First of all... you are doing AWESOME!!!! STRONG FEMALE rocking out the investment world and even in the military. Thank you for your service and for starting in real estate young! I had a baby prior to getting married... baby is great, have another one, finally got married and all is well!
Couple thoughts that may or may not assist. I can not tell you what to do, but I can share my experiences and if something in that helps, well then awesome!
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1) I bought my first home on a 100% financed loan when I was 22. It was 2004. I had no idea what I was doing and figured hey.... zero down, let's get a few more! I had a weird period where all tenants moved out or stopped paying. One tenant actually died (she was 75) so I of course didn't ask for rent... but the family took a month to get things back in order and it took me a few more months to fill it. At the same time, the other units went vacant. All of a sudden I was floating $3K/mo in mortgages plus winter utilities and couldn't so I fell behind (perhaps I didn't have the saving you do). I never caught up and let them go. It took me 7 years until I was able to get traditional financing and I had to rent my personal home for my kids during that time. Not optimal. If I would have waited to save up a little in cash reserves, I might have made it work.
2) I wanted a home badly for my new kids and wife. It's hard to explain how strong that desire was, but I had zonked my shot on an investment home. I wish I had thought of my own family first.... locked up our home THEN looked at investments.
3) I bought silly homes... looking back there was zero reason to buy as rentals. I really had no idea. BiggerPockets was not around so I had SmallerPockets. I wish I had researched a bit more to know what made homes good investments.
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1) Because (like you) I dove in young, I am now 36 and have over a decade of experience. Those couple bad deals, led to me assembling thousands of good ones. Thousands. I have lost on many, won on may but how else do you learn?
2) Because (like you) I was willing to do the dirty work... fix up the homes, find the deals, handle the rent etc etc... I learned how not to do and how to do it. It also gave me huge appreciation for the skilled trades we hire now and for the rolls that go into this business. Now we have a team of 80 W-2 employees plus hondreds of skilled trades... all because I started and just dove in.
3) Because (like you) I had a reason to make it work, I made it all work. When I became committed to something, nothing could stop me. When I "experimented" many things set me back. Being all in changed it all.
In summary, I have had my ups and downs but I love this industry. The more I know, the more I know I don't know the answers. I am excited to see someone entrepreneurial like you asking the right questions and looking to take a risk.
If you wanted my opinion and I was in your boat, I might have got a duplex with the VA loan. If the tenant doesn't pay you can still float the payment and live in the other side, but if they do you are pulling a nice little house hack and living on the cheap. Stay for a year, have the baby... get settled and then start looking to buy the home for you.
I wish you success and a healthy baby!