If you pull all of your money back out, you invite back some or all of that risk.No one starts in this business planning to get foreclosed on, but it still happens. 

Also, housing allowance is paying most or all of your mortgage right now I assume. 

It's the cost of my tenant's "housing" in the hotel that I am apparently providing.I called the agency and asked about the bill.You failed to provide adequate housing conditions sir - and then failed to respond to our demands for repairs - so we had no choice but to remove the tenant and minor children to appropriate housing.What was inadequate about the housing I provided?  

If  their answers don't align with your expectations, then you most likely could consider them to be an inadequate fit for your rental property.

But if we want a big payday, we will need to do some or all Climate control for the large REITS to buy, which they would in this location. 

There is potential that you can finish the job, rent out, and recoup some or all of your investment in the future. 

I know you said all in or all out, but what about getting a full service property manager so you don't have all the headaches of being a landlord?

And personally I only do it in my local market as I have dealbreaking issues with relying on 3rd parties for key services in a remote market (and with, in my opinion, inadequate supervsion and lack of complete alignment). 

Your unhealthy relationship is a separate issue from future goals as an RE investor - as many have already pointed out.I'm surprised by the number of tired stereotypes referenced about what "all women" or "all men" are like/need/want, but that's an aside. 

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