First, welcome Dietra!
This is a great site, but like any forum, there is a bit of technique to getting answers. Always put the subject into your heading. That way it will catch the attention of relevant posters. For instance, you put "really need help'. I am a mom-type personality, like to take care of people, so I will always be attracted to a plea for help. Unfortunately, I have limited RE experience, only one buy and hold property so far, not done rehabbing... and I have never explored wholesaling. So, all you can get from me is ...help. Non-specific, and non-expert...
Next, have a specific question about wholesaling. (You might have in your other threads, but since I am totally inexperienced at wholesaling, I didn't pay attention to it...) Maybe you want to make a list of all the relevant steps in getting started in wholesaling, then ask everyone if you missed any steps. Ask if certain things are feasible, or fantasy. A specific example also elicits interest, such as: "I have this house under contract, seller changed ..., buyer needs..." or whatever.
Brace yourself for answers that seem clipped, rude. They are not, they are just giving people a wake up call, if that is what is needed. If the original poster comes back with more questions, clarification, and especially, appreciation, the responders will come back with more good information. Keep coming back to the threads you start, also join in on other threads.
Now, two big steps to getting started (do these at the same time, well, not quite the same minute, but start both this week!):
1. Get a notebook and a pen, start at the first (oldest) posts in the category(s) that you are interested in. Read and make notes. Make note of posters who know their business. Follow those posters, send colleague requests. (Have to admit, I don't know the benefits of 'following' I am still learning too ;-) I got up to about page 40 of the landlording forum before I bought m first buy and hold property. The information I got from this forum was incredible! If you come up with questions as you are reading the older posts, use the search feature to find more information on those subjects. Then back to reading the older posts! Ca-chew! (that's my whip cracking)
2. Find out about the local investor groups in your area, probably REIA- Real Estate Investors Association, and maybe others. Then join those, go to monthly meetings, meet-ups, outings. I wouldn't spend big bucks for 'mentoring' or 'guru' programs yet. Not until you have read all the way through the categories that are relevant on this forum. But, you do need to 'have boots on the ground' in your local real estate market. You need to meet local people, find out about real estate in your locale. For instance, at today's REIA breakfast, I learned that my state has some of the very stiffest fines/penalties for lead paint liability in the nation. I have also previously learned that my city is fairly reasonable with landlords, but the judges don't like to do evictions in the winter months, especially December. For me, this is relevant info. Yours will be different. Remember, all real estate is local. Meet people locally.
Whew! Still with me? Good, you'll make it. You gotta be tenacious to get ahead in this life, but its worth it!
Glad to meet you! Love Texas! Padre Island, San Marcos, San Antonio, Houston, all of it!
Others, please chime in. Yea, sorry I am the mostest wordiest, long-windedest poster! Sorry 'bout that!
Jean