help a woman? We know they’re all evil.
Hopefully he remembers to never be in a room alone with you, video records all meetings, and doesn’t offend you by mansplaining how to do anything. Or god forbid use offensive words like mankind. Men didn’t start the MGTOW movement for no reason.
Ps. In as it wasn’t your intent. Your post came off as men need to be told to help women because they keep refusing. That is what you mean by “normalize” right? You’re saying that women get turned down for help by men because they’re woman. And if you believe that. You live in a sad sad world. I’m going to go out on a limb and say you had to ask less men for help than the average man would have had to. I’m just glad the 10th or 20th guy you asked for help finally came through. Hopefully he would t approve of your post, but who knows. Good luck.
Yes—women do face unfair assumptions when mentored by powerful men. That’s real. But if this message is in response to concerns about a specific situation that showed signs of grooming or power imbalance, it’s misleading. It uses a general societal issue to shut down critical thinking about a particular dynamic.
Mentorship should absolutely be normalized and celebrated. But not all mentorship is healthy or safe. If someone raised concerns based on red flags—like manipulation, emotional leverage, or unusually intense personal involvement—this message sidesteps that. It tries to paint skepticism as sexism, when in fact, the skepticism might be rooted in protecting others from harm.
The “we’re building empires, not storylines” line suggests that anyone questioning the dynamic is just making drama. But asking questions is not gossip. It’s how we keep spaces safe, especially for women in male-dominated industries.
When someone uses empowerment language to defend a potentially inappropriate relationship, it discourages other women from speaking up when something doesn’t feel right—because they fear being seen as unsupportive or "part of the problem."
Final Thought:
Empowerment isn't just about getting opportunities. It's about ensuring that those opportunities are authentic, ethical, and free of manipulation. Real support should never require silence, deflection, or spin.
I don't think it matters whether you are a male or female. I can assure you a powerful older female is just as capable of doing this to a young man. You'd be surprised.... but it's probably not as common.
I also have full confidence that the BP community would warn a young man making the same post as you. It would certainly be questioned.
I wish you the best and I want to see you successful.... genuinely....but I could not forgive myself if I did not warn you. It's my obligation as a decent human being. We're just asking you to tread with extreme caution. These promises he's made aren't normal in the real estate community. Especially to someone you don't know. This man does not know you.
You're getting very excited and making posts about someone who hasn't even delivered their promises. It's concerning.
I don't think it matters whether you are a male or female. I can assure you a powerful older female is just as capable of doing this to a young man. You'd be surprised.... but it's probably not as common.
I also have full confidence that the BP community would warn a young man making the same post as you. It would certainly be questioned.
I wish you the best and I want to see you successful.... genuinely....but I could not forgive myself if I did not warn you. It's my obligation as a decent human being. We're just asking you to tread with extreme caution. These promises he's made aren't normal in the real estate community. Especially to someone you don't know. This man does not know you.
You're getting very excited and making posts about someone who hasn't even delivered their promises. It's concerning.
Respectfully, this was not a first meeting — I do know him, and there is more context than what’s been shared publicly. I appreciate your concern, but I’m confident in the connections I’m building and focused on moving forward. Wishing you well.