Why I Stopped Talking About My Goals with Friends and Family

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Lately, I’ve realized that not everyone deserves a front row seat to my goals.

Most of my friends and family are good people but they don’t share the same vision or mindset when it comes to building wealth, real estate investing, or taking risks for long-term freedom. And that’s okay. But what I’ve learned the hard way is that sharing my plans with the wrong people can kill momentum before I even start.

You’ll hear things like:

• “That sounds risky.”
• “Real estate is too expensive right now.”
• “Why not just stick to your job and play it safe?”
• “My cousin’s uncle tried that and lost everything.”

“That sounds risky.”

“Real estate is too expensive right now.”

“Why not just stick to your job and play it safe?”

“My cousin’s uncle tried that and lost everything.”

Most of them mean well. But the truth is, most people want to give advice they’ve never earned. They’ve never done a BRRRR, never managed a rental, never dealt with banks or built anything from scratch  but they have an opinion ready to go.

So I’ve been learning to keep my head down, stay focused, and connect with people who are actually in the game. People who’ve done what I’m trying to do. People who can offer real feedback instead of fear.

If you’ve ever felt the same  like you’re moving in a different direction than those around you  just know you’re not alone. I’m here to network, stay accountable, and build something real with people who get it.

Let’s connect. I’m always down to trade knowledge, share deals, or just keep each other locked in.

– Will

Becca Brown · Answer

Totally agree! This concept applies to many walks of life, but property management is especially tough if no one in your circles has experience.

I'm pretty new to rentals too (and BP, haha, hence the lack of presence on here). First gen college grad & no one in my family has any idea how PM works, so I often get well-meaning comments about how I'm gambling with my savings. As other commenters mentioned, there's simply a lack of experience and knowledge. It's rarely malicious, but it is frustrating.

Find a supportive community and lean on them. People on here are great and always supportive, so it seems we're in the right place! Protect your peace too :)

Bruce Woodruff · Answer

I would only share goals with like-minded...and very positive people. Anyone else will just slow you down or derail you entirely! No need for that in any kind of business, especially Real Estate.

Some people just naturally run on fear and negativity.....realize this and treat them kindly. But avoid them like the plague, they are going to be small-thinkers and nay-sayers and they will cause you to question yourself continually.

Once you make your plan, analyze and vette it, then you must just put the blinders on and Go. For. It.

Jaycee Greene · Answer

Hey @William Miller, you've definitely come to the right place to find like-minded people. What type of properties are you seeking, SFR, 2-4 MF, or 5+ MF? What is your price range/down payment amount? Are you looking for turn-key properties or something along the lines of a "fixer upper"? Are you looking for properties in your local market or somewhere else?

Isaiah Hall · Answer

Man, this hits home. You’re spot on, sharing your vision with people who haven’t walked the path can drain the energy, excitement, and momentum fast.

It really does make a difference surrounding yourself with people who are actually in the trenches, taking risks, solving problems, and building long-term. That’s the kind of feedback that helps us grow.

Appreciate you putting this out there — let’s definitely stay connected. What market are you focused on right now, and are you looking for flips, rentals, or something else?

John Morgan · Answer

@William Miller

I can totally relate. My friends, co-workers and family would say things like this to me all the time. Some still do and I’m making 20k/month profit off my rentals. Once they hear that, they’ll say I wouldn’t want to deal with all the headaches you go through self managing 29 SFR. It’s actually pretty easy and I tell them it’s not time consuming at all. I just text someone to go fix things then cash app them the $ when they’re done. Takes like 30 seconds of my time when something breaks. I do all my leases and collect rent online with apartments.com. This isn’t rocket science or some major time consuming side hustle.

I do self manage 10 out of state. I picked a random small town in Arkansas I never heard of and didn’t know anyone there. I bought these homes sight unseen with tenants in place. It’s worked out great. So don’t be scared of investing in a city you’ve never heard of out of state. It’s easy to do. You’ll find handymen and have boots on the ground there to help you before you know it. Good luck!

Rene Hosman · Answer

Glad you came here to help find a supportive community Becca!!

William Miller · Answer

I love the " blinders on and Go! " I feel like that is one thing I need and have been working on! I have fallen in the trap of listening to people who have NEVER done what I'm trying to do.

William Miller · Answer

Appreciate you, man. I’m glad I found this space it’s already helped me shift my mindset and dig into the numbers more seriously. Right now the goal is to build long-term cash flow and eventually replace my 9 to 5 using the BRRRR method. I’m open to SFR or small multifamily (2–4 units), as long as the deal makes sense.

Price range is flexible since I’m planning to either pull equity from one of my current rentals or go the hard money route. I’m definitely leaning more toward fixer-uppers where I can force equity and grow faster  not looking for turnkey unless it’s super strategic.

I’m in California, but I’m planning to invest out of state in more investor-friendly markets, just trying to navigate what that process looks like from a distance. Would love to hear how you’d approach that if you were starting fresh today. Appreciate any tips you’re open to sharing.

Jonathan Wade · Answer

Agreed on so many levels. Glad I'm not alone.

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