Sexual advances from a prospective tenant

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So this is a first for me...

I had a prospective tenant look at an apartment last week. They asked to see the lease so I emailed them a copy of the lease. The individual next emailed me over the weekend and asked if they could look at the apartment again, and we set up a time to do it (tomorrow). They then wen on to email and text me suggestive pictures of themselves and offer me a "pat down" along with other inappropriate comments. 

Obviously this is not somebody I want to rent to or want around my other tenants. Quite honestly I think there may be mental stability issues there. My inclination is to email the individual and tell them that there's been an apparent misunderstanding and suggest that they rent somewhere else. 

BP'ers: Is there a need to be concerned that I could be discriminating against this individual here? I'd really appreciate your ideas of how you would handle this.

I gotta admit, when you landlord, you see it all...

TIA!

You know, this sounds like the beginning of virtually all pornos with landlords 😂.

The short answer is don't rent to anyone you're not comfortable with. Keep your "documentation" that they sent you and ignore them going forward; if there's ever any claim of discrimination you have the pictures and texts and that's all you'll need. 

Thank you!

These texts and emails went from zero to sixty so fast I thought maybe they had been hacked. Overnight they continued and got more explicit. Here's what I'm sending:

"Dear XXXX,

It appears we have a misunderstanding. Yesterday when I set up our meeting I had not seen the pictures you sent. Please cancel our meeting today. It would be in both of our best interest if you were to rent from somebody else."

Sound good?

Originally posted by @Marvin Meng :

Thank you!

These texts and emails went from zero to sixty so fast I thought maybe they had been hacked. Overnight they continued and got more explicit. Here's what I'm sending:

"Dear XXXX,

It appears we have a misunderstanding. Yesterday when I set up our meeting I had not seen the pictures you sent. Please cancel our meeting today. It would be in both of our best interest if you were to rent from somebody else."

Sound good?

 I suppose if you have another meeting scheduled you probably have to say something, but if not I would just pretend like the guy/girl did not exist and move on. That's not bad overall if you have to speak to them. 

Thanks - yeah they said they wanted to see it again today. I'll use that. Thanks again! I've had to deal with inappropriate behavior before but nothing this blatant or agressive.

@Marvin Meng Hi! That's my old stomping grounds. Grew up in Glen Carbon and graduated from SIUE.

It sucks that you are having this problem. I would call to police and ask about a restraining order if they persist. For yourself and the property address so they can't bother the tenants.

That's a good idea to keep in my hip pocket. I sent the email and haven't heard back but I think if they persist in any way I will try the restraining order. Thanks!

My guess is that they either don't meet the rental qualifications or they can't afford the rent and are looking to exchange sex. I suspect this happens way more than most landlords would publicly admit. 

I'd run away from this person, unless the bearded person in your pic is you. Then you should consider taking them up on their offer as this may be your only chance.

I agree...CANCEL! But I would recommend making it very clear in writing why you are canceling in case they decide to try the discrimination path. Simply state that you do not feel comfortable with how the conversation went and that you would not be comfortable with this no matter who it was.