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James H.
Real Estate Agent from Essex CT

posted 11 months ago

Hello everyone, 

As I sit here reading a stack of REI books and real estate salesmanship books I realized how often I read lines in my books like this, *please note I'm paraphrasing these may not be exact quotes “I do this because I love it” and “If you’re not passionate it, it will end up feeling like a job” “I have to try and not talk about it with my wife” “It’s the last thing I’m thinking about when I fall asleep” ”REI is my favorite hobby” and so forth..Wow I think to myself, that’s some passion!! 

I looked out the window, feeling a bit tired from my 2 hour reading streak and I noticed the beautiful blue sky and asked myself this question...


Do I Love this enough to do this? In the logical part of my brain I understand and very much desire to develop passive income and I know that REI is likely the best way on earth to do this. But I don’t think I love it the way that these authors appear to..


I don't seem to love it the way many people I speak to at REI clubs do. I am very much committed to financial security and eventual independence but I don't know that I will ever get nearly as excited as some people do about it. At the end of the day, it's a business right? That's where I'm coming from. Do I have to Love it?

Do you reader of this post..Do you Love Real estate investing?? Is it your hobby? Your baby? Are you as obsessed with it as the majority of my books, podcasts and articles seem to indicate you should be? Does your wife/husband beg you to talk about anything else?

Should you, me or anyone reading this start down the road of real estate investing (With an iron Will to see it through, even though it will only ever be a source of income and a necessary, although not particularly enjoyed venture?)

As for me, I'm extremely motivated to develop passive income and I will finish 100% of what I start. That's just who I am. I don't take the REI endeavor lightly and I'm on my 7th book on the topic.

Tell me friend, do you just love it so much? Is it your baby? Would you still engage in the REI venture if you loved it a lot less? Would you engage in REI exclusively on the grounds that it makes wonderful money (when properly ran and treated like a serious business and not a hobby)


I don’t look forward to comments like “If you don’t really enjoy it you won’t be good at it and you will loose tons of money” *cough umm.. I know that’s what everyone says. I’m wondering how many of you do this more as a business and not because you can’t go to bed without talking about it with your wife/husband.

Tell me...

Your though will help me and other readers gauge how “In Love” we should be..

I value each of your opinions like Gold thank you for reading.

Your friend

James

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Jacob Sampson
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replied 11 months ago

I've never been lucky enough to LOVE what I do year after year.  There are parts that I enjoy and parts I don't.  I enjoy what I do to a reasonable degree.  My experience is that life is a grind.  You simply get in and do the work.  I think you will do the job poorly if you hate it, but there is a range from like to love and somewhere in that range is sufficient.

In addition, I have found that I enjoy and get excited about my business the bigger and more successful it becomes.  That may simply be because once you get big enough you can afford to hire out the crap you don't like to do.

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