But it's super important that your wife feels well taken care of, (i.e. if there's to be sacrifice involved and delayed gratification.....it has to be a goal and "fun" for both of you); it's also important that you feel like you're doing the right thing by her and your children.

The 2/1 yielded traveling medical professionals, the 4/3 a recently divorced man with children and grandchildren in the area he wanted a large home for them to visit and stay in as they wish while he finalized his living situation.

The final cleaning is done by the adult children and the wife does the invoicing.

It's been a pretty good couple years, he's not a wannabe anymore and my valuations has grown substantially. 

don’t plan to sell at all, plan to hold it forever, then pass to the children in the future.  

Also our incomes have grown significantly during that time as well and our expenses have gone down as things I wanted in my 30’s I don’t care about in my 40’s

People tend to forget that a flagship big name city is only part of the equation and that there are other surrounding cities within a county or metro area that can be the inverse of the county seat.For example, Phoenix has grown by roughly 20% since 2010 while Gilbert, a city/suburb just outside Phoenix has grown by about 27%.

Oceanside has really grown into a hip and fun coastal area with so many great restaurants, cafes, and boutiques.

I prefer to rent to tenants with dogs as I get 30/dog and an additional 600 security deposit and people with dogs as well as younger children like fences. 

Taking that into consioderation and the fact that the population has not grown in the region and that there are quite a few new apartments complexes being built what do you think is happening?