How much do you tell?

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Have you ever been in a conversation with someone about the weather or something? Then it turns to how no one can be financially successful today unless you are born rich. So you try to tell a little of your story (but not too much). Soon you find yourself frustrated because you can't convince them that it is possible, in fact very possible to build wealth today. I guess I should have ended or changed the conversation but I genuinely would like to help them. Sorry just a little frustrated. Any thoughts?

They have to be interested and motivated to do something to change their situation. If people show interest or ask questions, I'm always happy to talk about things I've done to be better off. But people, by and large, like to complain, and to those, I have little interest or patience.

There are really two types of people in the workplace I have found. There are those who will say "why does he get to do that, or why does he make more money than me." And then there are the small minority who instead say "how can I get to do that too, or what would I need to do to make more money."

It's that second group I enjoy speaking with, have respect for, and love to help. 

I've learned not to waste too much time talking to those types either. They alway have an excuse or negative comeback when you're letting them know that it's possible but they just have to take action. I have a friend who has the skills and talent to have his own business but he refuses to make the sacrifices and make the leap, instead I have to hear him complain about how he's making his boss thousands of dollars while his boss is away on vacation. It's so frusterating cause you're trying cause you care but you have to just get to a point where you realize it's no use.

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It all depends on who the person is. You cant force anyone to think in a way they dont want to. If it is someone very close  such as family, then you may be able to talk to them a little more direct. Say something like "Hey I'm not sure but I know doing the same thing wont get us there. Im going to a meeting with people who are looking to do better in life, would you like to come? we can get a drink after if its boring" if its more of an aquaintance you may have to show more than say. when they ask you "How did you afford that new car?" you can then explain all the benefits of real estate and help them see a new life that way.

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