Hey David, I feel your frustration! I've been there, and as a new investor myself, I'm still frustrated about certain aspects of this business. But, I can also tell you that knowledge is KEY to this business. You must decide, though, how serious you are about the real estate investing business. Do you just want to own a few rentals? Or, do you want to scale and own a portfolio full of rentals that will cashflow right into your bank account? There is a big difference, believe it or not. Your approach, how you find your properties, and how you fund your purchases and rehabs can be very different. Knowing what I know now, there is absolutely no point in owning just a few rentals. If you go that far, you might as well keep adding more!
But, like I said, the approach is different. Owning 1-3 is just a hobby and a headache. It doesn't really matter if you buy these properties retail or at a discount, because your return on your investment is so small. Owning such few rentals just means you don't care about 'investing' like an investor--you just like the 'idea' of owning rentals. So, find what you want retail, pay cash or get a conventional loan from the bank and manage the rentals yourself, because it won't be worth the time, money, or headaches to learn the business and do it right, otherwise.
On the other hand, if you are serious about real estate investing, then the goal is to continually add investments to your portfolio, which can include flips, notes, owner-finance, etc. But, you can't do this without knowing the business. There is a lot to learn, like where to find the best deals, how to finance your deals without using your money, how to Joint-Venture on projects, best practices and resources for rehabbing, how to best manage your properties, how to protect yourself from lawsuits, and much, much more! I highly encourage you to read up on articles and different forums on Bigger Pockets, as well, as watch the webinars. And, it is very important that you continue to reach out to the REI community with posts like this and to join different meetup groups, like North Houston REI, 713 Houston Area REI, and Wholesale Nation. Also, complete your BP profile and add a pic. People will take you more seriously.
I'm a local wholesaler who just started in this business the first of this year. I didn't start out that way, though. Because of COVID, I had to change strategies, which is how I got into wholesaling. As a newbie, I didn't want to risk financing a project during the pandemic and wait too long to sell a flip. So, I decided to build my business around finding discounted deals for those investors who continued to buy through the pandemic. It took A LOT of reading, learning, and talking to others in the community to do this. In my opinion, I have come a long way in just a short time. If I can do it, so can you!
Good luck!