Hi @Rod Lambe!
Reading your post and the responses really hit me hard. I'm sorry that you felt so discouraged that you would "just go away". I've been in this business for 17 years and I can tell you that it's not as easy and glamorous as people make it seem. There is a lot of hard work, disappointments, and learning that goes into this--it's not a get rich quick thing by any means. Most people you see out there having success don't share about the fails and the hard times they went through to get where they are now. All of that said, here are a few things that might be helpful:
Work on your mindset. If one little setback is going to knock you down, then being an entrepreneur is not for you. You've got to get mentally tough to overcome the million difficult things that this business is going to throw at you.
Start small. If you are just getting started, maybe you don't jump right into a big expensive deal. Have you tried birddogging? What about wholesaling? Both require little to no money and a much lower risk.
Continue to educate, but make sure to take action. Sure, you're never going to know everything--there's too many variables there. But choose one or two exit strategies and learn all you can about those. Also remember there are a lot of ways to finance properties, not just the conventional way. There's hard money out there and private money. I believe Bigger Pockets has a book by Matt Faircloth on raising private money. I would suggest reading that. I've used private money exclusively since day 1. I don't ever recommend leveraging your own money to do deals. If your deal is good enough there is always going to be a buyer, which makes me wonder if you know how to analyze a deal properly--you may need to educate more on that aspect. The property is FSBO, but is that price the full market value of the property? I never suggest offering the asking price, that's just a starting point. You may also want to learn about negotiating to help know what to say when you go on the appointments. Power Negotiating is a great book. Also anything from John Martinez is awesome, he teaches negotiating specifically for RE investors.
Build your network, buyers list, and critical industry relationships. If you're going to wholesale a deal you will need buyers to market to. And a title company to close the deal. Contractors if you plan to rehab. A Realtor if you plan to list. Keep those things in mind and take the time to find key people you can leverage in your business.
Be patient. Getting your first deal takes time and consistency. So many people throw in the towel right before things are about to happen. It's awesome that you're fired up about REI, but keep in mind this is a long game if you plan to do this seriously. It took months to get our first deal. Also understand that the deals will ebb and flow, so be prepared for that. Be consistent with your marketing and ALWAYS follow up, even if you lose out on a deal. You'd be surprised how many deals fall out, and if you're good at follow up you will be there to pick it up later.
Last of all--YOU CAN DO THIS---but ONLY if you want it bad enough and are willing to put in the work. I wish you all the best and will be so excited for you to get your first deal.