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How to Negotiate: 7 Real Estate Negotiation Tips

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I love to negotiate! Whether it’s buying furniture off Craigslist or being part of a multi-billion dollar corporate merger team (I’ve done both), I love the challenge of trying to get a great deal for myself while at the same time making the other person feel like they got a great deal, too.

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And while you may think that the skills required to negotiate small purchases are much different than the skills required to negotiate the purchase of big-ticket items (like cars, real estate, and companies), in reality, the basics are the same.

While you can spend your entire lifetime trying to perfect the art of negotiation, learning a few key negotiation strategies can put you far ahead of most of your competition and can help navigate those times when you're up against an unmotivated seller, a savvy buyer, or a head-strong contractor.

This article will offer seven powerful negotiating tips that you will likely find very useful while pursuing future real estate deals (or any other deals, for that matter).

7 Essential Real Estate Negotiation Tips

Tip #1: Let the Other Party Speak First

You’ll often hear people say, “Never make the first offer…let the other party do it.” This is great advice, but do you know why that will help your negotiating position?

There are two reasons:

1. First, it allows you to define a midpoint. Many inexperienced negotiators will find themselves “splitting the difference” in their negotiations; for example, if one inexperienced negotiator starts by asking $200 in the negotiation and another inexperienced negotiator starts by offering $100 in the negotiation, the negotiation result generally will end up somewhere around $150 (the midpoint). This is human nature not to want to give more or less than you’re getting, so people tend to increase or decrease their offers by the same amount as the other party.

But when the other party states their position first, you have the ability to define the midpoint of the negotiation!

In the example above, if the seller had stated the $200 ask first, the buyer could easily have offered $60, thereby reducing the mid-point of the negotiation (where they expect to end up) down to $130. On the other hand, had the buyer offered $100 to open the negotiation, the seller could have increased his ask to, say, $260, thereby increasing the midpoint to $180. As you can see, the person who states the first position is at a disadvantage to the person who waits, as the person who waits can define the midpoint.

2. Second, it’s quite possible that the other party’s first offer will be better than the first offer you would make. For example, let’s say you want to hire a plumber, and your budget is $500 for a particular project. While you could state upfront that you have $500 to spend on the plumbing work (in the hopes that the plumber doesn’t ask for more than that), what if the plumber was only planning to charge $300? You’ve now told him that you’re willing to pay $500, so he has little reason to quote you anything less than that. By stating your position first, you’ve given away valuable information to the other party (your maximum price), and he will use that information to extract the most money possible from you.

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Tip #2: Stop Talking and Start Listening

One of the strongest maneuvers when negotiating is to keep your mouth shut. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the most difficult. People are naturally uncomfortable during a negotiating silence, but this is exactly why you should work to ensure those silent periods occur. If you’re uncomfortable, you can be sure that the person you’re negotiating with is uncomfortable, as well. And the common result of this uncomfortable situation is that one party will make a concession to break the awkward silence.

Next time you are negotiating and the person on the other side of the table throws out an offer, make a point to say nothing. Whether it be 10 seconds or 10 minutes, make the other person break the silence. You’ll be surprised to find that he or she will often interpret your silence as anger or disappointment and will break the silence by revising their offer or offering a concession. Master negotiators will use this tactic to get less experienced negotiators to make successively lower offers without ever having to throw out a counteroffer themselves.

This may be the most basic—but most useful—negotiating tactic you’ll ever employ.

Related: 11 Items You Can Negotiate in a Real Estate Deal

Tip #3: Information is Power

I’d estimate that in 95 percent of all negotiations between experienced negotiators, the one with the most information (pertaining to the negotiation) will walk away with the better outcome. When negotiating, it’s important to know as much as possible, not just about the object of the negotiation but also about the party you’re negotiating with and their motives.

Most people tend to assume that negotiation is always about money, but often it is not. Smart negotiators realize that in many cases, it’s more important to solve a problem than to offer the most money.

For example, let’s say two buyers show up at an open house and both want the house. The first buyer assumes that the seller wants the most money possible and offers full asking price, but they also need two months to close in order to get financing in order, get inspections, etc. The second buyer asks the seller why he or she is selling, and the seller says that they received a job offer in another state and need to move in the next two weeks. The second buyer makes an offer for $10,000 less than asking but agrees to close in two weeks; plus, he or she requires no financing or inspection contingencies.

While the first buyer offered more money, the second buyer likely solved a problem that was more important than the difference in the offers—all because he gathered some information from the seller before making an offer.

Tip #4: Always Get the Last Concession

Part of being a good negotiator is “training” the other party to do what you want, without them even realizing it. Here is one way to do that with someone you will be negotiating with multiple times: Always make sure you ask for and get the last concession in the negotiation.

A concession is something the other party gives in a negotiation—a price drop, better terms, etc). By always asking for—and getting—the final concession, the other party will, over time, learn to stop asking for things once they essentially have what they want/need from the negotiation.

If the other party realizes that every time he or she asks for something, he or she will need to give something, they will naturally shy away from asking for more than what they need, fearing he or she will be asked to give up something important in return for additional (non-essential) demands on their part.

For example, when negotiating with a contractor, let's say that he throws out a final price that you both agree on. Instead of saying, "I agree with that price. We have a deal," try saying, "I agree with that price, if you can start first thing tomorrow morning."

Maybe they’ll come back with, “I can’t start tomorrow. How about the following day?” Your response could be, “That works, but I’ll need you to finish in three days instead of four.”

As long as he counters your request, continue to ask for additional concessions. Eventually, you will train the other party that by “resisting,” they are encouraging you to ask for more and more. They also learn that by just giving in, they end up giving up less in the end. It should be obvious how this will help in future negotiations with this person.

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Tip #5: Implement a Penalty for Asking for Concessions

Have you ever been on the phone with a customer service representative from some company negotiating some point (for example, you’re on the phone with your cable company trying to get your monthly fee reduced by $20) and find that every time you ask for something, the rep puts you on hold for 10 minutes while they “check to see if they can do that.”

You can bet that it doesn’t really take them 10 minutes to determine whether they can give you $20 off your bill. But they realize that when you ask for $20 off, then wait for 10 minutes, and then they come back and counteroffer you $5 off your bill, you’re going to be less likely to go another negotiating round (“How about $15 off?”) if it means you’ll have to wait another 10 minutes to get the response.

What they’ve done is implemented a “penalty” for each time you ask for a concession. While you’re sitting on hold, you’re powerless—you have the option to wait for some unknown amount of time or hang up and get nothing.

If you want to discourage others from asking for concessions in your negotiations, do the same thing—implement a penalty each time they ask (though don’t let them know you’re doing it on purpose). And the penalty doesn’t need to be the same for each “offense.”

Making them wait (like the example above) is a great example of a penalty. Perhaps you say, “I’ll have to think about that. I’ll give you a call tomorrow and we can discuss further.” Or perhaps the penalty is that they have to fill out a bunch of forms to get their desired concession. Or perhaps they’ll have to drive somewhere to pick up that extra thing that they want.

If you make the penalty for asking more cumbersome than what they asked for, it’s quite possible they’ll decide it’s not worth the effort—like having to wait 10 minutes to find out if you can save $10 extra.

Related: The Clever Psychology Trick You Need to Successfully Negotiate With Type A Personalities

Tip #6: Friction is Your Friend

On the surface, a negotiation that ends quickly and smoothly without too much back and forth appears to be a good one. But this isn’t necessarily the case.

Can you remember the last time you went into a negotiation and the other person quickly accepted your offer without too much protest or countering? How did it make you feel? If you’re like most people, you probably felt like you didn’t get as good a deal as you could have. You probably felt that, because the other party didn’t put up too much resistance, they were likely very happy with the deal, and therefore, you got the worse end.

Oftentimes, though, the other party feels the same way! There wasn’t enough friction in the negotiation to make both parties feel like they earned a great deal. And because of this, what you will often find in negotiations that go quickly and smoothly is that one or both parties will want to back out of the deal. So, if you really want to ensure that the other side doesn’t back out after the negotiation is finished, make them work hard to get to a common agreement; this hard work will often translate into feelings of a successful outcome for the other side.

This is especially important in real estate investing, when the other party often has several days (if not weeks) to back out of an agreed-upon deal.

Tip #7: Check Your Ego at the Door

Oftentimes, we assume that the other side is looking for something tangible in the outcome of a negotiation: more money, better terms, etc. But a lot of people who pride themselves on their negotiating skills are more interested in having their ego stroked than they are in any real tangible outcome. While some people are going to be all about getting every extra penny in the deal, there are those who will happily give a discounted price (assuming they are still above their minimum threshold) in return for some solid ego stroking.

In real estate negotiation, this might mean telling a contractor how highly recommended he or she comes. Or it might mean reminding a potential investor/buyer how good he or she is at rehabbing on a shoestring budget. Or it might mean “confessing” to your wholesaler how much you hate buying from him or her because they are such a good negotiator.

You’d be very surprised how far some sincere flattery will go in getting you a better negotiating outcome. Not only will it encourage the other party to put their defenses down, but they will also feel an obligation to “return the favor” in some way. So make sure you give them a way to return it right then in terms of a lower price (or whatever else you might want).

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Remember the last time you negotiated with someone who was really nice? How about the last time you negotiated with a complete a**hole? In which case did you feel better about “sticking it to them”? Which were you happy to give a break to?

Leave your comments below!

J Scott runs a real estate company that invests in several parts of the country and that specializes in new construction, as well as purchasing, rehabbing and reselling distressed properties. J is the author of The Book on Flipping Houses and The Book on Estimating Rehab Costs, which you can get here on BiggerPockets.

    Julie Broad
    Replied over 9 years ago
    These really could be called the golden rules … this is a great list. I really like them… especially the first 2. Too many people TALK TOO MUCH. They keep selling after something is sold … and unsell it. They don’t listen and miss an opportunity completely and so on. The only one I don’t totally agree with is where you always push for the last concession. The thing is, I really like to build relationships and sometimes I think it’s better to work together to find the best resolution and even leave something on the table for the other person. If you’re always squeezing that last bit of juice out of the fruit it doesn’t make the other person feel very good. And I think that is how it could feel if you are trying to “win” by pushing for the final concession. If you’ve ever been squeezed like this you know it doesn’t feel good and next time you will probably go somewhere else or you will pad your proposal … and you probably won’t tell your friends to work with that person… I think when you get something that works for you … stop. Maybe it’s not the absolute best deal for that moment but I think for the long term it’s going to be way more beneficial and way more profitable. Reply Report comment
    Julie Broad
    Replied over 9 years ago
    These really could be called the golden rules … this is a great list. I really like them… especially the first 2. Too many people TALK TOO MUCH. They keep selling after something is sold … and unsell it. They don’t listen and miss an opportunity completely and so on. The only one I don’t totally agree with is where you always push for the last concession. The thing is, I really like to build relationships and sometimes I think it’s better to work together to find the best resolution and even leave something on the table for the other person. If you’re always squeezing that last bit of juice out of the fruit it doesn’t make the other person feel very good. And I think that is how it could feel if you are trying to “win” by pushing for the final concession. If you’ve ever been squeezed like this you know it doesn’t feel good and next time you will probably go somewhere else or you will pad your proposal … and you probably won’t tell your friends to work with that person… I think when you get something that works for you … stop. Maybe it’s not the absolute best deal for that moment but I think for the long term it’s going to be way more beneficial and way more profitable.
    Chris Harmer from Mc Kinney, Texas
    Replied almost 4 years ago
    Amen- I think there’s a backfire point to pushing too hard that makes friendly negotiations turn adversarial, and is especially dangerous for repeat deals.
    Tod R
    Replied over 9 years ago
    I have to do a better job. I always try to get to that mid-point right away without working the deal!!!!
    Tod R
    Replied over 9 years ago
    Dang it! I just gave away a huge clue to those that I may do business with on BP… Don’t get any ideas, I’ll be much tougher now!
    Joshua Dorkin
    Replied over 9 years ago
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    Joshua Dorkin
    Replied over 9 years ago
    🙂
    James Mucci
    Replied over 9 years ago
    Many times I cut to the chase to avoid the time it takes to negotiate a deal. I like how you actually talk about building a relationship out of the negotiations, which I have to admit happens more ofter than not. Negotiating a deal in the mortgage business these days is tough, especially since most borrowers want to negotiate before their loan is approved, and some many variables can cause a loan to be turned down these days. Thanks for the insights, James Mucci
    Linda C.
    Replied over 9 years ago
    These are really great tips. What an incredible list. I guess it is time to get a little tougher out there.
    Timothy Friars
    Replied over 3 years ago
    2010 post date? How old is this article? Guess it keeps getting posted to the front page for a reason. 😀
    Eric
    Replied over 9 years ago
    Great article! These are very helpful indeed! I especially like the tip about how to give the other side the opportunity to make the first offer. I can’t wait to use these in my next negotiations.
    Curtis
    Replied over 9 years ago
    I think everyone needs to read this. Too many people don’t realize how good negotiating skills are important to get a better deal. Whether it’s investing in RE, buying a car, or having someone perform some simple work. I used some of the skills above and was able to purchase a car right at wholesale price a year ago. These skills truly work.
    Curtis
    Replied over 9 years ago
    I think everyone needs to read this. Too many people don’t realize how good negotiating skills are important to get a better deal. Whether it’s investing in RE, buying a car, or having someone perform some simple work. I used some of the skills above and was able to purchase a car right at wholesale price a year ago. These skills truly work.
    Doug Smith
    Replied over 9 years ago
    Awesome posting. You’ve taken the best information from hundreds of negotiating books and boiled it down to 7 simple tips. I put a link to this posting on my calendar, and I re-read it every Monday. It’s the ONLY article or blog posting that I read on a regular schedule. I also forwarded it to my staff who loved it as well. Tip #1 saved me a few hundred dollars last week because I was about to name a price (but resisted the temptation) and he came in with a price that was well below what I had planned on suggesting. Nice! Thanks for a great contribution to the BiggerPockets community.
    Chris Guthrie
    Replied over 8 years ago
    It’s been a while since this blog was commented on, but Doug Smith has a great idea there. I just put this on my schedule to read this post every Monday morning.
    Joshua Dorkin
    Replied over 8 years ago
    It is definitely one of the best I’ve ever read on the subject. J nailed it with this one.
    Biju Philip
    Replied about 7 years ago
    This is one of the best articles that I’ve read because it sums up many of the points that I’ve told others to do, all in a succinct way. There are two other areas that I are important to include: Tip #8: Understand the other party’s best alternative to a negotiated agreement (BATNA). If I am buying real estate, an offer placed right before a cold winter has more leverage since the seller’s best alternative may be to wait out the winter for an offer if they don’t have any other bids. Tip #9: Use benchmarks to bring values back to earth. Comparable prior sales in the area are a good example to quickly re-orient a seller’s pricing.
    Ashley Sommer
    Replied over 6 years ago
    What valuable information. It makes complete sense. Thank you!
    Tj Hock
    Replied over 6 years ago
    wow, this is a really great article. easy to read and to the point. love it. thank you!
    Alex Seb
    Replied over 6 years ago
    I work in real estate, and i cant agree more with tip #2 agents love to talk way too much, everybody likes to talk but if you like to sell you must be prepared to listen, good post
    Tiffany
    Replied over 6 years ago
    I must close my mouth. The wise Bill Tan once reminded me that we have two ears and one mouth so we should use them with that in mind. The saying is smoother than that, but I can’t remember. You get the point.
    Steve Johnson
    Replied over 6 years ago
    Great article. I have no experience really negotiating. I can tell over time reading stuff on BP and just absorbing ideas has helped some but this article is way helpful. I’ll have to find more books on the art of negotiation. The way you sum your points up will really help me identify when people are doing it on me and how effective those tactics are. And, after reading #2 I felt pretty good. I’m much more of a listener than a big talker. I find those awkward silences not too awful usually because over the years I’ve definitely noticed other people feel just as uncomfortable. Its kind of a like a game of tennis. There may be two really good players against each other and rather than trying to kill the opponent with an awesome shot you simply wait for them to foul up. Of course the killer shots look much more impressive but most points are won via the other guy messing up.
    Yvette
    Replied about 6 years ago
    Excellent tips and very true.
    Bob Taylor
    Replied about 6 years ago
    Great article! Very informative and to the point-Thanks! I read it because I’d say that I’ve been getting better at negotiating, but I certainly still have room to improve my skills. I have one suggestion to add here, based purely on my own experience, specifically in this case for negotiating with someone you will be or have already done business with multiple times, such as a contractor who’s services you’ve used on multiple projects. My advice is to avoid being the guy/girl that just always automatically wants something knocked off of the top, no matter what the price is and what the other party presenting their opening offer has to back up their price point. The other party (as I mentioned, this is specifically tailored to negotiating with someone you would be haggling with multiple times, so by now they know what to expect from you) will get so used to you automatically wanting a lower price that I’d think they’d start automatically including an extra cushion on top of what they’d normally open at, because by now they know darn well that you will ALWAYS want a lower price no matter what. I learned this when I was working with a former partner years ago who’d always do just that. So, if we were meeting with the plumber for example and the plumber was bidding the job either at a preset price or even for time and materials, all of the repeat contractors would just pad their estimate or their rates because they knew darn well my partner would want it lower, based on nothing at all, just wanted it lower. So, I’d say when that contractor names his opening price, come back with at least some rational basis or reason WHY you need it lower. (and of course, keep it brief) That way, they know that you’re really basing your negotiating on something solid, not just because you ALWAYS just won’t pay the opening price, thus they will open with what is really their opening price instead of their opening price PLUS the automatic extra 20% or whatever they learn to tack on!
    Joseph
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Some great points. Solid advice, J. Thanks for the article.
    Jonathan
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Tip #2: Stop Talking and Start Listening… “Next time you are negotiating and the person on the other side of the table throws out an offer, make a point to say nothing. Whether it be 10 seconds or 10 minutes, make the other person break the silence. ” “This may be the most basic — but most useful — negotiating tactic you’ll ever employ” I just about died laughing from the imagery and yet, it makes so much sense. Once you apply and get used to the awkwardness of it I would imagine this tactic would be quite enjoyable if only just to see your buyer/seller sputter their words. Of course, someone with less diabolical intentions would eventually make them feel comfortable. But I’m curious, @J Scott what was the longest you stayed silent and what exactly did you do in between? Awesome tips I’ll be sure utilize.
    Rohit Yadav
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Very nice post. Real estate is good option for investment. If you are thinking about investing Real Estate in Gurgaon than go for Emaar mgf palm drive.
    Paul Timmins
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    J great article. Negotiation should be a dance, mutually beneficial and feel good.
    Jake Posey
    Replied about 5 years ago
    I just read The Small Big on Influence and current research shows that whoever makes the first offer is more likely to have the final deal land closer to their number than to the other party’s number. So, always make the first offer.
    Tufan Andrew Arikan Investor from Irving, Texas
    Replied about 5 years ago
    Great Article! I was aware of some of them but this is a great list.
    Francis Vitagliano from Boston, Massachusetts
    Replied almost 5 years ago
    I really like this post, Very informing.
    Anthony Caltabiano from Destin, FL
    Replied almost 5 years ago
    I’m almost through with the beginner’s guide and read this article – definitely worth the click. I’m new to the real estate investing game and haven’t done any deals yet, but I know this article applies to more than just REI. Thank you BP!
    Tory Ellis from Brooklyn, New York
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Wow Great stuff!.. I love reading your post, I always walk away with something to implement into my investing strategy.
    Wesley C. Investor from Knoxville, Tennessee
    Replied over 4 years ago
    One thing I find helpful is always position yourself so you can walk away if the deal doesn’t suit you. And if you can’t walk away, convince the other party you are willing to. I guess you’d call this a good poker face. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve simply walked away from a negotiation on a car, product, real estate, etc where I simply gave the other party a piece of paper with my name and number on it and said “if you decide $X works for you feel free to give me a call, but know that I might have already found a deal elsewhere if you wait too long.” And I’d surmise that 75% of the time I get a call back before I’m a mile down the road and they agree to my deal. Now it’s true that 25% of the time they don’t call back. This is why you must position yourself to be able to walk away and not put yourself in a desperate whole. It’s much easier to convince someone you will walk away when you really can afford to.
    Katie Rogers from Santa Barbara, California
    Replied over 4 years ago
    The subtitle is How to Out Manipulate the Other Guy. I like this comment “…So, I’d say when that contractor names his opening price, come back with at least some rational basis or reason WHY you need it lower. (and of course, keep it brief) That way, they know that you’re really basing your negotiating on something solid, not just because you ALWAYS just won’t pay the opening price, thus they will open with what is really their opening price instead of their opening price PLUS the automatic extra 20% or whatever they learn to tack on!” I always find it works well to explain my rationale for why my offer is reasonable and fair, so that both parties can experience a true win-win.
    Katie Rogers from Santa Barbara, California
    Replied over 4 years ago
    If you found the property on the MLS there is asking number, so by default the seller spoke first. Using the numbers in your example, if the seller is asking 200 and you want to offer 60 to get the ball rolling, most likely your buyer’s agent will refuse to write the offer. On the off chance your agent presents your offer, the seller will refuse it with indignation. Even if weeks or months later they cannot sell at anywhere within spitting distance of their asking price, their bruised egos will not allow them to come back to you. I have put in offers like the example, had them refused, and later discover the property sold for 115 to someone else. Timing is also important.
    Enrique S. from Antelope, California
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Hey J. Scott, great article!! We are new to BP and real estate and have learned so much so far on BP! We appreciate the insight on negotiating!
    Don Alberts from Frankfort, Illinois
    Replied about 4 years ago
    This is timeless. These are the true stategies to effective bargaining. I like the idea of reviewing these points frequently to help these become a part of me. Have a Special day. Don
    Jett Rao Flipper from Calgary, Alberta
    Replied about 4 years ago
    Great article. Thank you.
    Francesca S. Architectural Designer from Los Angeles, California
    Replied about 4 years ago
    Really great article; i’m definitely going to try to implement these strategies when negotiating properties. Thanks!
    David Overgard from Eau Claire, Wisconsin
    Replied about 4 years ago
    Prior to reading this post, I did not know much about negotiation since we did not touch on it in my classes. This post has me more interesting in the benefits of becoming a master negotiator. Does anyone know any great negotiation books?
    Don Alberts from Frankfort, Illinois
    Replied about 4 years ago
    Again Mr. Scott I have reviewed these tips and I do appreciate the advantage it is giving me in obtaining my end point. Happy Thanksgiving to all. Don
    Jace Im from Apo, AP
    Replied almost 4 years ago
    Absolutely love this. Thank you.
    Frank Smith
    Replied almost 4 years ago
    Another concise and constructive post. I will print it.
    Victor Macanas Office Admin from Bremerton, Washington
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Great advice. Thank you!
    Luis N. Professional from Los Angeles, California
    Replied over 3 years ago
    This is a great list for relationship we care little about. I would advise against cutting down to the bone if you want to built and maintain the relationship.
    Benjamin Cowles from Cape Coral, FL
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Great article. Good tips. Especially the last one urging to seek rewards for kindness. Good way to go in all areas of life
    Rob Harris Property developer and building contractor from Lampasas , Texas
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Great article and refresher on these important dynamics & tactics!
    Ben Relph Investor from Wichita, Kansas
    Replied over 3 years ago
    I like this article and want to read it again later. There may be another way to bookmark / flag it so that I can easily get to it from my profile. However, I am not sure what it is. So I am making this otherwise not very helpful comment. Thanks, for posting.
    Martha J Escudero Acosta Real Estate Investor from Buda, Texas
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Thank you j Scott. I have a question: How can the investor compromise the seller to initiate the negotiation point? I spoke with a seller that repeatedly offered to lower his property price, he also said he had his lowest limit already set, however, he never disclosed any number, he expected me to make the offer. I handed him my business card and I told him that if anything changed before I contacted him again, that he could reach me at any of the numbers on my business card but what I really wanted to hear was a number I could consider as a starting price point since he ruled the initial list price out himself.
    J Scott Developer from Sarasota, FL
    Replied over 3 years ago
    If the property was listed at a specific price, then the property owner did make his first offer — the listing price.
    Erika
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Great article Josh! Ihave failed at this several times in my investing career but am getting better.
    Aakash
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Great tips! Thanks for sharing!
    Chris T. Investor from Downers Grove, Illinois
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Loved it. thank you J Scott. Especially the last part. When 2 parties get into a tense negotiation, it becomes a “I win – you lose” game. You stroke their ego by giving them a compliment. As an inside sales professional, I have put a good number of callers on hold “to check with my manager”, just to bring down the pricing or at least have the caller agree to 1 of my requirements.
    Leury Pichardo Real Estate Agent from Saddle Brook, NJ
    Replied over 3 years ago
    Great list! I added this article to my Evernote… so I can refer to it anytime I’m negotiating ANYTHING!
    Brandy Johnson Investor from Thomasville, North Carolina
    Replied about 3 years ago
    I have been negotiating with a seller, he wants a day to think about the deal. Do I wait longer since he needed time? My offer was 5k less than his asking, he wanted to meet in the middle; Increased my offer by 1500 and he went to shake my hand and then said no he needs to think for a day but would most likely accept (his words) is this a good sign? The house has been listed for awhile but there is an emotional attachment. Any thoughts or comments are welcome.
    Shawn Tallard from Madison, Wisconsin
    Replied about 3 years ago
    I hadn’t connected the dots on why friction could actually be good in negotiating until I read this. Great paradigm shift. People tend to feel better about a victory they worked harder for. Scarcity creates value. Many of these points remind me of a great book called “Influence.” I highly recommend it to anyone who negotiates anything. Thanks for writing it!
    Lendell Williams from Summerville, South Carolina
    Replied about 3 years ago
    Great article! Negotiating has never been my strong suit. I will definitely be employing these tactics in my future endeavors…starting small at first, of course.
    David Wilson Rental Property Investor from Gresham, Oregon
    Replied almost 3 years ago
    Great post! As a newbie to REI, I will definitely take this advice to heart. Thank you!
    Mark Gee Rental Property Investor from Red Bank, NJ
    Replied almost 3 years ago
    Thanks J Scott – I’m going into a negotiation today and I’m re-reading this post to prepare. I’m really going to focus on being quite, welcoming awkward silences & getting concessions/terms as the price rises.
    Sienna Leigh
    Replied about 2 years ago
    This is a practical, savvy list! The Knowledge is Power item is one main reason why it’s important to have an excellent realtor on your side in the negotiations. But it can also be a winning strategy to bring unexpected negotiating tools to the table; for example, another good reason to listen is to create connection and trust. The other party can find these irresistible, which is why high-stakes FBI and business negotiators work to create them. Real estate deal-makers can even learn a trick or two from stage performers, who know how gently to manipulate audiences in the right direction. The article https://www.homelight.com/blog/real-estate-negotiation-tips/ explores tips from some of these other fields and then applies them directly to real estate. It’s smart and fun to read!
    Nickulus Watt from Paterson, New Jersey
    Replied almost 2 years ago
    Tip #2: Stop Talking and Start Listening I noticed that I am the one always talking and most time I will give too much information which counter-attacking myself.
    Tola Kehinde Rental Property Investor from Vaughan, ON
    Replied about 1 year ago
    Nice article…thanks Scott
    Lakesha Macklin
    Replied 8 months ago
    great info… thanks
    Ivan Lapp Investor from Millersburg, Pennsylvania
    Replied 7 months ago
    Great article! Anyone who enjoyed this article should read J Scott’s new book for Bigger Pockets. The Book on Negotiating Real Estate
    Shellie H.
    Replied about 2 months ago
    Great article! Yes, it is older, but still totally relevant. I have used therapeutic silence in nursing, but will start using it in negotiations as well. I do agree with the win-win and relationship building that others have mentioned when dealing with individuals. I have less of that desire when working with corporations/companies. I have experienced the cable hold technique, so changed my strategy to telling them I want to cancel, and I was prepared to do so (it was not an empty threat), so they offered a much steeper discount. It worked for several years, then they got wise, so I did actually cancel and change services when a discount was no longer offered. Yes, I am a stubborn child. ;o) Good info.!
    Randy Connolly Real Estate Agent from Weymouth, MA
    Replied 15 days ago
    Good article, I go through this with my construction business, I hardly ever budge on price or terms as I price the job fair to begin with knowing that if I priced it differently it would not be worth getting into because whether it is a $15,000.00 or a $500.00 dollar job you own it, so if you don't make enough of a profit to make it worthwhile I consider it a liability to and It actually weeds the people out pretty quick and saves me the headaches of dealing with people that have a problem with putting money down to commit to the job as I don't plan my finances and schedule my jobs on keeping my fingers crossed so with the exception of the 2% of my customers, they all put deposit/1st payment down if not I move on, makes my life a lot easier.