Living in small multi family home with family of 4

[Logan Ogg]

BP,

I am new to REI, but I've been doing my research to find the best way to start off, and am open to your opinions too.
I want to use FHA or my VA loan to "house hack" a small multi family home for CF. The hardest part, besides running the numbers and finding a good location, is convincing my wife to live in a duplex or Triplex with our newborn twins.
I would love to hear about any of your experiences with living in a small multi family home like that (with a family) how many beds, baths, and sq. feet it was and how comfortable and manageable it was. 

If it was only up to me I’ve always been able to adapt and could live in a studio with 4 people, but I need my wife to be happy with the circumstances too. Any advice would be much obliged!