Neighbor replaced fence before waiting to consult us

Neighbor replaced fence before waiting to consult us

Round Rock, TX · Member since 2019 · 31 posts · 7 votes

My current tenants were out on vacation for a week in early August. When they got back, they noticed one side the backyard fence was replaced and there was a note taped to the backdoor.

The note was the neighbor who live behind my rental. She posted it on the Tuesday my tenants were gone, stating that no matter what she was going to replace the fence. She said she was quoted $2000 and want us to contribute half of the cost. When i saw a picture of the note I was surprise at the tone she had used.

The tenants returned home on Sunday, so the fence was replaced sometime between Wednesday and Saturday. That was a pretty short time frame.

There was no prior communication or notice. The tenants also told us she had never said anything about the fence to them before either. 

Now we were at the rental just late December last year to work with another neighbor, who lived next door (not the lady who lived behind the rental), on fixing a leaning section of the fence between the two houses. 

That neighbor and I did communicated and agreed on getting the fence fixed. We were also able to find an experienced handyman and got the job done for less than $160 (covered new post, cement, three rails, 12 pickets, plus hauling off the old fence and clean up). 

In April we have also stopped by the rental and checked. Fences were looking great. So I don't get why this neighbor couldn't talk to us first before replacing the fence in such a hurry.

I do recall she had some climber that were planted against the fence a year back, as we have helped her trimmed them. She seemed reasonable and nice back then.

Should I be a good neighbor, just go talk to her and explain to her why she should have contacted us before getting the fence done, and still pay $1000? I will need to ask her to show me the work order as well.

*Some of the pickets and rails whoever did the fence were pressure treated lumbers and not even Red Cedar..

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John MorganPro Member
Rental Property Investor · Grand Prairie, TX · Member since 2018 · 2k+ posts · 2k+ votes
1mo

For only a grand on your part and having the neighbor take care of all the logistics, I'd be really happy. Don't sweat the small stuff. 

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  • John MorganPro Member
    Rental Property Investor · Grand Prairie, TX · Member since 2018 · 2k+ posts · 2k+ votes
    1mo

    For only a grand on your part and having the neighbor take care of all the logistics, I'd be really happy. Don't sweat the small stuff. 

    • Jay HinrichsBusiness Member
      Real Estate Consultant · Summerlin, NV · Member since 2014 · 45k+ posts · 66k+ votes
      1mo
      Quote from @John Morgan:

      For only a grand on your part and having the neighbor take care of all the logistics, I'd be really happy. Don't sweat the small stuff. 


      agree with John on this although in my experience and depends on laws of the jurisdiction but fence replacement by a neighbor your not obligated to pay anything unless you agreed in writing to do so.  So its on them ( at least in areas I have had this happen specifically my own personal residence in Oregon. ) If they want to replace the fence they can at their cost they cant force you to contribute anything.  

      So then it boils down to bad blood if you dont and what that could mean.
  • Chris SeveneyBusiness Member
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    Investor · VA · Member since 2015 · 21k+ posts · 19k+ votes
    1mo

    Whose fence is it? Is it on your property line or theirs? Also who "uses" the fence. If one side has pets etc or kids and wants the yard fenced in (or a pool) that also makes a difference. 

    Legally you most likely have no obligation (not an attorney) but it boils down to good will.

    Personally for me, I would most likely not contribute as it was not something it appears they ever conferred with you on.

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  • Real Estate Broker · Northeast PA · Member since 2017 · 2k+ posts · 2k+ votes
    1mo

    A quick call or text to that neighbor should have been made when you first saw the note.  I'd try to maintain a neighborly relationship, but sometimes that's not possible, especially if the neighbor is under stress, like so many folks are today.

    Not communicating or just pretending you didn't see the written request taped to your door by the neighbor is not really a solid solution.

    Totally your decision to contribute to their cause or not.  

  • Real Estate Agent · Memphis · Member since 2026 · 570 posts · 337 votes
    1mo

    I’d talk to her, but I wouldn’t start that conversation by agreeing to the $1,000. She made the decision to replace the fence, chose the contractor and materials, agreed to the price, and completed the work before you had an opportunity to inspect it or discuss alternatives. That’s very different from the situation you had with the other neighbor where you both agreed on the work first.

    I’d ask for the invoice/work order and find out exactly what was replaced and why she believed the entire fence needed replacement. I’d also confirm whose property the fence is actually on and what responsibility you have under the applicable local rules before offering any money. You can still approach her as a good neighbor without automatically accepting half of a bill you never agreed to.

  • Theresa HarrisPro Member
    Member since 2019 · 15k+ posts · 11k+ votes
    1mo

    She decided to get it replaced without asking you or giving you notice, it is honestly up to you if you want to pay for half of it or not.  Also how long is the fence and what is an average cost in your area?  If you are going to pay for part of it, I'd get a copy of the invoice, contact the company that did it and pay for half of the fence that is on the back side of your house (ie only pay for half of what is shared).  If they had all 3 sides replaced and each side was 50 feet, pay for 25 feet.

  • Round Rock, TX · Member since 2019 · 31 posts · 7 votes
    1mo

    The rental belong to my in-laws. They are not in Texas so I help managed it for them.

    The fence is actually on her side of the property line. Oh yeah, when i broke the news to my in-laws they were pretty upset (the wife was too). 

    I will call her and ask for work order, invoice, and why she has decided to replaced it as y'all have suggested, just not to ruin our relationship. Probably will foot the bill instead of involving the in-laws as well.

    Just need to get the frustration out. Thanks y'all! *bow.

  • Member since 2026 · 15 posts · 3 votes
    1mo

    Legally she can't force you to split a cost you never agreed to, especially without prior consultation. I'd request the itemized quote/invoice before even discussing payment. If she couldn't be bothered to talk to you first, that's on her.

  • Ashley B.Business Member
    Specialist · Washington, DC · Member since 2026 · 35 posts · 19 votes
    1mo

    This is a great real-world case study in why unilateral action backfires, even when the underlying need might've been legitimate.

    A few things stand out: she gave notice to your tenants, not you or  your relatives (the owners), with a hard deadline and no actual conversation. Then did the work while your tenants were away and no one could weigh in. That's not really "I informed you," that's "I decided and told you after the fact." Compare that to your December experience with the other neighbor you talked, agreed, found a handyman together, and got it done for $160 total. Same basic problem, completely different outcome, because one process involved actual consent and the other didn't.

    On whether to pay: I wouldn't jump straight to "pay $1,000 to be a good neighbor" that's rewarding the exact behavior (unilateral action, no consultation) you don't want repeated next time something needs fixing back there. I'd go talk to her, but frame it less as "here's my share" and more as a genuine conversation: acknowledge the fence did need work, but be direct that you weren't given the chance to be involved in the decision, the material and quality weren't what you'd have chosen (pressure-treated vs. cedar matters for cost and longevity), and you'd like to see the work order and actual invoice before discussing any contribution. That's not about the money it's about resetting the relationship so this doesn't become the pattern.

    Whatever you land on for the dollar amount, the conversation itself matters more than the number. How this gets resolved is going to shape how she treats you (and your tenants) for years, since you two share a fence line indefinitely. Worth taking the time to get the tone right, even if it costs you a bit more than you think is fair.

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