Can you help me understand?

[Joseph Bass]

Often times on the podcast and in books they talk about your ability to say "no" and how important it is. You should be able to say to all things that can distract from your goals investing. Then other times they will say that giving is the number one thing to do. To be selfless and add vaule. To make everyone else's life easier will inevitably make you successful. Can you help me draw a line in the sand between the 2 statements and how they both could be achieved?