Without you knowing it you have moved to Venezuela where social justice for the community trumps your property rights. 

The people closest to me who are not REI are telling me now isn't the time due to he social distancing.

Demand is very high, supply artificially low (sellers keeping their homes off the market to maintain social distances) .. 

I feel that single family homes and small multis which provide tenants some private yard space, parking close to their front door, and other 'social distance' criteria will be in more demand. 

You also might want to contact the Salvation Army (or a church) and see if they will set up a free coffee table and offer some advice on where these people can get some social assistance.

One thing I like about social is that it allows you to use other content to start a conversation.

When a soft opening occurs it will likely take many months as social distancing and how many people can be in a space will allow more and more density back to get to full operation levels.

We have talked on the phone etc no red flags I feel in my gut , but I am still struggling with following all the steps because her social is in Canada and I am not sure what to do with it?

She has his social security coming in for income and her grandson has agreed to find a place with her so he can help out with rent & bills.

Happy to get you plugged into something like this but might need to wait until social distancing loosens up a bit.