Am I being unreasonable or should I change my realtor?

Am I being unreasonable or should I change my realtor?

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I have a realtor agent who has been good with showings. The problem that I discovered recently was he negotitates with me regarding the offer price. It has happened thrice in a row. I feel like all my energy is getting wasted in convincing my realtor to put an offer. Had he put an offer I would have known the outcome of my approach.

Following is an example of what happened in the last deal.

The seller's motivation was to upsize.
I offered with x amount and my agent came with a feedback saying that the other party would be interested only if I raise the offer by $20,000 more than what I have initially offered. I told my realtor to do any of the following.

I am fine with raising my offer value to x + $20,000 but I want something in return as my budget was x + $10,000. I asked my realtor to pick any of the following options as condition.

1. Boiler had to be replaced.

2. Shingles need to be changed.

3. Can bear my closing costs.

4. They can leave all the appliances along with dining table and chairs.

5. Since the heating was outdated I asked to get forced air AC + Heating with duct installed (This sounded unachievable to me as well)

To my surprise my agent argued with me saying that they would not accept any conditions and did not put an offer in the end.

Am I being unreasonable or should I change my realtor?

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Jay HinrichsBusiness Member
Real Estate Consultant · Summerlin, NV · Member since 2014 · 45k+ posts · 66k+ votes
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your doing this backwards.. you need to put your offer in at full price with inspection contingencies .. then when these items become known you re trade at that point NOT UP FRONT> And you dont have to let your agent know your thought process.

Get in contract so seller is somewhat vested in the deal.. then hit them with your wish list and let the negotiations happen through repair and inspection addendums.. NOT UP FRONT>

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  • Mike MatlockPro Member
    Omaha, NE · Member since 2023 · 2 posts · 1 vote
    1y

    Change realtors.  He may be correct in what he's saying but he's not working on your behalf...he's working to get the seller more.  Also, he's supposed to write your offer and let them counter.

  • Lender · Lake Geneva WI, USA · Member since 2023 · 141 posts · 72 votes
    1y
    Quote from @Boddupalli Sai Praneeth:

    I have a realtor agent who has been good with showings. The problem that I discovered recently was he negotitates with me regarding the offer price. It has happened thrice in a row. I feel like all my energy is getting wasted in convincing my realtor to put an offer. Had he put an offer I would have known the outcome of my approach.

    Following is an example of what happened in the last deal.

    The seller's motivation was to upsize.
    I offered with x amount and my agent came with a feedback saying that the other party would be interested only if I raise the offer by $20,000 more than what I have initially offered. I told my realtor to do any of the following.

    I am fine with raising my offer value to x + $20,000 but I want something in return as my budget was x + $10,000. I asked my realtor to pick any of the following options as condition.

    1. Boiler had to be replaced.

    2. Shingles need to be changed.

    3. Can bear my closing costs.

    4. They can leave all the appliances along with dining table and chairs.

    5. Since the heating was outdated I asked to get forced air AC + Heating with duct installed (This sounded unachievable to me as well)

    To my surprise my agent argued with me saying that they would not accept any conditions and did not put an offer in the end.

    Am I being unreasonable or should I change my realtor?


     I change realtors the second they show any signs of weakness. Your property, youre in power, dont let a smooth talking realtor or contractor make you feel differently.  If they're not marketing or property searching as hard as you'd like then move onto the next one until you find one who understands the grind and actually works for the commish. 

  • MD/DC · Member since 2024 · 1k+ posts · 1k+ votes
    1y

    Both. Personally I think your offers are questionable-regardless of where the concession comes from the bottom line is the bottom line. You are setting up an adversarial relationship with the seller with the takeout style menu options that are all the same in the end. I am often firm on my offer but very clearly state that up front to avoid wasting anyone’s time. But of course a realtor has to present their client’s offer regardless of their opinion so I would shop for a realtor who will be on board with your negotiating style. 

  • Chris SeveneyBusiness Member
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    Investor · VA · Member since 2015 · 21k+ posts · 19k+ votes
    1y
    Quote from @Boddupalli Sai Praneeth:

    I have a realtor agent who has been good with showings. The problem that I discovered recently was he negotitates with me regarding the offer price. It has happened thrice in a row. I feel like all my energy is getting wasted in convincing my realtor to put an offer. Had he put an offer I would have known the outcome of my approach.

    Following is an example of what happened in the last deal.

    The seller's motivation was to upsize.
    I offered with x amount and my agent came with a feedback saying that the other party would be interested only if I raise the offer by $20,000 more than what I have initially offered. I told my realtor to do any of the following.

    I am fine with raising my offer value to x + $20,000 but I want something in return as my budget was x + $10,000. I asked my realtor to pick any of the following options as condition.

    1. Boiler had to be replaced.

    2. Shingles need to be changed.

    3. Can bear my closing costs.

    4. They can leave all the appliances along with dining table and chairs.

    5. Since the heating was outdated I asked to get forced air AC + Heating with duct installed (This sounded unachievable to me as well)

    To my surprise my agent argued with me saying that they would not accept any conditions and did not put an offer in the end.

    Am I being unreasonable or should I change my realtor?


    Tough without the context and how many properties have you visited? If you have visited 20 offers and each one you are trying to scrape every last penny out of the deal then yes you are being unreasonable. Lets say your agent knows the other agent and they provide them with the verbal, the other agent may say "they are not taking less than X", so your agent letting you know this and throwing out options within a deal is always a bad idea anyways.

    You will never get a deal closing by giving a seller 3 options. 

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    • Member since 2025 · 10 posts · 0 votes
      1y
      Quote from @Chris Seveney:
      Quote from @Boddupalli Sai Praneeth:

      I have a realtor agent who has been good with showings. The problem that I discovered recently was he negotitates with me regarding the offer price. It has happened thrice in a row. I feel like all my energy is getting wasted in convincing my realtor to put an offer. Had he put an offer I would have known the outcome of my approach.

      Following is an example of what happened in the last deal.

      The seller's motivation was to upsize.
      I offered with x amount and my agent came with a feedback saying that the other party would be interested only if I raise the offer by $20,000 more than what I have initially offered. I told my realtor to do any of the following.

      I am fine with raising my offer value to x + $20,000 but I want something in return as my budget was x + $10,000. I asked my realtor to pick any of the following options as condition.

      1. Boiler had to be replaced.

      2. Shingles need to be changed.

      3. Can bear my closing costs.

      4. They can leave all the appliances along with dining table and chairs.

      5. Since the heating was outdated I asked to get forced air AC + Heating with duct installed (This sounded unachievable to me as well)

      To my surprise my agent argued with me saying that they would not accept any conditions and did not put an offer in the end.

      Am I being unreasonable or should I change my realtor?


      Tough without the context and how many properties have you visited? If you have visited 20 offers and each one you are trying to scrape every last penny out of the deal then yes you are being unreasonable. Lets say your agent knows the other agent and they provide them with the verbal, the other agent may say "they are not taking less than X", so your agent letting you know this and throwing out options within a deal is always a bad idea anyways.

      You will never get a deal closing by giving a seller 3 options. 

      Hi Chris,

      I will further explain myself as I might not have explained in the situation clearly earlier. First offer on the house was presented and the realtor came back with a feedback saying I need to raise my my offer by $20,000. I have asked my realtor that if I am giving what they want I think I can also counter with a condition in return. Each time I came up with a condition which I explained in my post. He declined (right on my face) each condition at a time stating that I cannot ask for conditions without even presenting my offer nor asking the seller agent...

      I have visited around 6 showings with him. 

  • Jay HinrichsBusiness Member
    Real Estate Consultant · Summerlin, NV · Member since 2014 · 45k+ posts · 66k+ votes
    1y

    your doing this backwards.. you need to put your offer in at full price with inspection contingencies .. then when these items become known you re trade at that point NOT UP FRONT> And you dont have to let your agent know your thought process.

    Get in contract so seller is somewhat vested in the deal.. then hit them with your wish list and let the negotiations happen through repair and inspection addendums.. NOT UP FRONT>

  • Flipper/Rehabber · Bloomfield CT · Member since 2020 · 1k+ posts · 409 votes
    1y

    Your realtor is likely feeling frustrated that they may not win the deal and won't get paid and therefore not acting in your best interests. Now is the time to find a new agent 

  • Seth McGatheyBusiness Member
    Real Estate Agent · Milwaukee WI · Member since 2024 · 321 posts · 254 votes
    1y

    As a realtor myself, a realtor should give their reasons why they feel a certain price is too high, but if you reject their reasons, they should either adjust to what you want or say that they can't help you. They should never just not listen to you. 

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  • Rental Property Investor · Malvern, PA · Member since 2016 · 1k+ posts · 936 votes
    1y

    It looks like Seller requested you to raise your offer by $20k. You can offer anything you want back, but don't expect to get a deal if you aren't offering $20k more. Get to a price agreement with an inspection clause, then nickel and dime Seller as mentioned above.

    A few back and forth exchanges are normal. I haven't had an agent refuse to submit my counter, but I have received feedback from my agent that Seller won't take less than X according to the other agent, so don't waste time. Your agent might be trying to tell you that.

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