Ever felt behind in life?

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Have you ever felt like you were behind in life? Like what I mean is have you compared yourself to your friends or others that are your age or younger, Not just for investing but for other stuff. I'm 20 years old and I've been comparing to a lot of people i know and it's kind of making me anxious like I need to catch up with them or I would feel like a failure and I want to fix this problem of comparing my self to others because I know it won't help me out but makes me worse. How did you fix your problem of comparing your self with other people?

Jules Aton · Answer

What is that old saying? "Comparison is the thief of joy". I didn't have some of the advantages that others did early on but I was always so busy working, playing catch up that I didn't have time to dwell on what I was missing. When I finally reached financial independence and could take a breath I avoided comparing myself to the more affluent folks I encounter. The bottom line is I am very proud and thankful for where I am in life and as @Bruce Woodruff said there will always be someone with more, bigger, better...

Amit Shimony · Answer

Trust me I think there is no one that can tell you that they haven't struggle with this topic before,I'm 20 yrs too and I feel the same, what helped me was focusing on my own progress and setting short&long term goals puting up a vision board because at the end of the day every person have their own desires and looking back to who I was half a year ago, two years ago, compare to now, after learning skills and pushing myself.

Jonny Lauderdale · Answer

Really open and insightful question! I used to be so hard on myself before I turned 20, and I reflected every single year lots of days on this. I'm 29 now and appreciate the process as things just make more sense...What helped was time, understanding of the capabilities of myself, surrounded by peers. And also enjoying the now. Dude, when you're 20 it feels like life slaps you across space, we get so hard on ourselves. But get this. Life is AMAZING, you make your OWN choices, you grow, you learn, you fail and yet still grow. everyone has there own life, and so do you. You write your own story because its a God given gift to even make it to where your at so ENJOY THE RIDE. Don't forget to be present and look around once in awhile. Cheers

also P.S dont listen to social media because reality is much more the truth AND ALWAYS trust your gut, if it doesn't feel right, it probably ain't. Hope this helps

Bruce Woodruff · Answer

Comparing yourself to others is a worthless habit to have...there will ALWAYS be someone better than you. Richer/taller/better-looking/more successful/etc....

A better habit is to do this every morning - look at what you are grateful for in your life: your health, your family and friends, where you live.....and then look at what you are excited about that is going on now or happening soon.

Focus on these and see what happens....you are extremely young and have decades ahead of you. It is entirely up to you to make it a great life....

Robel Nessro · Answer

@Bruce Woodruff thank you Bruce for this advice I'll definitely do that

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