@Andrew Ager Welcome to Real Estate Investing, sorry entrepreneurship!
Your job (not the easiest, of course) is to figure out creative ways to solve these problems including finding people who have done the same thing you are trying to do.
Listen to me, there is a barrier to entry in any business and REI is no exception.
If you stay at it long enough you are sure to WIN!
Oh, you mentioned: "started off wholesaling, didn't get a single deal"? What does this mean? How many letters or how long did you try for?
I once remember listening to a podcast and the guest said their REI spends a $1,000,000 on marketing for wholesale leads.
What's my point? My point is how are you doing wholesaling? I mean there are many people doing it successfully, right?
KEY: Keep learning and pace yourself (everybody wants to do a deal like yesterday, but they only started investing last week).
To conclude, this is a good website to start your journey, so linger for a bit and you never know what you might learn and who you might be able to partner with.
Hope this helps.