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8 Tips to Help You Work Better With Your Significant Other

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My best investment yet, 🙂 Dominique Osborn shares her insights below about what it takes to work together in Real Estate with your significant other.

Hey Everyone! Dominique here!

After Engelo’s recent BiggerPockets Podcast episode, he received a LOT of questions. Though many were about business strategies, there were a surprising amount of questions about relationship issues. Yes, you heard me correctly, relationships! Engelo threw that one my way. I’ll do my best to share our recipe, though I’m sure you will eventually find one with the right ingredients that work best for you.

The scenario: I’m sitting at my desk, trying to figure out a solution to a problem, when suddenly I hear papers flying through the air and Engelo approaching, mumbling and grumbling.

Related: Tips for Working With Your Spouse in Your Real Estate Business

Here’s the question: How are you able to be in business with your significant other… and not rip each other’s heads off? Below are some helpful tips that work for us — and that may be helpful for you, as well.

8 Tips to Help You Work Better With Your Significant Other

1. Establish Boundaries

It can be difficult not to find fault with someone you work and live with, so try to initiate boundaries, and keep personal issues in the house — and business issues in the office.

2. Maintain Respect at All Times

When working together, you must always maintain a level of respect. If you’re both committed to mutual respect, you’ll create a foundation of trust and will be less likely to take a differing opinion as a personal attack or source of conflict.

3. See Your Significant Other As Your Teammate

Try to keep in mind that you’re on the same team, fighting for the same things! Sometimes, it’s easy to take out small frustrations and everyday work issues on those closest to us. Remember that you and your significant other are working towards shared goals, and that you’ll both benefit from synergistic, team-focused efforts.

4. Play to the Strengths Each Party Brings to the Equation

Balance out each other’s talents to your advantage. In our relationship, Engelo is the creative, “get out there and make it happen” type, while I am the organized, strategic type.

Recognize, respect, and appreciate the differences; make them work for you!

5. Get on the Same Page

Take time to sit down and discuss what you both envision for the company. This will help you remain on the same page and remind one another that you’re working towards the same goals.

6. Don’t Take Things Personally

Take time to understand your partner’s work habits and tendencies. Once you have figured them out, it will be easier for you not to take everything said to heart — and it will free you from worrying about how your partner does or says something.

7. Support Each Other

Engelo does not have an “off” switch. He’s 100% entrepreneur minded — always “on.”

Since day one, I have promised myself to always support his vision, but also try to let him know if it might be time to get a little rest and recreation. It may be hard to always understand one another and each other’s ways, but to remain fully committed in both life and business, you’ll need to support your partner and always give them benefit of the doubt that what they are doing isn’t just for themselves — it’s for you both as a team.

8. Try to Laugh Off the Little Arguments

… because you’re definitely going to have some!

Example: When Ohio Cashflow was in its early infant stage, we were trying to keep expenses at a minimum, so we decided to build the company website ourselves. We spent many late nights composing the body of the website and configuring the colors and layout.

Related: 6 Tips for Keeping Your Business on Track While Working From Home

There was one such late night, when we were both in our usual stance: heads bent closely over Engelo’s small MacBook Air. We were trying to make a line in the header perfectly straight. After looking at this line for close to 30 minutes — with Engelo asking me constantly, “Do you think it’s straight?” and “I think it’s a little tilted, what do you think?” — I started seeing 3 lines (I ASSURE you, they were all quite STRAIGHT!), and I absolutely lost it. After yelling something about the lines being straight enough for any psycho perfectionist, I exited from the office to get some much needed fresh air… and regain my sanity!


Engelo and I are both very hard workers; we give our best to every task and every project. That may help us work together more than anything else, as we don’t have to second-guess ourselves, whether there are stressful moments or happy moments.

Ultimately, we are in this together and moving in the same direction. We also realize that we are not machines, but people with individual talents, strengths, and ways of approaching goals. And, of course, people who at the end of the day go home to relax together!

Have you ever worked with your significant other? If not, would you consider doing so? What would you add to my list?

Leave me a comment below!

Engelo Rumora, a.k.a."the Real Estate Dingo," quit school at the age of 14 and played professional soccer at the age of 18. From there, he began to invest in real estate. He now owns real estate al...
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    Frankie Woods Investor from Albuquerque, NM
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Great ideas for working with your partner! It’s awesome that you are not only able to work together, but blog about your experiences together as well!
    Engelo Rumora Specialist from Toledo, OH
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Hi Frankie, Thanks for your comment. We believe in the same vision and end goal so it make things much easier. Thanks and have a great day.
    Benjamin Packard
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Dominique, Great article!! My wife and I are just starting our business while both working full time jobs. What’s the best way to work when we can’t both be there to work on a project?
    Dominique Osborn Real Estate Investor from Toledo, Ohio
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Hi Benjamin, I’m glad you enjoyed the article and thanks for reaching out! To answer your question: Engelo and his business partner travel for business quite often– So it’s usually up to me to hold the fort down 🙂 When this happens, the best way for us to keep things operating smoothly and to remain on the same page is we sit down together (usually every Monday) and go over things that we’d like to accomplish for that particular week. Engelo and I will each write these goals down as a “to-do” list. We’ll then update each other when we’ve ticked something off the list. And although he might be away– I don’t hesitate to call and bug him if I need his input on any particular issue 😉 The best advice I can offer to your wife and you is to communicate regularly what goals you want to achieve for that week– write it down. And make sure you update each other often as to the progress of marking off the items on this list. I hope this helped! Thanks, Dominique
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Excellent guidelines! While there can be none more loyal and committed to the mutual goal than a spouse or significant other (because the goal is mutual), it does introduce many personal challenges to work effectively together and to be kind and respectful while doing so. While I’m sure its not always “easy”, you two have accomplished quite impressive things with Ohio Cashflow. Well done!!!
    Dominique Osborn Real Estate Investor from Toledo, Ohio
    Replied almost 6 years ago
    Hi John, Thanks for your comment and kind words– much appreciated! Have a great day