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How to Network Like a Pro (Even If You’re an Introvert!)

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Networking. We all know it’s important. But we also know that it can cause a lot of mental anguish. Deep down inside, we all know it’s like a first date.

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But actually it’s worse than that. It’s a blind date! So, not only do you get the sweaty palms, dry mouth, and heart palpitations… you also have a million questions going through your head.

Will they like me? Are they going to be cool? Did I trim my nose hair?

Well, I’m here to help you out—even if you’re an introvert like me! So, let’s get into the benefits of networking, different ways to network, and some tips to get it done the right way.

The Benefits of Networking

Whether you like it or not, real estate is a team sport. It is impossible to take down a deal by yourself. IMPOSSIBLE.

Look at all the people involved in a typical transaction:

  • Seller
  • Buyer
  • Real estate agent 1
  • Real estate agent 2
  • Title company
  • Home inspector
  • Lender
  • Attorney

And there are potentially more people involved. Contractors, partners, wholesalers, CPAs, property managers… the list goes on and on.

So, let’s go over a few of the benefits of networking.

Benefit #1: Building a Team

Once you get your core team together, you won’t have to find those people again! When I first started out as an agent, I didn’t have a network of people to refer clients to—but that changed. Within a short period of time, I had all my go-to problem solvers to help my clients get what they wanted.

Of course, it’s always good to have a backup plan, just in case one of those partners exits the business or you have to part ways for other reasons.

Benefit #2: Meeting New People

You get to meet new people while networking! This may seem obvious, but if you’re not growing your network, then your network might be at a plateau—or worse, dying. I’ve been fortunate enough to make friends, meet new partners, and get more deals done because of this.

This leads me to the next benefit.

Benefit #3: Developing Partnerships

I honestly wouldn’t be where I am today without partnerships. I wouldn’t have tackled that first deal without a good partner. I wouldn’t have been able to flip any of the houses I’ve flipped without money partners or purchase a 20-unit apartment building without a good commercial lender partner.

Benefit #4: Gaining Knowledge

Networking presents the opportunity to hang around smart people. It’s been said that you’re the average of the five people you hang around the most. If that’s the case, I’m not opposed to hanging around with some smart people that are insanely creative, hard working, and have the same mindset—to get deals done (which just happens to be my next point)!

Benefit #5: Getting Deals Done

Networking helps you get deals done. At our local meetup, even though there are not a ton of people there, everyone is helping each other get deals done. Help might come in the form of money, property management, selling properties, etc.

If you’re a real estate investor, this is pretty important, right?

Benefit #6: Building Credibility

If you regularly network and attend meetups, you get almost instant credibility. The key word here is regularly. If you treat it as a one-off, people won’t take you too seriously (or even remember you). 

Benefit #7: Garnering Support

And finally, you get support. While I’m not going to compare real estate meetups to AA or a group counseling session, at times it can be a relief to hear other people’s struggles and offer help and support where needed. Everyone has a real estate horror story—it’s hard to go a week without hearing one. Networking offers the opportunity to help other investors learn from your mistakes and you from theirs.

Networking Resources

There are a myriad of ways to network nowadays (thank you internet!), so let’s take a look at some of the most effective.

Meetups

In my humble opinion, real estate investing meetups are the single best way to network. Makes sense, right? There are a few ways to go about finding one, if you haven’t already.

BiggerPockets

In the nav bar at the top of the BiggerPockets site, is a tab titled “Network.” Click on that, and then click on “Events.” You can browse for meetups near you easily!

Pro Tip: If there aren’t any in your area or if you don’t like the ones near you, START YOUR OWN! This is what I did a few years ago. The local meetups were kind of far away, so I started one where I lived.

You do need a Pro Membership to post events on BiggerPockets, and I highly recommend you get one (there are tons of other benefits, as well)! Plus, if you are the host/creator of a meetup, people will look to you as the “expert.” It’s good for business!

Related: How to Start a Local Real Estate Investor Meetup (& Why You Definitely Should!)

Meetup.com

Meetup.com is a great way to find local real estate meetups, as well. Most of the time, you’ll find the local REIAs (Real Estate Investing Associations) posting there.

Conferences

It’s not too hard to find real estate investing conferences online. A quick Google search will reveal quite a few. Of course, these are more expensive, but they can be worth it depending on what you’re looking to get out of it.

Social Media

Social media has made it easier and quicker than ever to find what we’re looking for in a particular niche. You can search hashtags on Instagram and Twitter, contribute to Facebook Groups, and so much more.

Real estate investing influencers are easier to connect with than you think. They’re just a DM (aka direct message) away.

SOI (Sphere of Influence)

If you have a phone (please tell me you have one), you probably have some contacts saved. Reach out with a call or text to everyone in your phone and tell them about your real estate investing. Ask if there’s anyone you should connect with. They might have the world’s greatest contractor or a “Daddy” Warbucks saved to their “Favorites” and be willing to share their diamond in the rough with you.

How to Network Effectively

Here are a few tips I’ve learned over the years when it comes to networking like a pro.

Listen

If you’re interacting with a group or an individual, this is probably the most important thing you can do. People need to be heard, and you can learn a lot from listening (and keeping your mouth shut!).

Share

Usually there is a component in networking groups where you share your name, story, etc. so people can learn a little bit about you. Be honest!

If you’re a first time investor, say that. If you’re experienced, let the group know what you’ve done. 

Handshake & Eye Contact

OK, kind of old school advice here, but when you’re meeting someone for the first time, look them in the eyes and give them a firm handshake (and smile). Sound advice from the past, my friends. No one wants to network with someone who’s looking at their shoes and gives the “dead fish” handshake.

Related: 8 Ways to Establish a Large and Meaningful Network

Be Friendly

Again, this is kind of self-explanatory, but people would prefer to work with people who are friendly. Smile, be interested in what they have to say, and ask a lot of questions.

People love to tell their story. They just need someone to listen.

Business Cards (Yay or Nay?)

How many business cards from other people do you currently have? Oh, none you say? Biz cards are a little passé in my opinion.

Instead, ask them on the spot for their number or email address. Better yet, hand them your phone and tell them to put their info in.

Alternatively, ask them what their preferred social media channel is. Connect with them where they like to connect. 

Listen

Oh, I said this already? Well, that’s because it’s so IMPORTANT. People have a desperate need to be heard.

 A Special Note to Introverts

As I like to say, “Introverts are people, too.” You may feel like networking is impossible—or at best, painful. It doesn’t have to be!

I’ve actually learned to enjoy it. Here are a few tips for the less gregarious crowd.

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Take a Deep Breath

It’s going to be OK. No one is going to ridicule you, make fun of you, or laugh you out of the meeting. It’s just some like-minded people getting together to talk about what they’re interested in. No big deal!

Your Superpower

Introverts tend to be better listeners and, like I mentioned above, listening is vitally important to networking. Use your superpower!

You Have Something to Offer

Even if you’ve never done a deal before, you’ve got something to offer when it comes to networking. Maybe you’re good at marketing, or social media, or are excellent with numbers. You have a skill or interest that others can tap into. Offer it up!

Don’t Do Anything Hard!

This is something my grandpa used to say (tongue in cheek), implying that anything worth doing is going to take some effort. Networking does take some effort, but it is well worth it.

If I Can Do It…

And finally, if I can do it, then you can definitely do it. I’m a pretty big introvert, and like I said, I’ve come to enjoy networking. You can, too.

Ready, Set, Go!

So, get out there, guys and gals, and find your next networking event. Put it in your calendar, and network like a pro. You won’t regret it!

Do you have any other networking tips to add to this list? Have you encountered any issues you need help overcoming in terms of networking?

Let’s talk in the comment section below.

Nate Shields is a real estate investor and real estate investing coach. He started in real estate in 2013 part-time as an agent and quickly went full-time, enabling him to quit his 9-5. In just two...
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    James Phan Rental Property Investor from California, CA
    Replied 7 months ago
    It looks like this is your first article and I must say it is a great article. Some of the tips you mentioned are obvious, yet we always forget.
    Nate Shields Rental Property Investor from Madison, WI
    Replied 7 months ago
    Thanks for reading James!
    Jessamyn Smith
    Replied 7 months ago
    From one introvert to another, thank you! This was well timed for me because I had an hour before a networking event tonight and figured I would read some BP articles to pass the time. I happened upon this one from a "latest posts" email from BP. Now I'm off to my event!
    Nate Shields Rental Property Investor from Madison, WI
    Replied 7 months ago
    Hope it was helpful Jessamyn!
    Mike White Investor
    Replied 7 months ago
    Please don't send a text to your entire contacts list to inform them of your new investing ideas. To many it will sound like the old multi-level marketing pitch. Inform friends and family organically. When you talk to friends and they ask what you've been up to, let them know. Don't solicit them.
    Nate Shields Rental Property Investor from Madison, WI
    Replied 7 months ago
    Thanks for reading Mike! And thanks for taking the time to share your insight on this.
    Don Jack Investor from Santa Maria, California
    Replied 7 months ago
    Great article, I'm an introvert and need to get out and start networking.
    Nate Shields Rental Property Investor from Madison, WI
    Replied 7 months ago
    Thanks Don! Go do it...you won't regret it!
    Jimmy Hodges from Mesa, AZ
    Replied 7 months ago
    Thanks for sharing Nate. It’s always Intimidating being a newbie in a room full of people you assume all have experience. Remembering they’re just people too and they all started at one point as a newbie usually helps me.
    Zach Johnson
    Replied 7 months ago
    Your article is much appreciated. The point you made on the secret weapons of introverts are spot on, and your perspective is such a positive approach to the world of networking. On business cards, I fully agree. Instead of a business card, I've been impressed by people who spent a little time on their digital contact card, it's such a fast and easy way to share information straight from their phone, even including their picture. Definitely my favorite way of receiving someone's information & I never lose it.