All Forum Posts by: FR W.

The level of professionalism is astounding (and childish).  Name calling... insults.  Are you the only one who can have an opinion?  Or an idea?  Or a point of view?  

I've always said the worst question a real estate investor can get from someone looking to invest is, "How do I become a real estate investor?" This shows you want the shortest short-cut and don't want to do any work. Also, you will never do what we tell you to do because it's hard, not easy, so...

 So that's it.  You are bigger and better than others.  And you are supposed to be a mentor?  I found a mentor here on BP and he certainly doesn't display such arrogance.  Your post is not about newbies.  It is all about you.  It's about how much better you are, how much longer you been here, your self worth is better than others.  You are so good you are able to help others.  

You clearly wrote in your post about getting something in return for helping.  Is that helping?  I am sure you did in the past and still do but your complaining an condescending tone about newbies is stark and glaring in your post.  You are using your good deed of past to justify your condescending post.  The fact that you find things "hilarious" is your arrogance on display.  Obviously the graciousness has hit a nerve.

Newbies are fragile, that I admit.  And you don't need to thank them for gracing this forum.  Just thank them for being a punching bag. Give you something to write about and feel good about yourself.  Using 'helping' as an excuse to write what you wrote doesn't hide what's (and who's) behind it.  I am sticking my neck out for newbies.  Then again, what do I know.  

I am the problem.  You been here longer.  You are the one helping people.  You get to decide what's hilarious, what 's not.  I am the fragile one.  And surely, my self worth is far below yours. More power to you.   

 FRW, whoever you are you need to take the mentorship position.  Honestly.  Couldn't have said it better.  Somehow I get this feeling your response will not be well taken by the original contributor.  Just a hunch... 

I'm not sure why you posted F R A G I L E, but "do you" whatever it means. 

"You" took offense to what I said clearly since you came back and began your post with F R A G I L E.  I could have started this reply with C H I L D I S H but I didn't.  So, moving on. 

Those of you who have put yourselves on this pedestal because you spend so much time here posting and leaving clapback comments (that was your word, right?), that you've racked up so many votes from those who may not necessarily agree with what you've said, but are too afraid to challenge or add a different view of what you said, are most often the problem.  Your response to my take on your post is a perfect example.  I wasn't negating your post, I was only offering a different view... one that too many face and feel, yet one that not many will speak up on, again, because there are those with "bully" syndrome and this superiority complex who shut them down every time they ask a question. 

You're right, what some call business, I might find rude, because I don't think that there is EVER A TIME OR PLACE FOR RUDE. But there's always, always, always, time to HELP someone who needs it.

And those new investors asking for assistance, maybe they won't see your post with all that "helpful advice" as you call it, because you've posted it in one place - maybe they'll get on here and will be so overwhelmed at first, that they just won't know where to start;  maybe they won't know to jump on here and start searching; maybe they won't know that they have to come to the table with an offer of some kind of help TO GET HELP FIRST (by the way, if you're new and reading this, please know that everyone out there doesn't live in the land of, "If you want my help and advice, what will you do for me?" world - some people live genuinely in service to others and they want to help, without wanting anything in return); maybe the new investor won't know the right questions to ask or how much information they should have, or even HOW to formulate that information into a question worthy of "your" response.

So, I will repeat what I said initially, in case the folks in the back didn't see it the first time:  
Whether asking a question as a new investor or answering as a seasoned
investor, ALWAYS lead with kindness. Being offended or taken aback by
someone's rude response, is not a sign of "fragility," it says that you
are one who would never respond so rudely to someone's simple question.
Stepping into these waters is already an intimidating process. Please
be mindful of the way you respond to questions from those who are not as
seasoned as you might be. Your response just might be the final straw
in someone's attempt to change their life for the better by doing what
others have successfully done before. Lead with kindness. Don't hide
behind a rude response as a way of helping, because you're not. What
you're doing in that moment is ensuring that the person asking the
question won't ask another... and that's not what we want. We're here
to help... not hurt or hinder.

Your wait is over...

Didn't read. TLDR.

I'm not sure why you posted F R A G I L E, but "do you" whatever it means. 

"You" took offense to what I said clearly since you came back and began your post with F R A G I L E.  I could have started this reply with C H I L D I S H but I didn't.  So, moving on. 

Those of you who have put yourselves on this pedestal because you spend so much time here posting and leaving clapback comments (that was your word, right?), that you've racked up so many votes from those who may not necessarily agree with what you've said, but are too afraid to challenge or add a different view of what you said, are most often the problem.  Your response to my take on your post is a perfect example.  I wasn't negating your post, I was only offering a different view... one that too many face and feel, yet one that not many will speak up on, again, because there are those with "bully" syndrome and this superiority complex who shut them down every time they ask a question. 

You're right, what some call business, I might find rude, because I don't think that there is EVER A TIME OR PLACE FOR RUDE. But there's always, always, always, time to HELP someone who needs it.

And those new investors asking for assistance, maybe they won't see your post with all that "helpful advice" as you call it, because you've posted it in one place - maybe they'll get on here and will be so overwhelmed at first, that they just won't know where to start;  maybe they won't know to jump on here and start searching; maybe they won't know that they have to come to the table with an offer of some kind of help TO GET HELP FIRST (by the way, if you're new and reading this, please know that everyone out there doesn't live in the land of, "If you want my help and advice, what will you do for me?" world - some people live genuinely in service to others and they want to help, without wanting anything in return); maybe the new investor won't know the right questions to ask or how much information they should have, or even HOW to formulate that information into a question worthy of "your" response.

So, I will repeat what I said initially, in case the folks in the back didn't see it the first time:  
Whether asking a question as a new investor or answering as a seasoned
investor, ALWAYS lead with kindness. Being offended or taken aback by
someone's rude response, is not a sign of "fragility," it says that you
are one who would never respond so rudely to someone's simple question.
Stepping into these waters is already an intimidating process. Please
be mindful of the way you respond to questions from those who are not as
seasoned as you might be. Your response just might be the final straw
in someone's attempt to change their life for the better by doing what
others have successfully done before. Lead with kindness. Don't hide
behind a rude response as a way of helping, because you're not. What
you're doing in that moment is ensuring that the person asking the
question won't ask another... and that's not what we want. We're here
to help... not hurt or hinder.

Your wait is over...

Whether asking a question as a new investor or answering as a seasoned investor, ALWAYS lead with kindness.  Being offended or taken aback by someone's rude response, is not a sign of "fragility," it says that you are one who would never respond so rudely to someone's simple question.  Stepping into these waters is already an intimidating process.  Please be mindful of the way you respond to questions from those who are not as seasoned as you might be.  Your response just might be the final straw in someone's attempt to change their life for the better by doing what others have successfully done before.  Lead with kindness.  Don't hide behind a rude response as a way of helping, because you're not.  What you're doing in that moment is ensuring that the person asking the question won't ask another... and that's not what we want.  We're here to help... not hurt or hinder. 

Thanks for the tips :)