Thinking I should email HOA president and demand he needs to facilitate a meeting for all concerned parties to come to an agreement, and possibly contact legal counsel?

That said if you ask enough people you will eventually get a yes but it might not be beneficial for either party involved either...

Particularly to the applicant who "sets the bar" (the one in the first 1/e that scores the highest): If they applied later (or were considered later), they'd have gotten the place, but instead get a rejection letter.

Since a divorce in general means both parties are going their separate ways, they generally want to maximize the proceeds from sale, so again, likely not a substantial discount unless it is warranted.What the OP needs is an experienced partner frankly.  

Nice bar as well :)

We see this when there are essentially two different parties living in the same residence.

If you are talking a 15 million dollar deal then obviously many of the parties are top level from the commercial brokers down to the attorneys and the buyer and the seller.It is a war back and forth to get a balanced deal and go under contract.

For my part, I am a little worried about long-term prospects in Syracuse.

Have you gone to the top of this page and typed HUD into the search bar.

We currently own the bar in Victor but lease the building with only a few months left.