I'm a 6 month newbie to property ownership but this was the topic on my mind. I think the initial question is important, and everyone's input here is both funny and real. Thanks to all for your words.
@Susan Herschell I have struggled with this question as well. Words that bubbled to the surface for me recently was "Landlord with a heart", which isn't a word but a new idea, which those close to me loved and wondered how I would use it which I don't really know. I know I'm gonna get ripped on here for saying that, and it's not what I propose calling anyone, it's just an idea to work with. One that is contradictory as all will see landlord as a heartless individual. No matter what we do it seems this dicotomy will always be. It is old... really old. and as I move in to land lording my own way, I think this word is terrible and simply reinforces this old power dynamic. And I think this dynamic works on any financial status... I bought a really ****** building that is over 100 years old and it is both joy and hardship. All I keep telling myself and everyone else that I will raise the bar without raising rent, and I will keep accepting section 8 no matter how nice I make it. I also have 2 apartments of Somali who I know but they all call me landlord. The ENTIRE NEIGHBORHOOD calls me landlord. It's both funny and weird and not right, but after 6 months of living here as well it is simply my presence that is slowly breaking down barriers to what people think a landlord is, and maybe someday they will just call me Jeremy which is starting to happen. And I feel like everyone on here as their motivation and style, and that we want to put ourselves out there in that way. Be the change if change is what you wish.
I hope that doesn't sound high and mighty... I'm humbled by how hard this is, and how demanding people can be, and how shockingly sneaky they can be to get what they want. Like a new toilet.... whether I can fix it or not they just kept saying new toilet. I was almost done fixing it and the little girl who was watching me work broke the tank. Now new toilet.
Then there's race and class. I think that's what's missing here that is in my thoughts. And in the end Susan I wish for all to have housing that is fair and affordable and not a ******** because it is fair and affordable. And "landlord" certainly does not say that when it has such a history of "I have power over you so pay up or get out".
And on that point, I rent to Somali and I recently learned they don't have rent where they are. They go to the woods and get material, squat some land, build a house, farm it, done. So now they are here fleaing oppression and have to come up with 1000-1500 in rent, which even most Americans can't do. Think about that.
To all... yes there's the legal terms of it and that's fine and isn't the question put on the table here. It's a feeling when you say the word. I know it feels powerful to be landlord because it gives us money and many choices. Tenants don't have as many choices and have anger and fear for that, which comes at you when you demand rent, or a late fee, evict, or whatever. Of course you should do those things and must in our way, but it's all "how" you do it.
I'll move on but leave one last thought...
I have Somali tenants like I mentioned. Now they have NO TOILET. They will by end of today but as of this moment 11 people have no toilet and I didn't do it. I've invited them to use my place as they wish, and I truly don't care and leave the door open, but only the children I know come up. We've become friendly but there is obviously still mistrust and question marks because I am landlord. I think this is the actual reason why the landlord connection stinks when you just want to help and it is not taken. These people come from a country where slavery still exists. And in this building they have often lived without water and electricity. And just because I am changing the building to be better doesn't mean anything to them because it's got a long way to go.
AT THE SAME TIME... and this feels big... we think we are perfect as landlords we are not. We will never hear their hopes and fears and what makes them comfortable if all we do is collect rent and fees. As I was fixing the toilet my tenant got the call her mom passed away. I listened to her cry and tried so hard to get out of there with a working toilet and let them be. No toilet, with tons of people paying respects. What's worse? In my frazzle to solve their problems I cut a pipe and had to turn off water to the entire building because I didn't know what else to do. NO ONE HAD WATER FOR 5 HOURS. Again, like 50 people came to pay respects and I was in the middle of it. They laughed at me, joked a little, and the tenant told the story to all and it was actually a good distraction that showed me laughing in the face of adversity which I'm pretty sure some of my friends would never put up with. But if we think we deserve whatever we feel like deserving and our business should never ever cause us problems and treat people like chess pieces to get there, I feel we should think again at what we inflict on others sometimes.
I don't care if you hate or love what I've said I would love to hear responses to this.