I Used to Think the First Conversation Was the Hard Part

I Used to Think the First Conversation Was the Hard Part

Specialist · Dallas Fort Worth — Texas Cincinnati — Ohio Cleveland — Ohio Columbus — Ohio Jacksonville — Florida Atlanta — Georgia · Member since 2026 · 148 posts · 29 votes

I’m Learning That “Not Now” Doesn’t Always Mean “No”

One thing I’m starting to understand about acquisitions is that the first conversation with a seller, agent, or potential deal source doesn’t necessarily determine whether a deal happens.

Sometimes the timing simply isn’t right.

A seller may not be ready to make a decision. An agent may have other priorities. A potential opportunity might not make sense today but could look completely different a few weeks or months later.

That’s where I think follow-up becomes such an underrated part of acquisitions.

Good follow-up isn’t about constantly asking, “Do you have a deal for me?”

It’s about staying professional, being respectful of someone’s time, and keeping the relationship open without becoming a nuisance.

There’s also a patience component to it.

If every “not right now” is treated as a dead end, you could walk away from opportunities that simply needed more time to develop.

I’m realizing that consistency can build something the first conversation alone can’t: trust.

When people know you’ll actually follow through, communicate clearly, and respect their time, you become someone they’re more comfortable bringing opportunities to.

I’d love to hear from the acquisition managers and wholesalers here:

What’s the longest you’ve consistently followed up with someone before that relationship eventually turned into a successful deal?

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  • Denise SuppleeBusiness Member
    Realtor · Willow Grove, PA · Member since 2017 · 982 posts · 643 votes
    1mo

    So true! A “not now” is not a final answer. Sometimes the timing just isn't right. Staying in touch without being pushy goes a long way, and you never know when that relationship may turn into an opportunity.

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    • Specialist · Dallas Fort Worth — Texas Cincinnati — Ohio Cleveland — Ohio Columbus — Ohio Jacksonville — Florida Atlanta — Georgia · Member since 2026 · 148 posts · 29 votes
      1mo
      Quote from @Denise Supplee:

      So true! A “not now” is not a final answer. Sometimes the timing just isn't right. Staying in touch without being pushy goes a long way, and you never know when that relationship may turn into an opportunity.


       Yes Mrs patience is the key in real estate.

  • Coral Springs, FL · Member since 2018 · 474 posts · 105 votes
    1mo

    Clement, your point about follow-up building trust hits different when you think about what you're actually following up WITH.

    The biggest mistake I see in follow-up is calling back with nothing new to say. "Just checking in" is the fastest way to become the person people screen out. But there's a follow-up approach that completely changes the dynamic: following up with new information about their specific property.

    Here's what I mean. Before your first call, pull three county databases:

    1. Tax Collector — tax delinquency status
    2. Code Enforcement — open violations on the property
    3. Clerk of Court — probate filings, liens, judgments

    When you find a property that shows up on all three (what I call "converged distress"), you have government-confirmed motivation. But here's the key for your follow-up point: county data CHANGES. Tax liens get filed. New code violations get opened. Court records get updated.

    So your follow-up isn't "just checking in" — it's "I noticed a new code violation was filed on your property last week, and I wanted to see if that changed your thinking about what you'd like to do with it." That's a completely different conversation. You're not pestering — you're providing information they may not even know about yet.

    I've seen sellers who said "not now" on the first call become very interested when the county records show their situation is getting worse, not better. The data does the selling for you.

    Denise's patience point is right — but patience without new information is just waiting. Patience WITH evolving county data is strategic positioning. You're not waiting for the seller to change their mind. You're watching for the county records to change the seller's situation.

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