Using BiggerPockets to find Help or Partners

Using BiggerPockets to find Help or Partners

Lexington, KY · Member since 2009 · 2k+ posts · 1k+ votes

Hey everyone,

I have just spend the last 30 minutes or so getting caught up on the forums and something really caught my eye...the number of people who come seeking deals/partnerships/HMLs and do not follow basic etiquette or treat people with respect. For anyone using BP to make contacts or find partners I thought I would lay out a list of basic rules to follow (I apologize if this has been brought up lately).

1. Be honest. Not telling the whole truth about yourself, your company or the deal is the quickest way to ruin your reputation on BP. Remember, BP is full of experienced investors and business persons, who can very easily find the BS. If you cannot be honest, why would anyone risk getting involved in anything with you?

2. Expect a lot of questions and answer them openly and to the best of your ability. You are asking people to risk their hard earned money with you, they have a right to ask as many questions as they need to feel comfortable, and your job as someone seeking funds or a partnership is to answer the questions. When you invest in stocks or funds, you can read a prospectus to better understand the purpose/strategy/numbers and any good investor will seek those same answers in a any real estate deal. If you truly have a good deal you should be able to answer the questions and prove it.

3. Know what you are talking about. Make sure you have done all your homework on a deal before you present it to the BP community. People get offended when someone comes seeking money, yet they have only scratched the surface as far as research and due diligence is concerned. Know the deal, know the numbers, know the plan!

4. Do not be easily offended. You have to have thick skin sometimes, and retaliating to questions or accusations in a rude way is not going to help your cause. If someone accuses you of something you have not done, simply explain your case. This is a business, so treat it as so.

I know these are all very basic "rules" but I believe if people thought of these before they posted about deal making, they would see much better results and see that BP is one of the best resources for successful real estate investing.

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J ScottPro Member
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Investor · Sarasota, FL · Member since 2008 · 18k+ posts · 17k+ votes
12y

Btw, just to give everyone an idea of the type of partners I've met on BP, here's a short list:

  • I've found a partner and now good friend who I've worked with on probably 25 deals in different capacities (partnering, lending, listing, buying, staging, etc)
  • I found a partner and now good friend that taught me how to build new construction and who I've started building spec homes with
  • I found an out-of-state partner that I've done nearly 20 deals with
  • I've purchased deals from 4 different BP members
  • I've sold deals to at least 3 different BP members
  • I've borrowed money from 3 BP members
  • I've loaned money to 2 BP members
  • I've found two people who I've mentored
  • I found a GC who has worked on about a dozen projects for me
  • I found a partner that I'm hoping to start building spec homes with in the near future
  • I've found a partner (@Joshua D. ) who has published two of my books

And that doesn't include the dozens of people I've met, keep in contact with, and will likely partner with in some capacity in the years to come (I hope!)...

If anyone has questions about the power of BiggerPockets, re-read my list above. It's probably safe to say that BP has been responsible for putting literally hundreds of thousands of dollars into my pockets.

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  • Investor · Charlotte, NC · Member since 2016 · 59 posts · 14 votes
    10y

    I think this is a great post.It is amazing how sometimes people forget these simple rules.To me building lasting relationships must be based on trust and the other elements that you have named. It is like when you decide to date someone if you observe bs in them you probably won't be going on another date with them. I believe in practicing the same standards in business.

    I have only been a member  for only about a month but I must say that I am truly inspired by the the men and women that I have had a chance to meet. Everybody freely share their time to answer questions and share their experience so I feel we have a duty and responsibility to elevate our standards and practices.Thanks again for the post.

  • Gerald JordanPro Member
    Investor · Columbia, MD · Member since 2014 · 35 posts · 7 votes
    10y

    Very constructive comments in this thread and I totally agree that integrity, honesty, truthfulness and a win win mind set would be the disposition needed to have any dealings with another humanbeing. Regardless of what we are doing with individuals in this business it is in each of us a betterment to the business to have qualities that generate a desire for others to want to work with you, I hope this is my drawing quality so that I'm able to meet with success. Living in abundence, not scarcity. 

  • Silver Spring, MD · Member since 2016 · 9 posts · 0 votes
    9y

    does anyone know any good title companies in maryland that are investor friendly?

  • Professional · Ellicott City, MD · Member since 2016 · 2 posts · 0 votes
    9y

    anchor Title in Columbia. Ask for Charlotte. We use her regularly. 

  • J ScottPro Member
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    Investor · Sarasota, FL · Member since 2008 · 18k+ posts · 17k+ votes
    9y
    Originally posted by @Brandon Moseley:

    does anyone know any good title companies in maryland that are investor friendly?

    I've been happy with Clearview Settlement Solutions in Baltimore...

  • Ned CareyPro Member
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    Investor · Baltimore, MD · Member since 2008 · 17k+ posts · 13k+ votes
    9y

    @Brandon Moseley  in the future I Suggest you start a new thread rather than hijacking an unrelated thread from 3 years ago. You will get better response.

    I concur with J Scott; Holly at Clearview in Mt Washington part of Baltimore is excellent. Cohen and Foreman are some of the best attorneys in Baltimore city. North of the city i like Jeffrey Charlow of masters title and escrow in Towson. Closer to Silver Spring I would recommend Michael Gross in Bethesda.

  • Vancouver, WA · Member since 2016 · 19 posts · 13 votes
    9y
    J Scott Those 2 individuals that you mentored; What made you want to mentor them, and how did BP connect you people together? Did they just ask, etc?
  • J ScottPro Member
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    Investor · Sarasota, FL · Member since 2008 · 18k+ posts · 17k+ votes
    9y
    Originally posted by @Zachary M.:

    J Scott

    Those 2 individuals that you mentored; What made you want to mentor them, and how did BP connect you people together? Did they just ask, etc?

    Everybody I've ever mentored has done two things:

    1. Built a relationship with me before asking me to mentor them (in most cases, they didn't need to ask)

    2. Offered me something, no strings attached

    As for #1, pretty much everyone I've mentored I've become friends with first, and then it grew into a mentoring relationship.

    As for #2, I've had someone on BP lend me money for rehab deals I was doing before they decided to get into the business and ask me to mentor them.  I've had someone who helped me with web-based SEO issues I was having with a non-real estate business -- they didn't do it on condition of me mentoring them, and it was a couple months later that I did.  I've had someone who just ended up being a good friend, and I mentored them because I liked them.  I had someone who brought me two great wholesale deals, and I agreed to mentor them as repayment for making me some money.  Etc...

    Basically, the key with everyone was that there I respected and liked them before the discussion of mentorship ever came up...  It's much harder to say no to a friend than a perfect stranger...  :-)

  • Vancouver, WA · Member since 2016 · 19 posts · 13 votes
    9y
    J Scott Thank you for the detailed response!
  • Real Estate Agent · Brooklyn, NY · Member since 2014 · 250 posts · 60 votes
    9y

    Thats why like Bigger Pockets. Its the only site I know where there some degree of accountability required of its members.

  • Wholesaler · Van Nuys, CA · Member since 2017 · 1 post · 0 votes
    9y

    I am a "new kid on the block". I have flipped some properties but I do not have the funds to push me. Could I be supported here? I wish to start off with wholesaling. I need a beginning to enter into a contract in a quick sale which is attractive. I need a pre-approval of funds letter to take the next step in getting into the business.

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