Do I have to let go of my integrity to be successful?

Do I have to let go of my integrity to be successful?

Real Estate Agent · Bay City, MI · Member since 2018 · 35 posts · 13 votes

I made the leap and invested in my first property in October of this year.  My plan is to live in this home for a year, to satisfy mortgage requirements, then rent it out.  I still own my previous home that I am planning on renting out.  There are some renovations needed before I can get market rent out of that home.

Which leads me to my current conundrum.  My original source of renovation funds is no longer viable and using my J.O.B. income will require an extension of the renovations timeline and carrying costs.

I know there are a few different ways to earn money in real estate that don’t require you to have credit and/or cash, like Wholesaling, Lease Option, Subject To, etc.  I am currently in discussions with a seller on a potential Subject To deal.  However I'm having difficulty reconciling those aspects of real estate investing with my own personal ethics.

I know Wholesaling requires both the intent to fulfill the terms of the purchase contract, as well as the means to do so, even if you ultimately end up assigning the contract to another investor. I have the intent, but not the means. I don’t have the cash to put another down payment on a property, which are required for Lease Option and Subject To deals.

So what now?  How can I put homes under contract knowing I can’t afford to close on the properties?  How do I make money to fund the renovations and still hold myself to my own personal ethics?  I can't bear disappointing a seller who is relying on me to help them.

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Jay HinrichsBusiness Member
Real Estate Consultant · Summerlin, NV · Member since 2014 · 45k+ posts · 66k+ votes
7y

Use the same time and effort and get licensed and make commissions.. that's legal in every state and moral and ethical.

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  • Jay HinrichsBusiness Member
    Real Estate Consultant · Summerlin, NV · Member since 2014 · 45k+ posts · 66k+ votes
    7y

    Use the same time and effort and get licensed and make commissions.. that's legal in every state and moral and ethical.

  • Investor · Columbus, GA · Member since 2014 · 2k+ posts · 1k+ votes
    7y

    @Amber K. Without integrity, there is no way to be successful long term.  If you are wholesaling, it is very important that you tell the seller your intentions. Be transparent about what you do and how you are helping them sell their property. Nobody expects you to work for free. Tell them what happens if you cannot find an end buyer. Personally, I think you should focus on buying and holding rental property. Your personal residence is probably not a great rental. A great rental comes from buying below market and renting it for market. One of these will not change your life, but 10 will. If you can buy 3 or 4 as a package from an existing landlord, this will move the needle for you. You will need 25% down for a commercial loan or get the seller to carry back financing for the 25%. These types of deals are out there, but not easy to find. I believe they will be more abundant as baby boomers retire. 

  • Darrin CareyPro Member
    Lender · Dayton, OH · Member since 2008 · 1k+ posts · 705 votes
    7y

    By my definition, if you lose your integrity, you are not successful.

  • Guy with Great Hair · Austin, TX · Member since 2013 · 2k+ posts · 4k+ votes
    7y

    you've only mentioned one small means of production, just go do something else and be successful.

    there are LOTS of things people do for money all the time that I'm unwilling, many time because of ethics, it doesn't slow me down at all. Just go towards another approach.

    also, as

    @Anthony Dooley said perfectly: without integrity, there is no way to be successful long term.

  • Attorney, CPA, Broker & Author · Scottsdale, AZ · Member since 2018 · 532 posts · 488 votes
    7y

    @Amber K. No !  Please don't !

  • Rental Property Investor · DFW, TX · Member since 2013 · 953 posts · 910 votes
    7y

    I understand why you wrote this post and pose this question but it is insulting to just about everyone on these forums. It infers that if anyone is successful in real estate, they are corrupt or amoral. Do you expect someone to actually say, "Yes, if you want to make it big, do whatever it takes just don't get caught."?

     Just be honest with people and you will be fine. Just because an investment deal goes south or not as planned does not mean anyone involved was acting irresponsibly or fraudulently. 

  • Contractor · Kansas City, MO · Member since 2016 · 55 posts · 21 votes
    7y
    @Amber K. I think Mr. Dooley was correct when he spoke of making your intentions known. A good definition of a Integrity is your word and actions lining up. This can lead one to think even negative actions and words can be integrity but our modern use of the word that has come out of mathematics is obvious to speaker and hearer that integrity refers to a positive alignment like a promise or mission staying on track. I can understand you questioning that role in some real estate transactions. I most certainly think it can be done with integrity and can be a service to a seller and I think that’s really up to you. But I also think if you have conflict in your conscious for any reason then it’s best to stay clear. How does a candy executive work when he knows he’s not aiding the body? How does a sports executive toss around millions and take money from families who enjoy going but could spend that money more wisely? Real Estate is no different. I only bring up this digressing worm hole to maybe help you see there are situations where we bring the integrity to wherever and situations where we personally shouldn’t be in because of our own understanding or beliefs on the matter.
  • Handyman · Pittsburgh, PA · Member since 2018 · 5k+ posts · 13k+ votes
    7y

    @Amber K.

    Integrity means nothing in business. The appearance of integrity is really what's important. You as a businessperson are really a brand. You have to work hard to control your brand's perception, because what your brand really IS doesn't matter, just its perception. Accentuate the positive, minimize and hide away the negative. Do it enough, and you'll develop a lovely schizophrenic ability to forget anything nasty you've done to anyone else in your life. You'll only remember the good things and what you've told yourself over and over again, that you're a good person.

    It's been said repeatedly and self-importantly that you can fool some people all the time, all the people some of the time, but you can't fool all the people all the time.

    What isn't said as often but is nevertheless quite true is that you can fool yourself quite easily and well again and again for your whole life, and that's what really matters. It's really a beautiful concept and speaks volumes about the extraordinary potential of the human mind.

    I'll leave you with this inspiring Biblical quote from our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ: "If you're not cheating, you're not REALLY trying."

  • Rental Property Investor · Portland OR · Member since 2018 · 2k+ posts · 3k+ votes
    7y

    Well, I have a very high degree of ethics and integrity. And I am sucessful. I believe my sucess is because of my integrity. So, yes, you can be sucessful in RE and have integrity. 

    If you feel you need to make more money you dont have to go against your ethics to get there,,

    Also, before you sell your home, learn how to analyze your financial decisions so you understand what your choices mean

  • Minneapolis, MN · Member since 2017 · 40 posts · 70 votes
    7y
    @Jim K. 😂😂😂😂 That was epic and hilarious!!!
  • Investor / Broker · Brooklyn, NY · Member since 2016 · 665 posts · 1k+ votes
    7y

    @Amber K.

    I am exactly in the same frame of mind when it comes to what seems to be a play on words in many of these instances where it may seem to be legal because EVERYONE does it and it may be taught by some guru and yet seems very cold hearted and in fact, IS ILLEGAL.

    I'll give an example from the pre-Crisis days that really upset me, but was very common practice.

    I had joined a Real Estate Club, formerly called Cash Flow NYC, where the members were presenting deals.

    The way the deals worked was that someone had to be a "Credit Partner" who would be paid $10k to basically put their name on the loan as an owner occupant.

    Once the property was acquired and rehabbed by the Investor Partners who set up the "Credit Partner," the deed would then be transferred from the "Credit Partner" to the LLC of the ACTUAL Partners, $10k would be given to the "Credit Partner" and that Credit Partner's role was ended.

    This was FAIRLY common and all kinds of people, from Mom and Pop to experienced Real Estate Investors had conducted this.

    Most people believed that Credit Partners was a win-win for everyone.

    The problem here was that the "Credit Partner" is an illegal STRAW Man, who pretended to have the intent to own a property for his own use only to defraud a Mortgage Company.

    But this was fairly common practice and was done ALL THE TIME.

    When the financial crisis hit, the major players who ran this scheme was put in to jail as the Investors lost money from their properties. Those Investors were silent partners and did not really understand what they were doing.

    Most of those Investors were also guilty of signing a waiver as an Accredited Partner, which is needed to buy shares in a Private Corp.

    The list of fraud went on and on.

    I quit attending REIAs and other organizations which preached these kinds of "alternative" ways of funding your real estate investments.

    These things go on day after day, year after year, and while it's illegal, people get away with it as long as everyone is making money.

    Anyway, that's what I was seeing when I started reaching out to these Real Estate Network meetings. So I stopped going and started my own Group of Students, teaching them the RIGHT way to make money without losing your Ethics and Integrity.

    SO... what is the right way?

    Be as educated as possible to take advantage of a situation that arises legally.

    For instance, in 2008, I saw a building 2 doors down from one of my 4 Family Investment buildings for sale.

    The only problem was while this building had the same number of floors, it was selling as a 3 Family because the 1st and 2nd floors were combined into 1 unit.

    The first thing I do when I asked for an appointment is go directly into the basement and look at the meters.

    What I observed was 4 Gas Meters and 5 Electric Meters.

    I didn't bother looking at any of the other floors because I knew the entire building would need to be gut renovated.

    I immediately put in an offer AT ASK and was accept immediately.

    So... what did I know that the seller and his Real Estate Firm didn't know?

    In NYC, you cannot have any more Gas Meters than the number of legal occupancy. There is one RARE exception, and that is when there may be a Gas Meter solely for the building heating unit.

    Since there were 4 Gas Meters, I knew it could either be a legal 3 Family but most probable it is a 4 Family.

    To confirm it was a 4 Family, I looked at the number of electric meters, which were 5 meters. In NYC, you can have only 1 extra Electric Meter for the common electric in the Hallway, basement, front and back yards. You are allowed 1 meter per legal unit as well. SO..... it was DEFINITELY a 4 Family Building.

    The building was selling as a 3 Family. The Comps on 3 Family was lower than Comps for a 4 Family like my own building 2 doors down.

    The Seller didn't know it was a 4 Family because they also Bought it from a previous owner while it was in the 3 Family configuration because it was the previous owner than the current Seller that had already made the conversion.

    The Seller was represented by the biggest and most prestigious Brokerage Firm in the area and yet the Broker/Agent did not know.

    The Appraisal was conducted, but it appraised as a 3 Family as the Appraiser only saw 3 Kitchens.

    The appraiser gave the building the value of the asking price which was $1.2 Million.

    By the time I closed on the Contract, I immediately pulled out the circular staircase from the combined two floors and put in the kitchen that was missing since there were only 3 kitchens in the building prior to my purchase. Now it has 4.

    I then went to take out a 2nd Loan which made me do another appraisal.

    I went to the buildings department and pulled the Certificate of Occupancy, which showed the building as a 4 Family, not a 3 family.

    I handed that Certificate of Occupancy to the new Appraiser.

    The Appraisal came back $350k more than my purchase price even though it was only 2 months ago I closed on the sale.

    I could have immediately flipped it and pocketed that money, free and clear of anything that could have been thought was wrong.

    This was a GREAT deal but ONLY if you were to recognize the opportunity.

    Now, for the real reward.

    After doing about half a million of a gut renovation back then, which was pretty much paid for because I bought it much cheaper than it was and getting the money from the 2nd Lien bank, today, in the year 2018, it is worth $3 Million... roughly $1.5 Million more than I had paid for it with renovations.

    This is JUST 1 of 8 deals that I bought.

    But being more educated than the other side can definitely give you the BIGGEST reward.

    It's funny how the majority of people on here say you can't make money in NYC... and yet I find it to be the easiest and most rewarding way to make money without sacrificing any of my Integrity.

  • Ian WalshBusiness Member
    Lender · Philadelphia, PA · Member since 2016 · 2k+ posts · 1k+ votes
    7y

    If you lose your integrity, you have nothing.  Don't sacrifice that ever.  Do the right thing when no one is looking.  Play within the rules and boundaries of a strong moral compass and win the game with that in mind.  Compromising integrity should feel greasy and it's an attempt to make up for a lack of competency. This is not a personal attack.  This is really how important it is to retain a strong level of integrity. 

  • Rental Property Investor · Ithaca, NY · Member since 2015 · 1k+ posts · 1k+ votes
    7y
    @Amber K. Would you do business with someone with no integrity?
  • Handyman · Pittsburgh, PA · Member since 2018 · 5k+ posts · 13k+ votes
    7y

    @Nick Rutkowski

    In this world, Nick, aren't we all put in situations where we have to deal with people who lack integrity every day?

    Unless you think that the supermarkets where we buy our food don't do things like put wheat products on their shelves that include sawdust fillers, the gas stations never doctor their pumps to register a full gallon every .97 gallons, the waiters have never spit in anyone's food, the pharmacies are always giving you your medicines at a fair price, the public school teachers who care for our children are all passionate professionals instead of CYA pension-seekers, and of course that we have statesmen in political office with clean hands and clear hearts and pure thoughts running through their heads every moment of the day...

    All the hysterical protestations and declarations of extraordinary personal integrity here seem a bit overdone here, don't they? Is this a real estate forum or a seminary ethics discussion group? The investors doth protest too much, methinks...you can all stop clutching at your pearls and insisting you have never deviated once in your life from the path of the righteous man.

  • Member since 2016 · 13k+ posts · 12k+ votes
    7y

    Integrity is holding oneself to a personal standard. You will find that the longer you are in business the more important it is to have standards that are more flexible. Business is all about money and money has no integrity. The more successful you become the more varied your opportunities therefor you must not be too ridged or you will limit yourself. Standards are good to have but do not set them so high that they prevent you from being successful. Be open minded.

    On the other hand you may choose to maintain impeccable standards and simply let some questionably boarder line opportunities pass. It effects no one but yourself. 

  • Handyman · Pittsburgh, PA · Member since 2018 · 5k+ posts · 13k+ votes
    7y

    @Thomas S.

    "Questionable Ethics and Gumby Zen: A practical primer"

    LOVE IT!

  • Rental Property Investor · Portland OR · Member since 2018 · 2k+ posts · 3k+ votes
    7y

    @Jim K.   The fact that you are able to point out various places where ethics fail means that in general business people believe in ethics and the system - if they did not not many deals would get done.  While there ARE thief's and unethical people out there, the majority play by the rules....  otherwise our game called Capitalism would not work.

  • Rental Property Investor · St. Paul, MN · Member since 2016 · 3k+ posts · 3k+ votes
    7y

    The minute you let go of your integrity you are the ultimate failure, no matter you perceived "success." 

    For the wholesaling issue and really most other issues, it is all about disclosure. Let the owner know what you are doing. You are the middle person that finds the property, assesses the value, determines the renovation amount and future value and then you then bring the property to your investors that ultimately will get the contract assigned to them and close. 

    The other option is to close using private money or hard money and then sell it or rehab it yourself. 

  • Joe SplitrockPro Member
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    Rental Property Investor · Sioux Falls, SD · Member since 2015 · 9k+ posts · 18k+ votes
    7y

    @Amber K. 

    Telling the truth is more than just not lying. It is also fully disclosing pertinent details. Such as telling the seller you don't have cash to close and you will be assigning the contract. 

    Treating people fairly is about more than giving them what they want. I had a tenant who worked in the plumbing profession. I asked him how much he wanted to install a water heater. He said $30 which was $10 per hour. That would be grossly underpaying, so I offered him a higher price. I still got a good price and he was treated fairly. The same thing applies to wholesaling. You can pay a good price without paying grossly under value. 

    There is a difference between profit and greed. Profit is a margin for value rendered. Greed is taking more than you deserve.

  • Handyman · Pittsburgh, PA · Member since 2018 · 5k+ posts · 13k+ votes
    7y

    @Mary M.

    "The unquestionable reality that there is catastrophic failure everywhere proves that there is unquestionable general success!"

    You might do well running a banana republic.

  • Investor · Lebanon, PA · Member since 2016 · 62 posts · 65 votes
    7y

    Jim k cheating qoute said by jesus christ.... ??? That might be your neighbor  jesus!!! Integrity is not how and what people see in you, its what and how you see in yourself, if it feels good  in your heart it must be good to do....

  • Rental Property Investor · Portland OR · Member since 2018 · 2k+ posts · 3k+ votes
    7y

    @Jim K. i dont understand your point - are you saying no one has ethics? 

  • Real Estate Agent · Chicago, IL · Member since 2017 · 2k+ posts · 2k+ votes
    7y

    As mentioned above. Just get licensed if you want to be ethical. You will make way more money as a good broker then the average wholesaler and build long term relationships helping people out and being honest. 

    My friends and I go to a lot of networking events and we always joke about how 99% of the "wholesalers" we meet have never done a deal and say they are "just getting started" but 99% of the brokers we meet have at least done a few deals. 

    Bottom line the best way to make money wholesaling it to sell books to newbies with barely any money on how to wholesale LOL 

  • Attorney, CPA, Broker & Author · Scottsdale, AZ · Member since 2018 · 532 posts · 488 votes
    7y

    @Jim K. It's not necessarily a question of whether or not people have ever deviated off the path.  None of us are perfect and we've all made mistakes.

    To me, it's a question of what you do once you realize you have deviated.

  • Handyman · Pittsburgh, PA · Member since 2018 · 5k+ posts · 13k+ votes
    7y

    Mama said there'd be days like this.

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