STORY TIME!! Twofold wholesaling inquiry

Peace and blessings all! I hope today was just as profitable as the day prior. I'm gonna try and keep this short and sweet. 

So I have a family member who owns a multi here in NYC. He had it on the market, took it off to "pay a fee that will increase value". He took it off and since probing him about it a few weeks ago, HES STILL INTERESTED IN SELLING!! How do I get him to deal with me? Let me add, family isn't necessarily valued amongst us.

Second fold, I have a friend who I worked with in the past and still keep contact with, who is by far one of the most stellar salesmen I've seen in a while. How do I get him to want to utilize his sales ability, in wholesaling?

THANKS IN ADVANCE!! ;)