I’ve been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. I was living on my own and was on a month to month basis at my apartment. After I got laid off from my job, he asked me to Move in with him because he was coming to a point where he would have trouble paying for his rent. I agree but I told him that I would not sign a lease.
The reason why I don’t want to sign a lease is because first, I am still currently unemployed and will be starting a job soon but an apprehensive on committing to a lease at this point in my life. Second, we have not had a great relationship where it’s been more positive than negatives. We constantly fight over money and chores, he immediately ask me to Venmo him for half of a lunch bill or a sandwich he bought me for 12$.
Just this week he told me that his lease renewal was coming up and wanted me to know what he should do. I told him that he should do whatever he would do if I was not around. I said that I would NOT be signing a lease. I pay half his rent but I don’t want to commit to a lease for those reasons I mentioned above. ( my job and how our relationship has been in general)
He has no intentions of marrying me and quite frankly I don’t think we should when it’s so petty in our relationship with venmoing for everything that we do. ( which I don’t mind but do get annoyed by it bc it’s all new to me)
At this point, I don’t know what to do and want to make sure I respect him and kindly decline signing a lease.
Please help :(
If you don't want to sign the lease you may want to move out, I doubt his lease allows for unauthorized occupants (which you are), Even if you don't sign the lease his landlord should at least be notified that you live there. However it seems like you have other issues that may need to be addressed in places other than a forum relating to real estate.
I have been in a similar situation in the past. Given your take on the relationship as a whole, and seeing as he has no intentions on marrying you, I would start to ask what this relationship is offering you. On his perspective it sounds more like he is relying on you to pay half of his bills, and a relationship based on seeking every penny from your partner that he isn't even willing to invest his own future in sounds shaky. I would look into other options living wise, and also start thinking about your own long term (and short term) happiness. Good luck :)
Do not sign a lease unless you & him are working to towards getting married
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