Real Estate Investing Basics

Emotional Risk: The Little-Discussed Factor That Could Kill Your Investments

Expertise: Personal Development
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We hear a lot about risk, but what is risk?

In any finance class, you will hear about two types of risk:

  • Market Risk: The possibility of your investment losing value due to events affecting the entire market. Examples: Recession, interest rates being raised, natural disaster, etc.
  • Investment Specific Risk: The unique risk of any given investment not determined by market conditions. Examples: Your investment properties roof collapses, tenants fail to pay rent, etc.

Related: 3 Ways to Deal With Real Estate Risk Without Letting it Paralyze You

While these risks are important to understand, one type of risk can multiply the severity of market and investment specific risk.

Emotional risk.

So what is “emotional risk?”

Emotional risk: Decisions guided by emotions rather than investment principles.

I’ve read numerous stories about real estate tragedies. A common theme among these failures is a lack awareness of emotional risk. Real estate investing is a long term journey. Unfortunately, many people are shaken out of the game before they can gain vital experience necessary for success.

Emotions are what make us human. The love you feel for friends and family, and the hatred you feel for cable companies. But too much emotion can cloud your judgement. Now, we can’t turn ourselves into robots and assume we will never make emotional decisions, but we can identify our emotional triggers to recognize when we are in the grips of emotion.

Emotional risks takes numerous shapes and sizes. Everyone handles their emotions differently, so there’s no one-size-fits-all policy. The best way to control emotional risk is to have a deep understanding of possible triggers causing emotions to run rampant. By having this awareness, you can decrease the power your emotions have over your investment decisions.

“If you cannot control your emotions, you cannot control your money” – Warren Buffett

Triggers of Emotional Risk

Failing to Clearly Define Your Personal Real Estate Goals

To summarize most newbie investment goals: GET RICH! Define “rich.” Do you define rich as being able to buy whatever you want? Do you mean early retirement? Or being able to turn off your cellphone after work so you can spend time with your kids? Will more money fix your current spending issues?

Thinking Real Estate is a Salvation to All of Your Problems

Do you believe investing in real estate will help you solve your personal problems? Are you telling yourself the grass is greener in real estate investing because you can run away from your problems? Do you think you won’t have to work anymore once you begin investing in real estate?

Lack of Personal Awareness of Your Emotional Climate

Do you tend to be a negative person and find all the weaknesses in a deal? Or does your positivity blind you from potential risks? How do you handle setback? Are you someone who has a low emotional boiling point?

Unnecessary Time Pressure

Do you feel a need to immediately jump into real estate investing because you missed a “great opportunity?” Do you find yourself saying, “I’m not expanding my housing portfolio fast enough”?

Investing Your Ego Instead of Capital

Do you personally tie your self esteem to the value of your investments? Are you comparing your investment success to others? Do you find yourself saying you’re better than other investors and you can handle riskier investments?

“When a management with a reputation for brilliance tackles a business with a reputation for bad economics, it is the reputation of the business that remains intact.” – Warren Buffett

Poor Family Planning

Have you sat down with your partner to discuss the time commitment involved in real estate investing? Have you met with anyone who’s involved in real estate investing? What are the repercussions leveraging yourself to the hilt for a “sweet deal?” What happens if you’re unable to manage your investments? How will your family take care of them?

Failing to Understand Not All Growth is Created Equal

Do you understand the difference between controlled, steady growth and rampant growth? Steady growth can be maintained without destroying the integrity of your systems and allowing you to stow away enough cash for a rainy day, improve systems, and strike when a good deal appears. Or are you driven by the latest “game changing” fad and are you willing to risk it all for a short term gain? To learn more about rampant growth and its destructive power, check out Podcast #1.

Related: The Power of Belief: How to Overcome Your Fear of Risk-Taking, Day by Day

Jack of All Trades and Terrible at Them All

Not all greed is financial. Greed can be in the form of trying to master all real estate niches at once, which results in learning a little about a lot and doesn’t allow you to build momentum in any niche — when in all reality, many have spent their entire lives just trying to understand one aspect of real estate investing.

“The road to real estate ruin is paved by greed.” – Fortune Cookie

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Sheep Mentality

Are you investing in a given market because Fred down the street recommends it? Do you know Fred’s investing goals? Is Fred down the street following the same investment criteria as you are?

This is by no means a complete list of each and every trigger to emotional risk, but it’s a starting point to examine your own motivations and assumptions.

Remember, we can’t control the market or what will happen to our properties, but we do control how we react to those situations.

What Types of Emotional Triggers Do You Think I Missed?

Now that we have thought about our potential risks, let’s build an investment plan with personal checks and balances to minimize our emotional and financial risks and hold us true to our investment goals. Stay tuned for part 2!

What would you add to my list? Have any of these emotional triggers affected your decisions as an investor?

Leave your comments and stories below!

Jordan Thibodeau is a tech employee and real estate investor. While working with his father, Jordan learned the family business of real estate investing and made his first real estate investment in 2013 when he purchase a duplex in Sacramento. Jordan went on to form the Silicon Valley Investors Club, which is one of the largest investing clubs for current and former tech employees that has nearly 6,000 members. He wrote a popular BP blog post that has helped numerous full-time employees get started in real estate investing. He writes a monthly investment newsletter called Investors Therapy that helps investors understand their psychology to make better investment decisions. His writings have been seen on Forbes and Thrive Global. Also, Jordan has interviewed or hosted some of America’s top thought leaders and investors such as Ray Dalio, Anne Wojcicki, Tim Ferriss, Ryan Holiday, Annie Duke, Ben Horowitz, and Eric Barker to learn about human psychology and what we can do to make better investment decisions.

    John Fedro Investor from Austin, Texas
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Great post Jordan!
    Jordan Thibodeau Rental Property Investor from San Jose, CA
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Thanks John!
    Joseline Avendano
    Replied over 4 years ago
    It’s called Emotional Intelligence. Nice article – insightful.
    Jordan Thibodeau Rental Property Investor from San Jose, CA
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Thanks Joseline! It’s also known as Psychological Mindedness, Mindfulness, Emotional Literacy, Positive Intelligence, etc. You must have read “Emotional Intelligence” and “Focus” written by Daniel Goleman. Excellent books. Daniel Goleman Talking About His Book Focus:
    Adam K. Investor from Brooklyn, New York
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Loved this. A lot of people could benefit from the type of introspection this article suggests.
    Jordan Thibodeau Rental Property Investor from San Jose, CA
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Thanks Adam. I appreciate it. You make a great point, if only people would make time for introspection.
    Andrew Cordle from Alpharetta, Georgia
    Replied over 4 years ago
    This was a great topic and an awesome post!
    Linda Smith Real Estate Investor from Woodstock, Georgia
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Time invested emotional attachment. If you have spent a lot of time megotiating a great deal, that would be somewhat complicated to describe to anyone not involved, with a very motivated seller, but the profit will be much larger than most so you have been patient and worked hard and diligently. Then the seller who has heretofore been very engaged suddenly stops answering your calls, you get a message from a RE sale page announcing the subject property is back on the market and when you finally do reach the seller, he wants to double the price on contract and is very uncooperative. It’s hard to let it go because you spent/wasted a lot of time putting that deal together. But you have to reason with yourself that you are being played. It’s better to walk away now, than to press the issue until you wind up in a poor investment. The sooner you make that U turn, the less ground you’ll have to cover just to get back to square one.
    Jordan Thibodeau Rental Property Investor from San Jose, CA
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Well said Linda. Sunk costs can result in poor real estate investments. Knowing how to detach yourself from this mindset is critical for making sound real estate investment decisions. Thanks for sharing.
    Darren Sager Realtor from Summit, NJ
    Replied over 4 years ago
    How many times did I fall down when trying to learn how to walk? Like anyone else it was probably countless. Still the fear of getting hurt financially in this case stops most people dead in their tracks. I also thing that people who are “too smart” also have a hard time because they overthink things. Everyone needs to realize that getting good at anything comes down to same thing that gets you to Carnegie Hall: practice practice practice. It’s important we get those emotions in check and focus on what our goals are. Great article Jordan!
    Jordan Thibodeau Rental Property Investor from San Jose, CA
    Replied over 4 years ago
    Amen Darren. Practice is critical and having the grit to hang on when times are tough.