Sorry I missed the summit

Sorry I missed the summit

Rental Property Investor · Mercer Island, WA · Member since 2008 · 22k+ posts · 14k+ votes

In another thread, McKellar Newsom mentioned my missing the summit. I'm very sorry to have bailed out on everyone who attended. I'd intended to say something sooner.

I've lived here in the Denver area for 13 years now. About ten years ago, my sister (who lives here too) and I persuaded my grandma to move out here from rural MO. She was 82 at the time. Our family farm is about five miles from the nearest town and 70 miles from the nearest city, Springfield. Our folks travel around with their business, so she was alone a lot of the time.

In late January, she took a fall. She went to the ER, but they didn't find anything. In the next week she had two more trips to the ER, but still they found nothing. On the third trip the doctor pretty much said there's nothing wrong other than being 92 and we can't fix that. In early February we moved her to a skilled nursing facility. Thursday a week before the summit she was up and about and doing rehab. On Sunday she asked the CNA if it was OK if she stayed in her bed until she died. Monday before the summit she was non-responsive and she passed the next morning. On Friday of the summit we were back in Missouri laying her to rest.

It was a tough two months. I honestly can't believe that fall was the final straw. She seemed fine right after that, and even went out to eat with us and the great-grand kids the next Saturday. But it was a downward spiral after that. Enjoy your days. Enjoy your loved ones

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Developer · Garland, TX · Member since 2008 · 8k+ posts · 4k+ votes
14y

Thanks for sharing, Jon. And for the reminder of enjoying our family and time here on earth. My parents are in their 80's and my mom was diagnosed with ALS in September. My brother also has serious health problems related to his Muscular Dystophy. Our days are short and we need to redeem our time. Especially with family. A good reminder for me who can become overly focused on REI and business.

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  • Homeowner · Burleson, TX · Member since 2008 · 756 posts · 376 votes
    14y

    Sorry for your loss Jon Holdman. You were definitely missed.

  • Developer · Garland, TX · Member since 2008 · 8k+ posts · 4k+ votes
    14y

    Thanks for sharing, Jon. And for the reminder of enjoying our family and time here on earth. My parents are in their 80's and my mom was diagnosed with ALS in September. My brother also has serious health problems related to his Muscular Dystophy. Our days are short and we need to redeem our time. Especially with family. A good reminder for me who can become overly focused on REI and business.

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    BiggerPockets Founder · HI · Member since 2008 · 16k+ posts · 5k+ votes
    14y

    As I mentioned to you already, Jon Holdman, I did announce to the attendees that you had a loss in the family. Of course, family always comes first, and we managed to cobble together a marketing panel to fill the slot. You were definitely missed, though, as Greg said. We'll make sure to make room for you at any follow up events.

    Thanks for being a part of our BiggerPockets family!

  • Real Estate Investor · Bristol, CT · Member since 2012 · 16 posts · 4 votes
    14y

    Hi Jon,
    Sorry for your loss.
    We recently had similar situation with our grandmother, at first she was complaining about inner ear pain, than she was loosing her balance and it did fall couple times. Doctors were saying same thing old age but family did not give up, it was to rapid in their eyes and finally under family pressure they did MRI and turn up she had multiple mini strokes. She is good now, medicated but good.

  • Rental Property Investor · Mercer Island, WA · Member since 2008 · 22k+ posts · 14k+ votes
    14y

    Thanks for all the good wishes.

    My grandma has an artificial heart valve implanted many years ago and they wired her for a pacemaker at the same time. That precluded doing any MRIs, unfortunately, which the docs at the ER wanted to do. A case where being proactive actually caused problems later. But she made it to 93 and that's quite a life. Still, just seemed like she was going to be around forever.

  • Real Estate Investor · Chattanooga, TN · Member since 2009 · 191 posts · 47 votes
    14y

    Hi Jon,

    Sorry for your loss. Family definitely comes first. I can tell you cared a lot about your grandma.

    You were missed at the Summit but we all understand. Hope to meet you at the Summit next year. mck

  • Landlord · Seattle, WA · Member since 2010 · 3k+ posts · 1k+ votes
    14y

    Sorry for the loss. I'm glad you were able to spend some time with her though before she passed away. It also sounds like she went fairly peaceably which is certainly a blessing for all involved.

    I to hope to be at the next Bigger Pockets Seminar. There is a huge talent pool on Bigger Pockets and so much we can learn from each other.

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