I genuinely appreciate all of the responses. Thanks for taking the time to share, I really mean that.
Just a good follow up... in both of the cases I mentioned there was serious mis-information on the part of these other buyer's agents. Miscommunication and lack of understanding seems to be the fatal flaw in so many cases, both business and personal life. As of today I've had a chance to sit down and thoroughly explain the whole situation to both of these agents, along with supporting information straight from HUD.
The one who was calling this fraud admitted "someone told him you can't do that," but after looking at the facts and understanding the whole process is OK with it. He's just concerned because he has an interested buyer who is getting financing through FHA and his lender can't do it. And the agent is not willing to recommend a lender he doesn't know just because they can do it. The second case was a more serious one. That agent said myself and my entire office was violating "ethical issues," and that could have gotten out of hand and taken to the MLS board at least. I sat in person with him and his broker to explain AGAIN for the third time all of the moving parts involved and how it is documented and fully disclosed. This time, however, the broker is there with me in person. The broker completely understands and is OK. So guess what.... the agent is also OK with it. I actually found out that the whole issue arose because the buyer's agent heard wrong information from the listing agent. I told the listing agent to have all buyer's agents call me before writing an offer so I can talk to them and make sure everything is clearly explained... which the listing agent did. This buyer's agent kept pressing the listing agent for info however before calling me. The listing agent swears he didn't tell him this... but the buyer's agent HEARD that if my offer to the bank is counter-offered, then his offer would be submitted along with mine. So his issue was that he thought his and my offers could be competing with each other, and since the listing agent showed me his offer there was an ethical issue. Obviously this isn't the case and we had a great 1 hr. meeting to address a whole bunch of points on the short sale topic and everyone felt great about it. And for the cherry on top.... the broker wants to talk about me coming to do a presentation at their next sales meeting on how I am doing short sales with the A-B,B-C transaction and how it benefits all parties involved. And this is one of the bigger brokers with a good amount of agents. I'm from a smaller family owned type of brokerage so it's interesting to make some potential partnerships with the big boys.
So I'm very relieved that everyone is on the same page. I appreciate everyone's comments. I really needed to double and triple check that I'm OK doing these things the right way and it appears I'm on the right track. So thanks again and I hope this helps someone else out there.