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Originally posted by "ericsupreme":

once i got outside i beat myself up pretty bad(mentally of course)

I just had a mental picture of Jim Carry beating himself up in the bathroom in Liar, Liar...

Lighten up, whatever happens - happens to the best! Learn your lesson, cut yourself some slack - it was your first experience, but experience is what counts! Good luck! :rock:

Pam, thank you so much for such a post. I think I am going to print it out and hang it in the office.
It is very sad that people who worked all their life must take turns in haircuts. I believe this is not the worst, though. I know there are people who suffer more, but hair cut turns.. I feel so sorry for them... Gees, yeah, I do not want that to happen to me.
My husband is less than enthusiastic. He is comfortable right where he is right now - we have a house, we have good paychecks, he works at oil wells (Schlumberger) and he loves being outdoors (play in the mud type thing), he loves his co-workers, he has his wine hobby (he makes wine and recently started making beer), we are all healthy and, except for a not so good credit, we have no problems. Three years ago, he had a very bad job transition: for six month we lived for 600 bucks per month, I was pregnant and was throwing up non-stop. Finally, when I felt better, I broke my leg. Could not do anything with stupid crutches, my 2 year old son was taking care of me. Well, after 6 month, our neighbors were feeding our son. Dona would come over and say, “Hey, guys, common over – let’s have lunch...” I felt so uncomfortable. But she was a friend and she understood. So, I think, that he is scared to be in that position again. I am scared, too. No one would want to go back there… That is just it - he is in his comfort zone. But if one wants more from life, one must move. I guess, I have no right to push him into it, but I would like to have some support)

He likes the idea, but it looks like “I think it is great to see people doing that and succeeding, but I want to stay in my own niche.”

Originally posted by "charles whitaker":

Like Mike said, wholesaling to gain quick capital is quite safe compared to other methods. This method should give you a good working base to start out with.

Well, I am reading as much as I can on wholesaling. This, actually, looks very good if approached with the right grey matter. I would like to read actual books on the subject. Can you recommend any?

As about the exit strategy - I have no idea yet. Blah, turns out I am not as prepared as I thought I was. See, this is the bad things about the books: one can read book all his life, but unless he/she actually do something, one has no experience, and knowledge without experience doesn't have much of a value.

As you said, "It's great to talk about what you want to do, but it feels alot better to actually do it." I AGREE! So, how did you start? What was that final push for you?

Originally posted by "iLikeVanilla":

What business are you running from your home office?

I like vanilla too)
Hey, I am trying to get away from my business here and have some relaxing time at the forum. :beer: I do not want my profession to interfere with anything here. :wowo:
However, if you are so interested, I can drop you a PM.
Here, good enough.

Originally posted by "MikeOH":

I have two ideas.

First, you could join your local REIA (real estate investor's association) and make friends with some SUCCESSFUL investors in your area. Meeting actual people who are making a living in this field might help alleviate his fears.

Second, you could wholesale a property by yourself and make some money with very little risk. When he sees what you have accomplished, that may help.

I'd wait to do a rehab until he is onboard.

Good Luck,

Mike

Thanks, Mike. I'd wait on rehab, too.

:type: Thanks, noobdog, for welcoming me! Boy, am I gonna ask questions! (Former) Straight "A"s student here, you know! :woohoo:

P.S. That is true - there is NO place like home))) Last summer we went there on vacation. As we were driving into Barrington, I opened the window and started deeply inhaling the smell of the ocean... My second half looked at me and said, "What are you doing? You are scaring people!" Lol

Hi,
I just wanted to pay respect to the members of this community.
My name is Tasha, I am 27 years old. My interest in RE? Well, RE, money, fun, hard-work, creative side of the business and work with people.
Currently, I am in WY. Originally, from RI. Who knows what will be next) Hopefully, home) :D

Hi, guys... I am a new member here. I must say that I love this forum. A lot of valueable information and people seem very nice and friendly. Professionals are not snutty and very helpful. New people are sincere and goal-oriented. Well, hello, and here is my topic. This looked like a right category for it...

I have to get this out of my system…
I am a married woman (27) with two young children (6 and 2).
I like all this real estate industry, starting from interior and landscape design finishing with rehabbing...

Couple years ago we had extremely bad job transition (my husband retired from US Army, and it turned out that many years of management experience are not valuable to anyone, so he had tough time finding a job. I, on the other hand, broke my leg on the first day of a new job; needles to say that by the end of the sixth month, our neighbors fed our children and the only food we could actually afford was ramen and spaghetti with nothing in it, even butter or ketchup). I remember our Christmas that year: two hard-boiled eggs, sauerkraut salad and four potatoes. I must tell you it was FUN.

We have gone long way in the last 2 years: my husband makes about 4000 a month, I make anywhere from 3000 to 8000 per month (depending on the month, I guess). We both work a lot. I run my business from home office; therefore, very often you can find me with laptop, coffee and ashtray full of cigarette butts at 3 AM.

I have been thinking about real estate rehab for a long time (probably for a year already). I have read tons of books, etc. etc. etc. my hands grow from where they are supposed to grow, i.e. I can do pretty much anything (of course, except for things that are impossible for me due to the fact that I am a female - I am not that strong as a male). Anyways...

You know when you want something really-really bad, you have almost physical desire – it seems to sit somewhere under your heart and you can feel it. I am not sure if it is a desire, or desperation, but it is there, and it hunts me, it calls my name, it brings tears to my eyes. Please, I am not insane)))) There are no voices in my head… Yet))))

I want to make REI a life career. I am willing to commit. I am not a quitter. I understand that there are ups and down, and I am not gown to drop everything if I will trip. However...

My husband likes the idea, but he is scared to death to start it, to try. I keep bugging him: let’s try… let’s try… we can do it… He says, “Well, I am timid: we have everything so fine right now, why do we need to jump into something we don’t know?” I do, damn it! Here are the books. Search Internet – read things. But he is soooooooooo stubborn.

The thing is that we just got a house. Payments are not the best, but we are making it. I work many many hours, and I practically do not see children at all: I turn their cartoons on, and that’s all they do all day long. Well, I do feed them, too. But... My husband works long hours. He likes his job very much, but I see him maybe 3 hours a day. Kids too. I want my family back! I really think that we need to try, but he is so timid about this, and I cannot do it alone. I mean, I could, but – God forbid! - if I will fail, he is going to eat me with my bones.

The thing is HOW to I talk him onto this. He likes the security of our current life, and he is scared to death to make a move. How do I turn him into joining me? I want him to share this with me. He loves the idea, but he likes someone else doing it and does not want to have anything to do with it himself… It drives me crazy. I look like a little girl who is asking for a candy. A candy she really wants.

I was thinking to figure out a way to start it alone, and then, show him that no one is going to bite his head off, and maybe he will join me… What do you think, guys?