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The Ultimate Guide to Building & Maintaining a Powerful Real Estate Network

Jordan Thibodeau
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The Ultimate Guide to Building & Maintaining a Powerful Real Estate Network

When you get started in real estate investing, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with the multiple niches of investing. Each niche requires a unique set of skills that sometimes don’t translate to other strategies. But there’s one skill that is applicable to all forms of real estate investing that doesn’t get enough attention: building your real estate network. Knowing how to build your real estate network is the most important aspect of real estate investing. It’s a skill that transcends all others and will make or break your real estate endeavors.

Without your real estate network, you’re flying blind in real estate. A real estate network exposes you to deals, financial capital, contractors, property managers, and off-market information. When you’re new to an area, typically the first thing you do to start your real estate network is reach out to a real estate agent. Most investors focus on the official job function of an agent: to represent you during the process of buying property. Anyone new to real estate thinks, “Oh, some random person is just helping me buy a piece of property for 3%. I’m better off just going to Redfin or getting a lawyer to help me close deals.” But that thought process misses the true value of a real estate agent, which is their network. In essence, when you agree to work with a real estate agent, you’re gaining access to the network that took her many years of hard work to build. So, how did the agent go about building this network?

The Glue That Holds Networks Together: Social Capital

Much time is spent on learning on how to attract capital for deals, but little time is spent on the other form of capital—social capital. In our context, social capital can be defined as the trust between two parties developed through regular interactions and business transactions. Look at it as the glue that holds your real estate investing network together. Without it, your ability to get things done in real estate investing is greatly compromised.

If you regularly contribute to the BiggerPockets forums, you have created social capital that will allow you to connect with others to pursue your real estate goals. If you have a history of closing deals with your real estate agent, you have developed healthy social capital that will incentivize her to come to you first when she has a great deal. If you’re known in BiggerPockets’ meetup groups as someone who helps people connect, you have social capital that can be translated to future partnering opportunities.

Some of you might look at social capital as new age real estate investing gobbledigook, but in financial markets, social capital is referred to as goodwill—and companies are willing to pay billions of dollars for it because it’s the social grease that keeps the dollars coming in.

Due to lack of social capital new investors have in the community, they might run into issues because agents, bankers, and property managers don’t know if they’re worth the time commitment. So instead, they might send newbies bad deals—or the newbie might have to deal with terrible agents and property managers desperate for work. Social capital is a barrier to entry. It prevents unproven investors from penetrating the core of a valuable network—and rightfully so because the network needs to protect itself from strangers who might not be ready to contribute to it or who could hurt it through leaching, backstabbing, or just plain mischief (more on this later).

So how do we build social capital?


How to Build Social Capital

The simplest way to build social capital is shown in this formula:

Familiarity + Honesty + Giving = Social Capital

Let’s dive into detail for each of the 3 elements that make up social capital.


Let me know if you have seen this before on the BiggerPockets forums.

Hey, BiggerPockets! I have a great deal, but I need capital. Would anyone be willing to invest $1,000,000 with me?


Person No One Knows

Most people wouldn’t consider investing their money with a stranger because they are taking a huge financial risk. The investor hasn’t put in the ground work necessary to make themselves known in the investor community. Some people commit this sin out of ignorance, and others are just plain lazy. ( Thank goodness they are because that’s what makes social capital valuable—it takes considerable time to develop.) So, how do you build familiarly? We will get to that later in this guide when we talk about the People Funnel.

Related: How to Build a Million-Dollar Network of Private Money Investors


Everyone says they’re honest, but if that was the case, there wouldn’t be dishonest people in our society. When I say honesty, I’m not looking for you to tell every investor your deepest and darkest secrets. However, it’s critical to clearly communicate with others what your intentions are. If you’re a real estate agent selling class D investment properties in North Dakota, be clear with your potential investors that these investments are risky and if you aren’t prepared you could lose your shirt.

The easiest way to break your credibility with people is trying to play the role of a know-it-all. If you don’t know the answer to a question, be up front and tell the person you don’t know. Counterintuitively, this builds credibility with others because they learn that you are honest enough with yourself and others to not make up answers. More importantly, when you talk about something you do know about, people are more willing to listen to you.

Another aspect of honesty is knowing when to prioritize the needs of others over your own. As an example, let’s talk about selling fruit (tasty fruits like apples and oranges, not grapefruit). Mike sells oranges, and Frank wants to buy apples. Mike could try to convince Frank to buy oranges, and with enough sales pressure, he could convert Frank into an orange buyer. High pressure sales might work for a few customers, but over the long-term, Mike could force people into buying fruit they don’t want, leading to dissatisfied customers and poor reviews, which will hurt his business. The good salesman that Mike is, he realizes Frank wants apples, and he will do what he can to help them find an apple provider. Down the road, Frank will remember Mike’s honesty and will recommend Mike to his friends and family, leading to more business for Mike.

It’s easy to see what Mike should do in the abstract, but when you finally find your “great” deal and you are in desperate need of funds, you could fall into the trap of trying to put people into deals that might not be a good fit for them. Don’t fall into this trap. Do what’s right for people, and you will be rewarded.


One of the most important elements that I’m going to devote an entire section to.

Successful investors are like gardeners, but instead of nurturing plants, they nurture people by helping them grow and providing solutions to their problems without the expectation of something in return. In Adam Grant’s book Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Successir?t=biggerpocke0a 20&l=am2&o=1&a=0143124986, he calls these people Givers. A Giver is someone who seeks to help others selflessly for the sake of making a positive impact in their lives. Unlike Matchers, who give only when they receive, or Takers, who suck people dry, Givers have no intention of receiving anything from those who benefit from their help. According to Give and Take, all the help a Giver provides to their network creates a rising tide of success that results in the Giver out-performing Takers and Matchers. Being a Giver has rewards in the short-term, too. According to research, people who help others are happier, live longer lives, and are less likely to be depressed.

The giving mentality can’t be faked or used as a bargaining chip for future favors because people will see through the deception. I remember a get-together where an individual tried to give me a back rub (yes, really!), offered me a drink, and soon after asked me if he could be introduced to people in my network for his personal gain. Not only was it creepy, but that person also burned his bridge with me and identified himself as a Taker.

Building Social Capital With the Investor’s Toolbox

How can we give to others when we think we have nothing to offer? Mistakenly, many people think that in order to build a real estate network, one must inherently be charismatic, held in high esteem, or have tons of money. Luckily, that isn’t the case. In their book Influence Without Authorityir?t=biggerpocke0a 20&l=am2&o=1&a=1119347718, Allan Cohen and David Bradford argue that people focus too narrowly on the tangible assets they value, instead of the intangibles that others value.

Related: How to Take the “Work” Out of Networking (Even if You’re Nervous & Inexperienced)

The Investor’s Toolbox has 5 tools that you can use to give to others without requiring anything but your own effort. They are:


Apply your skills to help someone achieve their real estate goals. If you’re a great marketer, maybe you can help an investor improve their advertisements for their rental properties. Are you awesome at Excel? Maybe you can help an investor set up a spreadsheet to track possible investment opportunities.


Provide someone with counsel or resources to help them achieve their real estate goals without charging them anything. You can share your experiences with others to help them work through their problems or provide them with advice.

Sweat Equity

Offer extra hands on someone’s project or find information (articles and books on real estate, potential leads, etc.) to help them when you lack expertise. It’s a great way to start networking, learn new things, and cement a relationship.


Facilitating introductions between two or more people to help either person further their real estate goals. Maybe a contractor is looking for a realtor to sell their fix-and-flip or realtor is looking for clients. Act as the connector and the people you introduce will never forget that you connected them to each other.


Show people who have impacted your life that you appreciate them. Writing a thoughtful thank you note can do a lot to make you feel happier and the person you’re thanking feel appreciated. Maybe when you read an article on BiggerPockets that impacts your investing career, you write a note to the author to let them know their writing has improved your life.

Next time you meet someone, remember the Investor’s Toolbox, and think of ways you can apply it towards your relationship.


The Social Capital Habit

It’s important to educate yourself in real estate investing, read quality books, watch videos, etc. But in order to get your investing off the ground, you must spend regular time each day building your social capital. While deals might be scarce in your market due to where we stand in the late stages of the real estate cycle, you must continue to build your social capital so when the market slows down, you have opportunity to act.

I know some real estate agents that spend a minimum of 10 hours per week looking for new clients, prospecting for deals, and getting their name out in the market. While most of us have full-time jobs and are unable to do so, we must spend regular time each week engaging in similar activities to build our social capital. Be it one hour a week or 10, you must continually interact with people in your real estate market to build your social capital.

Assuming you’re working a full-time job, you need to spend at the minimum one hour a week talking to someone about real estate. Why? Because it will help you learn new things, crystalize your investment strategy, and build momentum towards your real estate goals. I said an hour at minimum because you need to make the commitment to yourself that you’re taking your real estate endeavors seriously.

So, how much time will you commit each week to develop your social capital? STOP READING NOW AND MAKE THE COMMITMENT. If you do make the commitment, message me so we can hold each other accountable!

So now you have your toolbox and have made a time commitment. What’s next? You need to get out there and meet people.

How to Build Your Real Estate Network

Messaging people on the BiggerPockets forums is a great way to make your voice heard, but nothing beats real time communication through a phone call or meeting in person. But what if you’re not a social butterfly and are super introverted? How can you go about getting started?

Introducing the People Funnel

A people funnel is a grouping of people dedicated to a common cause that amplifies your reach and ability to connect with new people while minimizing the fear of rejection. A people funnel is a BiggerPockets meetup group, a Facebook or Reddit group, Toastmasters club, after-work basketball team, or a volunteer group. A people funnel can be offline or online, but it’s preferable to have a face-to-face interaction to make it easier to solidify relationships.

Why Do People Funnels Make Meeting New People Easier?

Members of a people funnel share the same love for a common interest or a goal, which develops a shared identity that makes communication easier. This shared interest makes it easier to connect with others. Having a higher purpose helps people shake off the icky feelings of networking, because networking can make us feel dirty.

Different Types Of People Funnels

So, how can we get involved with a people funnel?

Join a funnel.

You can find funnels online, at your work, or through word of mouth. For our purposes, the best place to get started is at BiggerPockets. First, create a BiggerPockets account. Then add a picture of yourself to your account. Write a bio about yourself. If you can, record a video of yourself and share it on your profile so people have a better idea of who you are. Once that’s done, head over to a BiggerPockets meetup page. There, you will find all the events going on in your area. Click on a event to learn about the meetup agenda and to see who’s going. Also, make sure to reach out to attendees before the event so they know who you are.

  • What should you be doing? Make sure your goals align with the funnel’s mission by reading about the group and meeting with the group’s organizers. They are the lifeblood of the group, so you will need to make sure you mesh well with them. Take the time and effort to get to know them, and if they like you, they will start introducing you to other members of the group. It’s a good idea to meet separately with the group organizers to build stronger bonds.
  • Pros and cons: By joining someone else’s funnel, you can start and stop as needed. However, you will have to work harder to make connections because you are new to the group and don’t have a formal position.
  • Example: When I started real estate investing, I began reading BiggerPockets articles and listening to its podcasts. Eventually, I started attending meetups in the Bay Area to develop connections with other investors.

Work for a funnel.

Once you have been a regular member of the funnel, it’s time for you to decide to ramp up your commitment to the funnel.

  • What should you be doing? Ask the organizers of the group if you can help co-host events, recruit new members, or fill a specific need of the group.
  • Pros and cons: You are now a hub in the funnel’s network, which attracts new people to you. The only drawback is you will have to dedicate time to fulfilling your responsibilities.
  • Example: After building relationships at BiggerPockets, I started my own member blog that was eventually promoted to the BiggerPockets Real Estate News blog. I began recruiting BiggerPockets authors to come to my company to give talks on their real estate books. By doing this, my real estate network dramatically increased in size and people started reaching out to me.

Build a funnel.

Start hosting your own BiggerPockets meetups. The benefits of starting a funnel are: You can steer the direction of the group, your connecting efforts are amplified, and you become the central hub for new connections. A good example of this is when I built an employee-organized real estate investment group.  

  • What should you be doing? I created a Google group (you could use Facebook, LinkedIn or any other service) with 20 of my colleagues. After advertising the group through word of mouth, real estate lunches, and 1:1 conversations, we grew it to 3,100 members. I became the central hub of the group, which led to new ways to make connections without having to seek out new people actively. We started bringing in outside speakers, and I recruited other colleagues to take an active role in the group (recruit new members, answer group questions, invite outside speakers, and organize lunches).
  • Pros and Cons: This is initially a significant time commitment outside of work, but your time commitment can be reduced by seeking volunteers and developing a strong sense of community, which allows your group and network to scale without you being directly involved. Also, you need to protect your group from people who are trying to spam the group with their services, people who are providing bad advice, or people who are unloading bad investments to your members.

Your level of involvement in a people funnel is up to you, but in order for you to develop a strong real estate network, it’s critical that you are part of one in some form. As time goes on, you will meet so many people it will become almost impossible to keep track of all of them, so you will need to develop a connection tracker to make sure you aren’t letting any relationships fall apart.

Why Do You Need A Real Estate Connection Tracker?

Like it or not, you can’t remember everything. Odds are you’re going to forget to check in with a potential real estate partner or fail to return a call from a friend. As research on cellular networks shows, persistence in reconnecting with others is important for building long-lasting relationships.

3 Keys to Building a Simple Connection Tracker

There are three keys to creating an effective connection tracker:

  1. It should allow you to track when you last spoke to a person, as well as provide notes from the meeting that you need to follow up on.
  2. It should integrate reminders of when to speak to the person next so you don’t procrastinate or forget.
  3. It should be easy to use. You should be able to access the connection tracker with a few clicks, and it should have minimal friction points.

I’ve created a basic connection tracker you can use. Feel free to make a copy and adapt it as you see fit. As you can see, the spreadsheet has fields for basic contact info with a few added improvements:

  • Depth of Relationship: Tracking the depth of your relationships with different connections can help you spot opportunities for strengthening poor relationships. It can also remind you of meaningful relationships to work on sustaining. I recommend using this four-part scale from Mike Steib’s The Career Manifesto: Discover Your Calling and Create an Extraordinary Lifeir?t=biggerpocke0a 20&l=am2&o=1&a=0143129341:
    • Unfamiliar: A stranger, possibly someone you’ve read about, seen around the office, or heard friends mention.
    • Familiar: An acquaintance you’ve spoken with a few times at a BiggerPockets meetup. Conversations have likely stuck to small-talk. You’re not sure you could ask this person for a favor.
    • Intimate: You have met this person multiple times or have worked with them. You share information with each other and are willing to help each other out. Your trust in them has limits, but you feel comfortable being candid about some things.
    • Meaningful: You know what makes this person tick and have a keen awareness of their motivations, fears, strengths, and weaknesses. You trust in your relationship enough to be honest, even if it means saying something they may not want to hear. You can always count on each other.
  • How did I meet them? It’s important to track how you met people. Was it due to your own initiative? Did you meet them at a BiggerPockets meetup? Or were you introduced by a friend? Eventually, a pattern will emerge that will allow you to know if one your connections is frequently facilitating introductions for you. This means you have the great fortune of knowing a true connector. It will also become apparent if your network is heavily biased towards certain career paths, work habits, locations, etc. A network that’s too similar puts your real estate opportunities at risk, because you are only seeing a narrow band of opportunities.
  • To whom have I introduced this person? Have you paid it forward by trying to introduce this person to someone who can be of service? Maybe you can connect them to an agent or mortgage broker. You want to make sure you’re helping people along their path and are also keeping track of whether you’re connecting too many people to one of your contacts. You don’t want to overwhelm your network.
  • Date of & Days Since Last Contact: This allows you to track how long it has been since you last spoke to the person. You don’t want your critical connections to atrophy due to a lack of contact.
  • What does this person need? During your last interaction with this person, they probably mentioned what they are doing or what they are after. Take note of this so you can help them out if you come across what they need.
  • Tasks: During the meeting, you either promised your friend that you would do something or your friend recommended something for you to do. Following through demonstrates that you listened to the person and value their time. If someone provides you with their valuable time and you don’t follow through, odds are that person won’t help you again.
  • Do I owe this person a thank you note? Did you thank this person for their time and let them know you appreciate their help?


Getting Started with the Connection Tracker

When you begin entering people into the connection tracker, include important people in your life that you don’t see on a regular basis (family, friends, and former colleagues). It might feel weird to write down family, friends, acquaintances, and colleagues to your connection tracker, but I’d much rather do this than risk falling out of touch with people who are important to me. Think of a  connection tracker as an assistant to help you stay in touch with those that you care about in your life. But remember, it will take time to complete this list, so don’t try to complete it in one day.

You’re a Bridge, Whether You Like It or Not

As we transcend through networks by changing schools, investing in new markets, accepting new jobs, and relocating to new areas, we often feel we are leaving old networks behind. However, while we might physically leave the network, these connections never truly go away. When you join a new network, you are serving as a network bridge.

A network bridge is a relationship that links two different networks together. For instance, if you are embedded in a network of fellow contractors and you befriend Emily, a real estate agent with an extensive network of investors that are in need of contractors, your relationship would be considered a network bridge. Through Emily’s network, you have expanded your reach to even more connections that have opportunities for you. Her connections are called “weak ties” because you don’t directly know these connections or only know them as acquaintances. The amount of value both of you can gain from meeting each other’s weak ties can pay tremendous dividends for your real estate endeavors and ability to help others.

Another example of a network bridge is a friend or colleague from an organization you left. Since your last interaction with the network, it has refreshed itself with new information and people. So, by activating this connection, you will be exposed to valuable information and connections. Finding a new network bridge or reactivating an old one has numerous advantages.

Advantages of a Network Bridge

Exposure to New Ideas & Hidden Information

According to University of Chicago Professor Ronald S. Burt, “…people connected across groups are more familiar with alternative ways of thinking and behaving, which gives them more options to select and synthesize from alternatives.” Also, people who are part of numerous network bridges have an informal network of connections that provide them with access to hidden information in their real estate market that might be available to others.

Additional Investing Opportunities & Career Success

Professor Burt found a correlation between individuals that had a rich web of network B=bridges with higher compensation, higher promotion rates, and better performance reviews than their peers. And in our context this could mean additional real estate deals.

Being a Connection Broker

The network bridge makes you the linchpin between two disconnected groups. Without your network bridge, these two groups would never connect. Each group has different wants and needs that can potentially be satisfied by the skills in each group. You act as a connection broker by helping others develop a network bridge. More importantly, because both groups differ, the value you can provide as a connection broker dramatically increases.

Increased Reach Within Your Network

Professor Mark Granovetter found that network bridges are more effective at getting their messages out to larger groups of people due to the diversity of their networks. When you share a message via network bridges, your message will go farther because each network bridge is exposed to people you otherwise would have limited to no contact with (weak ties).

But how can you tell how exposed you are to network bridges?

Network Bridge Exposure

Use the following steps to test your network bridge exposure.

  • How were you introduced to people in your network? If you have updated your connection tracker, review the column titled “How did I meet them?” According to Brian Uzzi, professor of Leadership and Organizational Change at the Kellogg School of Management, “If you’ve introduced yourself to your key contacts more than 65% of the time, then you’re probably building your network using the self-similarity principle and your network may be too inbred.”
  • What are their current roles? If greater than 70% of people you have connected with in the last 60 days are in the same career field (agent, contractor, investor, mortgage broker, property manager, etc.) or company, odds are your connections aren’t network bridges.
  • Use the Social Lab app to check network density. The social lab app connects to your LinkedIn profile to provide a visual map of your connections. Based on the visualization, you can see if your network is highly concentrated or dispersed. People who are located at the periphery of your network could be future network bridges.

You have now learned a solid foundation on what it takes to a build a real estate network. Let’s summarize what we have learned today.


So far we learned:

  • The importance of a real estate network
  • What social capital is and its three elements: familiarity + honesty + giving
  • How to build social capital via the investor’s toolbox
  • People funnels and how they can be used to expand your network
  • The importance of committing regular time to develop the social capital habit
  • The power of tracking your network
  • What a network bridge is and how to identify it

What’s left? Get out there and build your network!

Last but not least, a very special thank you to Ariana Ling for helping me edit this article.

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