Personal Habits & Growth

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For those of you with strong personal habits or schedules how did you discipline yourself? I have a lot of plans for myself which include: full-time real estate, entrepreneurship, etc, but I think working on myself should be the first step. Even so, I find myself falling off when it never happened in the past. What should I do?

@Indya E. Allen I have found the best success in taking small action when I feel that I can not achieve the goals I have set up for myself. If you have a goal that you continue to cheat on, then make it smaller and work your way up. So if you cant get up at 5 am to read or workout or whatever, just sit up at 5 am and sit there until you feel ready to get going on things. Just keep building on small things and don't rush. This is a proven technique to build wealth, better habits, and success.  

Another thing that I have found helpful is making all of my days the same. Even on my days off, I get up early and follow my routine. This helps cement those habits long term. Even one day off can interrupt the flow I am trying to create. It seems strict but honestly the discipline really gives me a sense of freedom and confidence because I am achieving my goals and accomplishing a ton throughout the day. This still leaves me with plenty (if not more) free time outside of work.

Finally, be kind to yourself. If you are changing previous habits, it will take a lot of effort. Honestly, it would be very strange if you didn't slip up in your transformation. Remember why you are doing what you're doing and focus on that. Forget the mishaps, you're learning to move beyond them.  

I hope that helps!

@Indya E. Allen

Continuing with Andy's theme.  Routine and Mindset are very important in developing self discipline.  Easy stuff like making your bed when you wake up before anything else.  Not making excuses for completing tasks. Paying your bills on time, showing up to work early, being mindful of others peoples time, being grateful for every opportunity that presents itself.  Many of these things have nothing to do with money and more with your personal being and a statement about who you are.  

I have always found these things easy to do because they do not cost anything.  Thoughts that come to mind when discussing this topic: hard work, effort, preparedness, relentless.  All of these things you can control.  That is why I find it easy.

@Indya E. Allen

Read the following books:

Atomic habits

The one thing

Getting things done

Then, get yourself Michael Hyatt's full focus planner.

Then, day by day by day.....you do one thing, then another and eventually it's not effort anymore it's just a habit. 

Aim for some easy wins at first. Be honest with yourself when you fail and don't treat failure as a commentary about yourself. Every failure brings you closer to success. Take ownership of your situation and where you want to go. 

Originally posted by @Andy Eakes :

@Indya E. Allen I have found the best success in taking small action when I feel that I can not achieve the goals I have set up for myself. If you have a goal that you continue to cheat on, then make it smaller and work your way up. So if you cant get up at 5 am to read or workout or whatever, just sit up at 5 am and sit there until you feel ready to get going on things. Just keep building on small things and don't rush. This is a proven technique to build wealth, better habits, and success.  

Another thing that I have found helpful is making all of my days the same. Even on my days off, I get up early and follow my routine. This helps cement those habits long term. Even one day off can interrupt the flow I am trying to create. It seems strict but honestly the discipline really gives me a sense of freedom and confidence because I am achieving my goals and accomplishing a ton throughout the day. This still leaves me with plenty (if not more) free time outside of work.

Finally, be kind to yourself. If you are changing previous habits, it will take a lot of effort. Honestly, it would be very strange if you didn't slip up in your transformation. Remember why you are doing what you're doing and focus on that. Forget the mishaps, you're learning to move beyond them.  

I hope that helps!

Hi Andy,

I apologize for the late response. It seems that mid-terms have snuck up on me! Thank you for your insight, I will definitely incorporate your ideas, especially the one regarding making every day the same. When I looked at previous schedules I had saturday and sunday starting a few hours later than my weekdays. I see that I need to change that! 

Thank you again!

Indya E. Allen

 

Originally posted by @Damaso Bautista :

@Indya E. Allen

Continuing with Andy's theme.  Routine and Mindset are very important in developing self discipline.  Easy stuff like making your bed when you wake up before anything else.  Not making excuses for completing tasks. Paying your bills on time, showing up to work early, being mindful of others peoples time, being grateful for every opportunity that presents itself.  Many of these things have nothing to do with money and more with your personal being and a statement about who you are.  

I have always found these things easy to do because they do not cost anything.  Thoughts that come to mind when discussing this topic: hard work, effort, preparedness, relentless.  All of these things you can control.  That is why I find it easy.

 Hello Damaso,

Thank you for your response, I will incorporate these ideas into my routine!

Thank you,

Indya E. Allen

Originally posted by @Luka Milicevic :

@Indya E. Allen

Read the following books:

Atomic habits

The one thing

Getting things done

Then, get yourself Michael Hyatt's full focus planner.

Then, day by day by day.....you do one thing, then another and eventually it's not effort anymore it's just a habit. 

Hi Luka,

Unfortunately I could not find any of these books within my surrounding libraries. But I am sure amazon has them. Meanwhile I picked up a book call Bad Habits, Good Habits. 

Thank you,

Indya E. Allen

 

Originally posted by @JD Martin :

Aim for some easy wins at first. Be honest with yourself when you fail and don't treat failure as a commentary about yourself. Every failure brings you closer to success. Take ownership of your situation and where you want to go. 

 Hi JD,

Thank you for your response! I will definitely make my goals attainable. I seem to overestimate myself regarding personal goals so I can see where I messed up. 

Thank you again,

Indya E. Allen