The questions I'm about to propose may be a bit odd and I'm hoping the community can help guide me as I'm feeling a bit lost at this point. Here goes.
So for the past month or so, I've reached out to referrals that I thought was a great start to forming my REI team.
One is a seasoned REI that have many years of experience in RE with multi-million $$$ portfolio and have his own company and also a referral from a good friend of ours. He initially came up really friendly and bought my son and I breakfast and proposed he could help me start out. First he asked me to look for properties online and do my own assessment. I've done exactly as he told me and sent him links to Redfin/Zillow on properties that I thought met my criteria and I would almost do this every other day. Slowly he stop answering my calls and emails.
The other is a good friend of our family. She owns a private investment company and also a RE agent. I honestly thought she would make a great partner as we both shared the same vision of doing real estate to retire early. She recently decided she couldn't do flips due to her financial situation and want to pursue a bye and hold strategy. I told her I'm open to that idea as well given how we initially talked about flipping first to build capital and then do the buy and hold down the road. Now we are at a point where we stop talking about RE period and she gone silent scope so I got the idea. I instead asked her if I can use her private lending company to fund my pursuits and she answered a few questions of mine, but the more questions I send her, the less she responds.
In both situations was I too aggressive to a point where I start to feel I'm nagging? Did I scare both of them away with all my questions and ambition?
Hard to know when you aren't there but it sounds to me like you were being a leach. A very busy investor saying he is happy to help means call him when you have a real deal to analyze and occasionally you ask what you can do to help him. Sending someone a practice deal to analyze every other day was too much. You were asking too much time of an already busy person, especially if he has the impression you will never pull the trigger. I hear your enthusiasm through you post and it sounds like you intentions are good, but selfish and one sided. I suggest laying off a bit then reaching out with an offer of what can you do to help the other person's business. You will learn so much from doing real tasks and he will receive value in helping you.
You have to focus on what they want and how you can help them. Not the other way around. Otherwise you pass a message of being self-centered.
Having said that, if you find a good deal that fits their criteria you should show yourself as determined in getting the deal knocked down.
Thank you guys for your honest responses. These are great advise that I will take great heed on and just to show how much more I have to learn and grow.