Getting significant other on board

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I can't be the only person on here who has had a problem with getting their significant other on board with real estate investing. I'm in a situation where my wife just isn't into the idea of investing at all and would much rather just have money sitting in a bank account collecting dust. Is there anybody out there who had the same type of problem and found a good way to overcome it? I'm at the point where I want to pull the trigger on a property and my wife has flat out said she'd rather just keep the money in the bank. I have spoken with her before about how I want to invest in Real Estate and she said she was fine with the idea but now that a deal is presenting itself she is saying she doesn't want to do anything and wants to just have the money in the bank. I was thinking about going at it like I was presenting an opportunity to an investor but she is the kind of person that would fade out in about two seconds. Please help.

Have you tried putting the #'s down on paper or using BP's calculators to put together a report to show her the #'s?

Maybe go to some open houses together?  See if you can spark an interest or at least let her know it's something you're serious about.

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Originally posted by @Jerry W. :

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 Thanks so much Jerry I will definitely read that info tonight when I get home!  

Originally posted by @Shane H. :

Have you tried putting the #'s down on paper or using BP's calculators to put together a report to show her the #'s?

Maybe go to some open houses together?  See if you can spark an interest or at least let her know it's something you're serious about.

 Thanks Shane. That's how I was initially planning on approaching it with a BP spreadsheet and presenting the numbers but as soon as I started to talk numbers her eyes glaze over and she drifts out in about three seconds. Needless to say I handle all of the finances haha

@Jeffrey Giffin

My wife is similar, hopefully if I ever convince her to join BP and share my passion for RE she wont find this thread...ha

I probably had a leg up in that I already had one property when we got together so she's on board for more and has lived through a couple others.

Not sure how you take care of your finances - could always start your own accounts or if you have your own, simply use money out of it, forego a large purchase (upgrading the car etc)

Now might be as good as time as ever to hone your negotiation skills....Good luck!

No problem @Jerry W. ! Good stuff in those links also, thanks.

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