many members are more interested in being right than being effective

[Mike Dymski]

Some members struggle to help others because their tone is dismissive or overly confident. Responses sound more like lectures than conversations, and it seems like the goal is to win rather than to persuade. Being right becomes more important than being effective. Even good points lose their impact, and other members are unlikely to be open to their feedback. Influence often comes from humility and empathy - qualities that help ideas land more effectively than forceful language ever could. I learned this lesson the hard way and am still working on it.

[Becca F.]

I agree. Some of the name calling and insults is probably going to leave a sour taste with a lot of people on here especially a new investor who's looking for help and empathy.  If I've come across as arrogant or dismissive, I apologize. I try to share my experience so more California investors don't go through what I did.

I've learned a lot in the past 3 years. Before I would extol the greatness of real estate investing to my family or friends and to my California friends about buying out of state in cheaper markets for cash flow. On the latter part, I sure was wrong. I should have trusted my CA friends and agents advice instead of listening to people from OOS that I don't even know. 

Since RE is a lot more work than stocks, it's fine that some people just don't want to invest in RE. If someone asks about my rentals I'll tell them but I don't push it on them anymore. 

I'm reading some of these threads with my popcorn...who needs reality TV  or a 2 hour movie lol 😂