How to get over fear.

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I am new to REI. I know this is something I want to do. I haven't even started and already am having a bit of fear. Its the networking part that gives me anxiety. I am an introverted person but i am also a get it done kind of person. Any tips on how to get over this fear for a newbie. Is best advice just to put myself in situations and with time I will get comfortable. This is my usual approach but since this is a market I don't know figured id ask seasoned people. Thanks in advance and looking forward to being part of the REI family.

Jeremy Horton · Answer

Experience is the best teacher.

You suck at something. You practice consistently for a long time. Now you're good.

Just do it.

Eric DeNardo · Answer

I’m an introvert as well. What I did to be better at networking is to take baby steps and continuously go to networking events to build up your “social muscle”. I would go into a meet up and have a goal to introduce myself to 3 people. Once I’ve had enough, I would leave early. As I continued to go to events, I got better and it became easier to socialize. Reach out anytime if you have additional questions.

Also, I got really clear on what I want and how I’m going to get there. My goals are more important than my fears!

Journey Toole · Answer

@Wilber Perez

Write down your fears, what are you actually afraid of? Seeing them on paper will help you overcome them. Then write your goals, what do you want to accomplish? Then brainstorm all the ways that that fear can actually come true, if this goes wrong, then this will happen.

Ask yourself, is this really the worst case scenario? What if you never do anything? That’s more scary to me, so what if you fail? Lose a little money, you have a job, make it back. If you fail, you’ll be right where you are again now, just like everyone else you know. Your ceiling is much higher than your floor.

There is a reason being successful is difficult, but if it was easy, everyone would do it.

Chris Seveney · Answer

@Wilber Perez

Fear will always be there but fear is good as getting out of your comfort zone is what leads to growth

Education, experience and making educated decisions understanding pros, cons and risk are important.

Typically where most investors get in trouble is biting off more than they can chew, they get I. Over their head either on taking on too much or starting to early (with no money) and it’s simple to get crushed.

Bob S. · Answer

Yes just do it, get to a local RE meeting and pull your pants up and get to work.

Victor So · Answer

The way I got over fear was by researching as much as I could about real estate through books, podcasts, webinars, etc. and then taking action. I thought about how I could get in with relatively low risk and possible high returns in the future and househacking made sense to me. I househack every year and by doing so, Ive acquired 11 doors. DM me if you have any questions. I'd be happy to help.

Where are you located?

Wilber Perez · Answer

I am located in Chicago area

Cade Edwards · Answer

@Wilber Perez welcome to BP and glad to hear that you're getting involved in real estate! Taking the first step is always the scariest part when it comes to any type of investing. My biggest advice would be to take as much time as you can and explore all options. This website has great recourses for all types of real estate investments. If you need any additional information on services provided or ever want to discuss in further detail please let me know. I wish you all the best on your future real estate investments.

Scott Phillips · Answer

Hi Wilber. I once read that President Kennedy, early in his political career, disliked speaking to groups in public. He overcame the discomfort by adopting a "cocktail mindset" before advancing to the podium. He simply channeled that warm glow that follows a few cocktails and used it to displace any fear while speaking.

In the course of my soon to be former day-job, I have attended many forestry and ag industry events. When I first started, I prepared a list of "conversation starters" to use while networking that touched on the intersection of my work and the interests of people I'd be meeting. This worked great.

Best of luck,

Scott

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