I would suggest that the best way to invest out of state is simply to get a partner. Find the best niche and area in the country and then find a partner to hammer it. Then you'll eliminate the nuisance fee that invariably gets added to OOS investing.
OOS investing can be absolutely ripe with issues. Agree 100%. But there are unique niches that you can only find in certain areas of the country. And you can't replicate them just anywhere. And when the margins are really good, that nuisance fee that you have to account for is peanuts compared to what you can do anywhere else.
I did invest locally (about 6 towns near me) when I started about 15 years ago. And built a sizable portfolio. But self managing 83 houses really took a toll. And quite honestly, the ability to find homes where you could be all in at 75% or better really and truly dried up around here. The investor meetings even stopped because noone was really doing much of anything consistently any more.
I was doing land flipping nationally and hit on an area there in eastern tennessee where the actual build cost and retail cost had an amazing margin. I tried having a partner out there and he just didn't want to stay put. We found a builder or two that would build for basically wholesale costs but managing them was hit or miss and the margins weren't as good.
I was able to partner with my ex brother in law who was a small builder here in illinois and did a bunch of my rehabs as well. He moved out there. We got our gc license. And away we went. We build to sell and build to hold some (the ones we hold we hold individually so we don't split those).
But now I can build new construction cabins that I'm all in at 70% LTV or better so I can BRRR the heck out of these deals. And even with property management built in, I can cash flow positive with essentially no money out of pocket when its all said and done.
I simply could not do the same thing here in illinois. I tried every which way to even come close. Just doesn't work.
So yes, when we build to sell, I'm splitting half the profits. But when we build to hold, I am holding them as 100% owner (he is doing some holds for himself as well). To me, thats an example of where partnering OOS is one of the best ways to take advantage of the margins and specific niche areas in the country and continue to grow.
Going on two years since we got our license, I have three cabins completed with an equity of about 700k and three more in some stage of building right now. My goal is to build 3 to 4 a year for myself as holds to where I can end up with 20 in the next 4 years. If I can pull that off, that will give me about the same equity that I was able to build in 15 years in sfh's. And probably about 4x the cash flow - and someone else is managing these things.
To me, thats why you should never close the door on OOS. There are simply certain markets and niches that you can't replicate where you live. But I do think one of the ways to mitigate the risks and costs is to have a partner - or at the very least keep trying to find that one special contractor or boots on the ground person that is truly dependable. Those people are out there.