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Updated almost 11 years ago on . Most recent reply

How to overcome the newbie jitters.
Good Day Folks,
I attended a very good meetup last night in Baltimore that left me feeling even more sure that this is what I want to do (if that's even possible). Anyway, I didn't do much networking. There's a two part reason for that. The first part is because I am a little shy when put into unfamiliar situations. The second, and more important, reason is because I still don't' feel knowledgable enough to hold conversations with others about REI. I know the basics and may be slighting myself on how much I do know, but it is still rather intimidating. Any suggestions on how to overcome this?
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I went to a Dave Lindahl seminar earlier this year, and there was a guy who gave a 45 minute presentation on how to network. I remember him getting up there, and I was thinking to myself, "Ugh...do I really have to sit through 45 minutes of someone telling me how to hand my business card to someone?"
Long story short, 45 minutes later -- after being thoroughly entertained and educated -- I wanted to take that guy to lunch to pick his brain even more! He made me realize that networking isn't about business (at least not primarily) -- it's about people.
When you start to think about networking as an opportunity to get to know people and to figure out how you can help *them* (as opposed to how they can help *you*), your entire perspective changes. Suddenly, you're not talking to someone, trying to impress them and constantly evaluating whether you're wasting your time or not...if you're genuinely interested in learning about someone and are genuinely interested in finding out how you may be able to help them, you start to realize that it's more about what you HEAR, and not about what you SAY.
You ask questions and really listen to the answers. And people like you and me (introverts), it's often easier to listen than it is to talk.
Btw, I remember you sitting in the front row last night. Next month, I hope you'll find me and introduce yourself. We can both practice our networking... :)