I Used to Think the First Conversation Was the Hard Part

I Used to Think the First Conversation Was the Hard Part

Specialist · Dallas Fort Worth — Texas Cincinnati — Ohio Cleveland — Ohio Columbus — Ohio Jacksonville — Florida Atlanta — Georgia · Member since 2026 · 148 posts · 29 votes

I’m Learning That “Not Now” Doesn’t Always Mean “No”

One thing I’m starting to understand about acquisitions is that the first conversation with a seller, agent, or potential deal source doesn’t necessarily determine whether a deal happens.

Sometimes the timing simply isn’t right.

A seller may not be ready to make a decision. An agent may have other priorities. A potential opportunity might not make sense today but could look completely different a few weeks or months later.

That’s where I think follow-up becomes such an underrated part of acquisitions.

Good follow-up isn’t about constantly asking, “Do you have a deal for me?”

It’s about staying professional, being respectful of someone’s time, and keeping the relationship open without becoming a nuisance.

There’s also a patience component to it.

If every “not right now” is treated as a dead end, you could walk away from opportunities that simply needed more time to develop.

I’m realizing that consistency can build something the first conversation alone can’t: trust.

When people know you’ll actually follow through, communicate clearly, and respect their time, you become someone they’re more comfortable bringing opportunities to.

I’d love to hear from the acquisition managers and wholesalers here:

What’s the longest you’ve consistently followed up with someone before that relationship eventually turned into a successful deal?

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Investor · Austin TX · Member since 2016 · 1k+ posts · 2k+ votes
1mo

That is some great insight. Follow up is one of the most important parts in the acquisitions process. The gurus teach that the first conversation should result in a signed contract, but that is a rarity in this climate. Following up consistently is the best thing you can do to increase the number of deals you close is maintain consistent follow ups. 

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  • Investor · Austin TX · Member since 2016 · 1k+ posts · 2k+ votes
    1mo

    That is some great insight. Follow up is one of the most important parts in the acquisitions process. The gurus teach that the first conversation should result in a signed contract, but that is a rarity in this climate. Following up consistently is the best thing you can do to increase the number of deals you close is maintain consistent follow ups. 

    • Specialist · Dallas Fort Worth — Texas Cincinnati — Ohio Cleveland — Ohio Columbus — Ohio Jacksonville — Florida Atlanta — Georgia · Member since 2026 · 148 posts · 29 votes
      1mo
      Quote from @Lydia R.:

      That is some great insight. Follow up is one of the most important parts in the acquisitions process. The gurus teach that the first conversation should result in a signed contract, but that is a rarity in this climate. Following up consistently is the best thing you can do to increase the number of deals you close is maintain consistent follow ups. 


       Yes Mrs Lydia people of nowadays don't understand the importance of follow-ups they feel that once a seller does not answer it is a bad lead and that is not so. Once again I appreciate your reply.

  • Englewood, NJ · Member since 2018 · 356 posts · 60 votes
    2w

    Clement, Lydia's point about consistency is spot on — but I want to add a layer that most people miss about follow-up.

    The question isn't just HOW OFTEN you follow up. It's WHAT you follow up with.

    Think about it from the other side. You're a seller or an agent. You get a follow-up that says "just checking in" or "any deals for you yet?" That's noise. After the third one, you're screening the calls.

    But what if the follow-up looked like this: "Hey, I pulled county data this week and found a property in your market that shows up on the tax delinquent list, has 3 open code enforcement violations (the county documented $18,000 in repairs), and has a probate filing at the clerk's office. Three separate government databases confirming the same property is in distress. Wanted to see if this fits what you're looking for."

    That's a follow-up someone actually wants to receive.

    Here's the thing — the data to write that follow-up is free and public in every county:

    - Tax Collector: tax delinquent properties (can't pay taxes = motivated)
    - Code Enforcement: violations with dollar-amount repair costs (county estimated the rehab for you)
    - Clerk of Court: probate, liens, lawsuits (life events creating motivation)

    When the same property appears on all three lists, that's "converged distress" — three independent government sources confirming the same property. You don't need to guess if someone's motivated. The data tells you.

    Since you cover DFW, Cincinnati, Cleveland, Columbus, Jacksonville, and Atlanta — every single one of those counties has publicly searchable records for all three databases. You could pull converged distress properties in each market every week and use THAT as your follow-up content.

    Lydia said consistency builds trust. I'd take it one step further: consistency with substance builds trust. Following up every week with "just checking in" is persistence. Following up every week with a specific county-data-backed property is value. One gets you screened. The other gets you the deal.

    The longest follow-up I've seen work? Someone who sent a seller a county data snapshot every 30 days for 8 months. No pressure, no "are you ready yet?" Just data. Month 9, the seller called and said "I think it's time." That's what patience with substance looks like.

  • Remington LymanBusiness Member
    Real Estate Agent · Columbus, OH · Member since 2017 · 6k+ posts · 7k+ votes
    2w
    Quote from @Clement Oigoga Adams:

    I’m Learning That “Not Now” Doesn’t Always Mean “No”

    One thing I’m starting to understand about acquisitions is that the first conversation with a seller, agent, or potential deal source doesn’t necessarily determine whether a deal happens.

    Sometimes the timing simply isn’t right.

    A seller may not be ready to make a decision. An agent may have other priorities. A potential opportunity might not make sense today but could look completely different a few weeks or months later.

    That’s where I think follow-up becomes such an underrated part of acquisitions.

    Good follow-up isn’t about constantly asking, “Do you have a deal for me?”

    It’s about staying professional, being respectful of someone’s time, and keeping the relationship open without becoming a nuisance.

    There’s also a patience component to it.

    If every “not right now” is treated as a dead end, you could walk away from opportunities that simply needed more time to develop.

    I’m realizing that consistency can build something the first conversation alone can’t: trust.

    When people know you’ll actually follow through, communicate clearly, and respect their time, you become someone they’re more comfortable bringing opportunities to.

    I’d love to hear from the acquisition managers and wholesalers here:

    What’s the longest you’ve consistently followed up with someone before that relationship eventually turned into a successful deal?

    7 years

  • Real Estate Broker · Cleveland Dayton Cincinnati Toledo Columbus & Akron, OH · Member since 2013 · 30k+ posts · 20k+ votes
    1w

    One of the oldest rules in sales / marketing is that it takes 7 touches to seal the deal.

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