<< My real estate agent who is a close friend of mine wants to talk to him directly, is that normal? >>
I think it's normal as far as the agent wanting to stay aware of where in the loan process you are.
A lot of what agents do is stay aware of various timelines (e.g., the mortgage contingency deadline) and keeping the wheels of progress moving, so I think that's normal and fine.
If you are concerned you could remind your mortgage person that while he's free to share generalities about the status of your mortgage application, he's not free to divulge any personal financial information to the agent.
That should be one of those "goes without saying" kinds of things, but there's probably no harm in being explicit about it if you're concerned.
<< What should I be prepared to ask - what kind of questions besides having my safe zone numbers ready to go? >>
Usually the mortgage person will ask most of your questions.
The important thing is, if you are talking to multiple mortgage people, let them know about that up front and don't commit to paying for an appraisal until you've picked the one you're going with.
Do some honest thinking about what you WANT your monthly mortgage payment (principle & interest, and taxes and insurance - aka PITI) to be. Maybe, according to the mortagage person, you can afford $2000/month. Do you actually want to spend your max though? (Especially if you also want to own rental properties later.)
You do want to ask about all fees, so that you won't be surprised by them, and you do want to get an estimate of how much you'd have to bring to closing for a house in the $X price ball park, again to avoid being surprised close to closing.
Depending on where you are in the buying process, the loan person may ask who your attorney is, or may give you a "list" of attorneys they recommend. I was told by an attorney that while it's presented as "this is the list you can choose from", often you can choose a different attorney just by asking - it's more of a "suggested" list even though that's not usually how it's presented. But you'd want to ask about that of course, if you have an attorney you want to work with who's not on that list.
You'll also want to get the list of documentation they're going to need for the loan applicaiton, though s/he will give that to you. It'll include things like last 2 years' tax returns and W-2s, 2 months of complete bank statements, last 3 pay stubs, etc.
If you're planning to buy a property that needs work, and doing something like a 203(k) loan, make sure to mention that up front and ask about what additional documentation they're going to need and what else is involed beyond a "regular" mortgage.
<< What should I tell him? >>
Whatever he asks, of course. You're asking the bank to loan you a large sum of money, so they're going to want to understand your financial situation thoroughly, so expect detailed applications and lots of questions/documentation. In small residential properties, they're lending based on the individual as much as (if not more so than) the property itself.
<< If get into something that's costly, will I still be able to borrow from him if something else pops up , that kind of thing? >>
It will be based purely on the numbers. Yes, if you spend a lot on your personal residence, you will have less borrowing ability for the next property. It won't depend on how nice you and the loan person chatted, whether you had any hobbies in common, etc. The person you speak to, who takes your initial application and holds your hand through the process, is NOT the one who makes the final lending decision, chances are that's done by a combination of computer algorithms and people located in other states.
<< What questions are geared towards someone wanting to get into multi family and investing, owner occupied financing options, low down payment options, OPM, etc. >>
I think you should just be honest about what you're looking for and about wanting to understand that if you want a certain kind of property, wanting to understand what information the bank is going to need.
The lenders are the ones with the money, they're the ones taking the risk and the ones who will be asking you questions based on what they need to know, in order to make the loan. I think you're over-thinking the process a bit.
The primary way you can help the lender and process is to be specific about what kind of property and price range you're looking for, and to fully disclose everything about your financial situation.
If you're looking for a fixer-upper 203(k), let them know up front. Rental property where you'll occupy one of the units, let them know up front - including how many units you think you'll be looking at (2 fam? 3 fam? 4?). If you plan to move out X years down the road, ask the loan officer what that will mean for the loan, whether you should really live there for a certain # of years before moving, etc.
(The latter is also a question for your accountant since there are tax implications for living in a property X years and then moving out or selling.)
<< Are there are deal sweeteners that I can offer? >>
Loan officers love it when you bring documentation to the initial meeting because it means you know what's required and you'll probably be easy to work with. They love it when you have good records (sexy) and you're not afraid to show it. If you want brownie points feel free to bring to the meeting:
- 3 most recent pay stubs
- 2 years of complete Federal tax returns (all pages)
- 2 years of W-2 tax returns
- 2 months of bank statements (all pages)
- Explanations for any deposits on those bank statements which weren't payroll/salary
And if you have extra time on your hands this weekend and want super duper brownie points, you could start working on the detailed listing of income, expenses, assets and liabilities on a version of the Uniform Residential Loan Application.
Or you could just go to the meeting and let her/him tell you what they want and need from you :)