Trying to figure out the proper, best, and alternative routes to making meaningful relationships and wondering what the most effective means is to developing leads that may come along in the probate process. 

My current focus - what is the process once a family member/individual has passed and lets just say in a perfect world probate has been filed and the respective family is now thinking about selling the property. FROM THIS POINT - what usually happens?  Who do they reach out to FIRST (realtor, estate liquidators, or )? As a new real estate agent in Northern Virginia, I'm trying to make these connections, but my immediate thoughts and attemps just involve messaging these business and informing them I'm an agent and that if the respective family is in need of a realtor I'd be happy to work w/ them, but every time I do that, the response I get is "we already have a realtor" or "house was already sold or listed"........and a lot of times I am refresh to the post, so obviously I want to be "there" sooner so I can get the seller listing lead. How do you become that agent who gets these types of leads and therefore listings?